How many people have you slept with?

[Curiouscouple61 64]

Since many in here have well been into swinging for awhile, I imagine the number of partners you have been with has probably gone up quickly. If you include people outside of swinging (college, exes, etc) how many people do you estimate you have had sex with in your lifetime so far?

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

So are you asking how many people have we SLEPT with or had sex with...two totally different numbers

[Curiouscouple61 64]

So are you asking how many people have we SLEPT with or had sex with...two totally different numbers

 

Lol. Okay then, let's say sex partners

[Guest FunintheSnow]

I know mine has at least doubled since entering the LS a few months ago. It's kind of a joke with my husband, because when we married, he'd been with more people than I had--but with me playing with both partners in each couple, plus some other women, I am pretty sure I have caught up. :-)

 

I'm not trying to be coy about my numbers, but I am still not sure what you're counting as "sex"--if a woman had her fingers in me, but I didn't reciprocate, do I count her? What about breast play only? If a guy randomly stuck his fingers in me in a hotel party pool (lovely), do I have to count him?

[Curiouscouple61 64]

Okay, let's say penetrative sex. I don't think fingering counts for this. That's more fooling around. So let's say penetration is required. Cumming isn't necessarily required to count though. If you want to throw in a specific number about blowjobs on the side, I think that's fine. I'm mostly asking about how many people you have gone all the way into full penetrative sex though.

[PeterJ 948]

I'm in my 70th year, as of this past week. When I got (semi)serious about the lifestyle about a decade ago I'd had about a hundred sexual partners all told over 45 years. I suppose I've added another 100 over the past 10 years.

 

For the sake of clarity, I define "sex" to include on only genital intercourse, but substantive engagement with a partner's genitals with my own cock, mouth or hands and vice versa. I wouldn't count someone as a parter if they casually brushed my cock with their hand during an orgy or gave my a momentary suck (or vice versa.) But I do count as sex the few occasions where a woman has straddled my thigh and rubbed herself to orgasm.

[padoc 1,703]

We didn't know there was going to be a test!!!! We started this hobby in 2003. Prior to our meeting, Mrs Doc had 3, I had 9. Those numbers are much higher now and more even :face lick: This probably ought to be an essay question!

[Guest FunintheSnow]

Okay, lets say penetrative sex. I don't think fingering counts for this. That's more fooling around. So lets say penetration is required. Cumming isn't necessarily required to count though. If you want to throw is a specific number about blowjobs on the side, I think that's fine. I'm mostly asking about how many people you have gone all the way into full penetrative sex though.

 

So blowjobs count but f/f oral doesn't? This sounds pretty heteronormative for a post here.

[Curiouscouple61 64]

So blowjobs count but f/f oral doesn't? This sounds pretty heteronormative for a post here.

 

The other counts too. I just threw that out as an example. I'm not excluding anyone I'm just didn't go over all scenarios. I was intending this to just be a fun thing to talk about but I'm feeling like maybe it somehow got complicated. I didn't include male on female oral either, but that is fine to include in that category as well. I'm far from trying to make a heteronormative statement here, I was just attempting to provide an example.

[Guest FunintheSnow]

The other counts too. I just threw that out as an example. I'm not excluding anyone I'm just didn't go over all scenarios. I was intending this to just be a fun thing to talk about but I'm feeling like maybe it somehow got complicated. I didn't include male on female oral either, but that is fine to include in that category as well. I'm far from trying to make a heteronormative statement here, I was just attempting to provide an example.

 

Oops, sorry to be prickly. That'll teach me to post when I'm hungry and annoyed by real-life stuff. :-)

[njbm 2,871]

I kept track in my college years. For our lifestyle years, we are just letting it rip! I said to my wife if you told me I would I have more sex in my 50s while married than I did in my 20s while single, I would not believe it.

[Guest]

3 in high school, 4 in college, 2 in marriage, 13 during post marriage matchdotcom slut days, 22 since remarriage and LS so 44. Wow, more than I expected.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Lots of people are not giving numbers! We've been at this for about two years, so gauge my answer to that. This is a wild-ass guess, but I'd say the number is something like 30 - 50 for me, and 40 - 60 for the Mrs. She had more fun in the early 80s than I did!

[Walterwhite2323 16]

2 each. 1 prior to marriage for each. So just the thought of this is crazy exciting for us.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I have not kept a journal. I'll estimate. A number somewhat greater than one-hundred. For my more-experienced wife, perhaps a greater number.

[kikonkrome 844]

I was guessing 40 - 50 or so...not really going to guess at the wife.

