What would you do?????

[Naughty In NH67 24]

Help I have a Problem.. So we received an email ( I don't know what site she found us on) from This Lady Gina.. She was close in age, and lived close.. So we Exchanged PG Pics, they chose to cover their faces as well ( which I respected) Now mind you EVERY ad or web page I have always said we are very new to the Lifestyle ( Still looking for our first Full-swap).. Anyway we decided on Meeting tonight.. THAT'S when the crazy started.. We were meeting at a local watering hole.. BUT they didn't want to eat dinner with us.. Next I get a Email this morning saying they would like more explicit photo's before we meet... I didn't send them, but her Next request was Her Husband didn't want to come to meet us.. She wanted us to Follow her to Their house. and Me have sex with Some man I Have Never even Met, I am all for No Friendship But this is a Bit Extreme.. Am I wrong for wanting to call it off??? This is My 1st Time Full-swapping I guess maybe I would like to at least meet them before...

[funcoupledayton 2,710]

I would just reply, "Sorry, I don't think it's going to work out."

 

I would not engage them any further. This may be a bait and switch type thing, general flakiness or drama. You don't need it and it's not worth it.

 

When we started we went to someone's house without meeting in public. It was a very bad experience and later we learned the husband was a dangerous individual.

 

Have you considered going to an event like a meet and greet or a club?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

Just walk away. For something that smells fishy, do not feel bad about simply saying, "sorry". And to echo what funcoupledayton say, going to a meet-n-greet event is a safer and more effective way to meet people. You can find listing of such events at legitimate swingers' Web sites like SLS.

[Naughty In NH67 24]

Ok Ok I guess I didn't listen because after I wrote this post I Texted her and said Thanks but no thanks.. well she texted me back later and Apologized and asked if we would at least meet them for dinner, which we said yes... Well come to find out they are just as new as we are and they had no clue how to go about it.. We went Back to their place, started playing and the other Male was having issues, but I allowed My other 1/2 to still finish with her.. But it was kind of a let down.. Oh well onto the next one..

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Call it off. Sounds a little creepy. Wait for another opportunity.

[Lionheart72 2,192]

Ok Ok I guess I didn't listen because after I wrote this post I Texted her and said Thanks but no thanks.. well she texted me back later and Apologized and asked if we would at least meet them for dinner, which we said yes... Well come to find out they are just as new as we are and they had no clue how to go about it.. We went Back to their place, started playing and the other Male was having issues, but I allowed My other 1/2 to still finish with her.. But it was kind of a let down.. Oh well onto the next one..

 

Interesting. Sometimes, I guess what sounds fishy is just nerves. It's good that it worked out in the end, even if it didn't work out as well as you'd hoped. It sounds to me like you have the right attitude... onward. Good fortune to you in your next attempt.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I hope this odd and somewhat disappointing first experience didn't sour you two on the swinging lifestyle. Get back on the horse, and try again! Maybe next time, you could meet a more experienced couple, and if you all hit it off, they could guide you a little bit. Good luck, and have fun!

[81lizard 17]

This just proves that swinging is a very intimate leap of faith when you start out to find a new mate. On our first outing we went to the pre swinger meeting at a local club went to the event , just mingled went home answered a add on Aff went to diner twice met with a group just had oral sex and waited two months before we tried again. It took a lot of positive reassuring and patience to reach out and be touched. We seem to forget how vulnerable the start is and are quick to judge harshly our prospects.

[kikonkrome 845]

I always think that if something weird is happening it's happening for a reason. In this case pretty obvious she was into it and he wasn't. Regardless of nerves who wants to have sex with somebody that doesn't have your interest at heart? Only wants it one way, what kind of lover are they going to make.

 

In this case and in most of the cases we have seen they don't make very good lovers.

 

I would say next time walk away.

[GoldCoCouple 4,072]

Life is too short for crazy. Warning signs should always be obeyed since rarely does things get better later. Run, don't walk, and find yourself a better match.