Butterflies about first MFM ;-)

[Sjmar 141]

Eeek! So, we've been in the LS for just a few months and so far we have played girl/girl (boys stay with own partner). However.......tomorrow night we are having our first MFM! This was totally my husband's fantasy (although I'm absolutely on board, he's done a good job getting me all hot and bothered about it lol). So I guess I'm just asking- any tips, advice, anything? About calming the butterflies (ladies, maybe telling me how great your mfm experiences have been!), logistics, or any other random advice you want to throw this newbie's way. It's been 8 years since I've touched another cock (and I've never ever had more than one at a time) oh my oh my oh my!

[cpl36996 91]

From a men's point of view our first mfm was out of this WORLD! and if you ask my wife she would say she was in cloud 100. The first hour was finding each other (her and her male partner) likes and comfort zone after that everyone on the bed where relaxed and that's when the real action began. So relax and find your likes and let yourself go! Your hubby will appreciate later your arousal and you...you'll comeback here and tell us about it:-)

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Don't overthink it. Just relax, have fun and remember these wise (and surprising apt) words:

 

"All I can say is that enthusiasm, sincerity, genuine compassion, and humor can carry you through any .. lack of .. prior experience with .. high numerical value."

[CB&DD 219]

Don't have any advice to share but we hope you have a great time.

[jonburt 22]

I (Melissa) would say remember you as the lady are the one who will set the pace here, make sure the guys know what you are comfortable with before things begin. Make sure no one is drunk, and avoid setting goals that are sort of complex... take things as they come and have fun with it.

[ludwig 45]

Just relax and enjoy! Hope you will have a wonderful time.

[Guest]

For my first, I watched a porn movie as I got ready, actually, a couple of them. Picked out a sexy looking cocktail dress that would make me feel confident and my most sexy indie and the evening went great. We met in a nice hotel bar, had a couple of drinks and then the three us went up to a nice room.

[Sjmar 141]

Thanks guys- lol success! I was super nervous (a few glasses of wine helped with that) but once we got started it wasn't nearly as awkward. There were definitely some learning experiences in it, things I would change for a better second experience, but overall it was a lot of fun. Only thing I can't stop laughing about is that DP (which was a big part of the fantasy) never happened- hubby couldn't keep it hard when he was trying to navigate dude's "hairy legs and balls". Lol somehow he hadn't considered beforehand exactly how close they would have to be, and the idea of slapping balls with another guy was just too weird for him. Still chuckling about that one.....

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

LOL, Sjmar!

 

There are several reasons why a DP might not work on any given day, and the one you described is one of 'em! The two guys definitely have to be comfortable with some intimate contact!

 

So, it sounds like you had a great time anyway, which is fantastic. Did you enjoy receiving the attention of two guys at once? Would you like to describe some arrangements that did work for you? For example, the Mrs. and I were at a party last night where women were being fucked while giving a blow job- the "spit roast"!

[Sjmar 141]

CoupleinMD, yes I did very much

[Psyrex 56]

That is great!

As my wife and I are still vetting prospects for our mfm, and I understand that others want details as to how it went but I am curious as to how the events were leading up to the deed(s).

How did you break the ice, so to speak,before you got into full swing?

Thanks and I am so happy for you two and a little jealous.

[EastInWest 1,524]

That is great!

As my wife and I are still vetting prospects for our mfm, and I understand that others want details as to how it went but I am curious as to how the events were leading up to the deed(s).

How did you break the ice, so to speak,before you got into full swing?

Thanks and I am so happy for you two and a little jealous.

 

Mrs. EastInWest and I talked about this post, she's receptive to a "spit roast" scenario but still has a hard time with the idea of a new partner and two men simultaneously. We're wondering as well, where did you find the other M, what led up to the event, etc.

[Sjmar 141]

Well we met through SLS, and he and my husband texted for several days before we decided to meet. Met at a local watering hole, totally vanilla meet up just to get to know each other a little. Just seemed like a really nice, genuine guy, so we decided to go for it! That night, some wine was helpful to loosen me up a bit, and then at one point (maybe an hour in) hubby started to rub the back of my neck and I mentioned that I was overdue for a massage. Our gentleman friend was quick to ask if I wanted a little massage........and it went from there pretty fast!

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Ah, the massage... an excellent icebreaker.

[Sjmar 141]

Ah, the massage... an excellent icebreaker.

 

Hahaha, yes it's a classic. Although I admit that as a massage therapist I wasn't very impressed with his massage skills.......but that's not why I was there, anyway ;-)

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Late to this party, but you already answered your own question. Just always remember that no matter what the question is, the answer is always 'wine'

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

...as a massage therapist I wasn't very impressed with his massage skills.......but that's not why I was there, anyway ;-)

I can hear your thought process- "Yeah, yeah... That's not the right spot... Massaging bones does not feel good, buddy... God, when are you gonna get naked already?"

[Sjmar 141]

Haha yes the answer is always wine! Lol and yes that was a bit of the commentary in my head...he actually was massaging right on my spine :-/ Maybe next time I'll have to give him a massage and show him how it's done....hubby would love watching that!

[GeminiGirl68 23]

I have to chuckle a bit reading all this & recalling my first MFM experience! My SO had heard about my desire & had a friend whom he knew would be up for the task. Got me set up chatting with the guy & I spent an enjoyable evening pretty much torturing the poor guy with my sexting (apparently I have a knack!). The next morning early on, I finally got a response to my last message & basically asked what he was doing & if he wanted to join us in bed? Much to my surprise he said he'd be there in 45 minutes or less.....well, there went my boldness right out the window! When he showed up, he walked into the bedroom stripping down. ...I was hiding my face into my bf ' s chest!! Needless to say, he was already hard, I pretty much dove for it & the rest just fell into place......it was AWESOME!

[Sjmar 141]

Oh my goodness geminigirl68 I'm jealous! Interesting timing because mfm #2 is planned for some Sunday funday tomorrow- I'm hoping now that I'm not so nervous, and now that I'm confident hubby is comfortable and enjoying it, that the chemistry can flow a little easier and I can use the word AWESOME to describe it lol. Also committing to being more vocal about what I do and don't like ;-)

[sexyinakilt 47]

Is MFM #2 with the same man as the first? If it is there should be more of a comfort level there but some butterflies in anticipation of it should be a good thing. Please post a detailed report of how it goes.

[GeminiGirl68 23]

Oh my sweet girl....trust me when I say it took me AWHILE TO get to the point I could say awesome! I was sooooo nervous, but those two had played in tandem before, so they worked hard to keep me occupied to the point I was pretty much mindless! I really hope today goes well for you! Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat privately.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

All righty, Sjmar, it's Monday... So, how'd it go? Tell us everything!

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Yes, we are waiting...(fingers crossed but no pressure)

[DaveScott 15]

that did not happen (No DP) and thats what i was hoping you would tell us nooooooooooo

[Sjmar 141]

Sorry to keep you in suspense, but second MFM has not happened yet lol! Hubby woke up that morning with awful cold symptoms and we canceled :-( and then our M friend was attending a hotel takeover we were going to and we thought we would play that night, but he was shitfaced drunk by the time we even got there, and I had zero interest in playing with somebody who was that intoxicated, we ended up playing with others that night ( See first swinging experiences if you want to hear more!) anyhoo, mfm is to be continued...... :-/

 

(Btw he totally apologize for being drunk, said he never drinks that much and promised it wouldn't happen again lol)