[Guest]

Lots of people are not giving numbers! We've been at this for about two years, so gauge my answer to that. This is a wild-ass guess, but I'd say the number is something like 30 - 50 for me, and 40 - 60 for the Mrs. She had more fun in the early 80s than I did!

 

Kind of like an interview with Bill Clinton (what is or wasn’t sex)

[EastInWest 1,524]

Are we doing weighted averages for non-penetrative sex acts? I was told I would not need calculus for swinging...

 

Here's what we think.

 

Intercourse only:

Mr. EastInWest: 18

Mrs. EastInWest: 6

 

Including oral:

Mr. EastInWest: 23

Mrs. EastInWest: 9

 

We aren't in the lifestyle, but we have each had three partners in one day (in her case, with me egging her on before we were exclusive), so that's out there. In retrospect, neither of us really understand why we were as conservative as we were.

[asncpl 729]

Haven't really thought about it until now that we've been at it for almost 10 years. My estimate is somewhere north of 100, but how far north I can't say. We stop counting a while back, and my memory is not what it used to be.

[Alura 2,774]

The late Mrs. Alura and I did this calculation early in our relationship. She was 25 at the time. I was 40. She totaled up twenty lucky fellows and I lost count when recalling my hippie years in Europe. I mean, it was sex, drugs and rock n roll at the time. Right? The concert at the Isle of Wight was blurry, anyway, but did increase my total a bit.

 

The worst STD could be cured with a shot of penicillin, but we'd both been lucky in that regard.

 

Of course, the body count grew after we started swinging, but we never did the calculations again.

[CostaRica 130]

Somewhere in the region of 80 men and 10 women (although the women weren't penetrative obviously so however you decide to count that). Of those only around 5 men and 5 women were through swinging (though a good deal more were while in an open relationship, say another 10 guys)

 

My husband has me beat by quite a way but we figure seeing as I get to count the men and women I will catch him up eventually.

[Guest FunintheSnow]

Mr. Snow doesn't remember. I was with 11 guys prior to marriage, including him. Since starting swinging late last spring, he has been with five more women and I have been with five men. :-) I have also been with seven women (in this case, I decided to count the ones where at least one of us came).

[Guest FunintheSnow]

My husband has me beat by quite a way but we figure seeing as I get to count the men and women I will catch him up eventually.

 

That's our thinking too.

[older couple 132]

Just no way to count how many we have had sex with in the past 41 years.

[FunOzCouple 40]

Up until the age of 22 (when i first swung) my number was 53. Been swinging for nearly 25 years now and i would say 300 is a very conservative estimate Hubby has notched up around 50 or so during the time. I guess blondes do have more fun!!!

[Jare1998 62]

4 for her, 2 for him....we are very new!

[SAMnTINA 362]

If you are sleeping you aren't doing something right!

[michjosh69 23]

I know mine has at least doubled since entering the LS a few months ago. It's kind of a joke with my husband, because when we married, he'd been with more people than I had--but with me playing with both partners in each couple, plus some other women, I am pretty sure I have caught up. :-)

 

I'm not trying to be coy about my numbers, but I am still not sure what you're counting as "sex"--if a woman had her fingers in me, but I didn't reciprocate, do I count her? What about breast play only? If a guy randomly stuck his fingers in me in a hotel party pool (lovely), do I have to count him?

 

 

How did you manage to do that haha? I'm jealous. I'm new to this and am just curious

 

 

Good job beating your man though!

[michjosh69 23]

3 in high school, 4 in college, 2 in marriage, 13 during post marriage matchdotcom slut days, 22 since remarriage and LS so 44. Wow, more than I expected.

 

 

How did it work out in high school? haha and what does post marriage dotcom slut days mean? Would love to know you guys definitely!

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

I just had my 44th this weekend. However, this figure does not include some house parties or clubs, where I may have had as many as 10 in one night and I have simply lost count.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

Just swinging? 6 I think

[EastInWest 1,524]

I guess our revised count is in order:

 

Intercourse only:

Mr. EastInWest: 20 (2 from swinging)

Mrs. EastInWest: 9 (3 from swinging)

 

Including oral:

Mr. EastInWest: 25 (2 from swinging)

Mrs. EastInWest: 13 (3 men, 1 woman from swinging)

[larry818 58]

I used to keep a journal but lost interest at around 30. I wish I had kept it up, I wrote notes about each encounter that are fun to read now. I'm probably at around 200 now (I've been a swinger for 30 years). The thrill of the hunt is gone, tho, so I've considerably slowed these days.

