Consent in clubs?

[Sjmar 141]

Mr and I are planning our first visit to a swingers club next weekend. Very excited! We are interested in "dipping our toes in" by having sex in one of the play rooms, and enjoying others watching us. However, we are concerned with the possibility of someone touching us without consent. I've read that explicit consent before any touching is common practice, but can those of your who attend clubs confirm this? Would love to hear it straight from the horses mouth ;-) thanks!

[Lionheart72 2,191]

In my experience at clubs, consent before touching is absolutely the norm.

 

My wife has literally done a take-all-comers gangbang and people still asked permission before touching... and the club staff played watchdog to make sure she and I were ok with what was going on.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Over the years I can only remember one or two guys that tried to jump in without permission. They were quickly corrected.

 

We have watched far more "tipsy" women get aggressive when it wasn't wanted, especially towards straight females. Corrective action rarely happens when this takes place in our experience.

 

If it were to happen, usually a firm "no thank you" does the trick.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

We have watched far more "tipsy" women get aggressive when it wasn't wanted, especially towards straight females. Corrective action rarely happens when this takes place in our experience.

 

I think the only person I have ever seen who didn't take a polite "no thank you" for an answer was a very drunk single woman, who was ultimately escorted away by club staff.

[Sjmar 141]

This is very reassuring! Now, I guess the other question is, how do folks ask for consent? Lol is it pretty straightforward? "excuse me ma'am, may I suck your tits while your husband is eating your pussy?" Or do random join-ins happen much more in fantasy than reality?

[Lionheart72 2,191]

This is very reassuring! Now, I guess the other question is, how do folks ask for consent? Lol is it pretty straightforward? "excuse me ma'am, may I suck your tits while your husband is eating your pussy?" Or do random join-ins happen much more in fantasy than reality?

 

The most common phrase I've heard is: "may I touch."

 

We've had a few random join-ins during our gang-bang days (that was kinda the point)... and interestingly, the guys usually asked me if they could touch my wife, rather than asking her directly (of course, often she was a little busy). Fortunately, she and I were pretty well in sinc, or managed to communicate well with significant looks and a quick nod.

 

More recently, we haven't had a lot of random join-ins... different club, different crowd, different attitudes. These days we've more often had a number of guys watching and my wife has actively asked them if they wanted to join.

 

I guess what I'm saying is that the random join-in thing really depends on the particular character of the club.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Yes, most people just ask and if your answer is no, they either leave or go back to watching. It will be okay and we expect a report next week.

[Sjmar 141]

Thanks guys! And I will be sure to let y'all know how the night goes ;-)

[ROANJO 39]

My wife only plays with others if they use condoms. Sometimes in orgy rooms at clubs men around us see us doing it bareback and become insistent, same when she gives me a full blow job but does not let others cum in her mouth. Now, touching, feeling, fingering, this is usual, no problems.

[Sjmar 141]

My wife only plays with others if they use condoms. Sometimes in orgy rooms at clubs men around us see us doing it bareback and become insistent, same when she gives me a full blow job but does not let others cum in her mouth. Now, touching, feeling, fingering, this is usual, no problems.

And you've always had consent asked before touching, feeling, fingering? (And to comment on the insistent gentlemen, wtf? What your wife does with you should have nothing to do with what she does or does not consent to with someone else!)

[Sjmar 141]

I promised a report, and I delivered! Oh my GOD! Story in the "first swinging experiences" thread ;-)