[Guest]

This exercise is a bit “biased” against women. I mean, You do an MFM, each guy did one but the lady has to add two. And even just a little GB and your number jumps 5 or so.

[couplers 4,640]

I'm in a poly family and we have a lot of good sex, but my number of different partners is low - five guys and six women (I got into girls once I became comfortable with hubby playing). I now live with two of the guys and two of the women, and we girls share one outside boyfriend as well. So although I haven't had many different partners, we've swapped around among the same group a bit.

[Tahoecple 319]

We've been in this for some time and I can tell you that if you sleep with a woman that want's to have sex you're not going to be invited back again. So to answer your question I haven't slept with any of them, but I've had sex with a lot of beautiful women while watching my wife having sex with even more men than I've had other women.

[SAMnTINA 362]

If your sleeping with them you are not doing something right>

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

All y’all seem to be pretty good at arguing semantics. I have had overnight stays with play partners - not that much sleep happened.

 

So is the question actually whether or not you’ve ever stayed overnight with a swing acquaintance?

[EastInWest 1,524]

This exercise is a bit “biased” against women. I mean, You do an MFM, each guy did one but the lady has to add two. And even just a little GB and your number jumps 5 or so.

 

Or "in favor", depending on how you look at it.

[BabeAndApe 70]

Well, we're new, so... two. My high-school sweetheart and fiancée of five years; and Babe, my lady of 20 years and wife of 17 years. For Babe: 8 to date. Four before marriage; since then its been myself and three very lucky gentlemen who have joined us for several bouts of MFM play over the past few years. With single men we prefer not to see the same one too regularly. It can get weird. Its one of the reasons we're looking at couples. Having other couples we date over time is more ideal. Oddly, my own fantasies lean more towards being surrounded by sexy women who are fawning over me and titillating me more than they involve having sex with other women. I also like making women cum repeatedly with oral and tools. Its what makes me hot. Don't get me wrong, I plan to have some sex if there is chemistry, but... its not the main thing I fantasize about.

[BabeAndApe 70]

Or "in favor", depending on how you look at it.

 

Indeed!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I could not begin to estimate.

[Fi86 78]

I don't count, it can be impossible to keep track at gangbangs and greedy girl nights anyway.

 

Before I was 18 and starting swinging regularly I'd had sex with 16 guys and 2 girls.

 

After 13 years of swinging attending parties, meeting couples online, shagging friends and their friends, and the occasional gangbang... God knows.

 

Say 40-50 men and 10-20 women a year, so average 60 py. 13 years, plus those before... Shit that would be around 800!

 

I'm not totally sure about that it's probably a bit less. I'm sure it's over 500.

 

Christ I hadn't tried to work this out for years this is actually a small surprise. I definitely feel like a slut now!

[Newcouple17 101]

A few weeks ago 1, now 5 men.

Hubby was 3 and now 6.

[Numex 2,416]

I could not begin to estimate.

 

All the more reason to estimate. Please do your best. Thank you.

[couplers 4,640]

Say 40-50 men and 10-20 women a year, so average 60 py. 13 years, plus those before... Shit that would be around 800!

 

I'm not totally sure about that it's probably a bit less. I'm sure it's over 500.

 

Christ I hadn't tried to work this out for years this is actually a small surprise. I definitely feel like a slut now!

 

Why should you feel like anything is amiss? Say you married at 18 as a virgin and were having sex with the same guy all the time. You would have probably fucked the same number of times, maybe more since he's always there, just the same guy. So what difference does it make? People just trying to make girls feel bad.

[PeterJ 948]

I’ve been sexually active for 55 years, starting in the early years of the so-called sexual revolution. About thirty years ago I took an inventory of weomen I’d had sex with at least once. I kept remembering additional partners. When the number got over 100 I stopped the exercise. I’d only had a bit of swinging experience at that point, an MFM with a couple who were friends and before that an MFMF with my then wife and the woman who 16 years (and after a second marriage)became my forever wife. I’ve never again tried to count the total, but all told I expect the number is approaching 200. On average that’s a bit less than four new partners per year. Of course since I started swinging most years have had more than my overall average.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

How about: not as many as I would have liked to, but more than I probably want to admit to a room full of people.

[Tncuple 21]

I would say 50-60 for me, at least 3 times that many for the Mrs. At parties she can go all night and likes to have different men. After a while I end up watching or resting.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

I feel like a prude compared to others. As of last weekend, I am up to 50 men (a nice round number, but true). However, this excludes encounters at parties, where I may have up to eight or nine or ten men in one night. I would probably have to add many more men to my tally if I included them, and I can only guess how many. My husband has had only 19 women.