Curious to know how many people truly orgasm when they swing?

[MarniJohn 172]

I feel this site attracts some pretty hard core swingers. Many are the type of swingers we all yearn to become. There's almost no jealousy and most people seem genuinely happy to watch their significant other enjoy themselves.

 

What I am wondering is how often you actually reach orgasm while swinging? Is it most of the time? My husband is pretty hard core but rarely cums with other women. I do on occassion but definitely more often I do not. I enjoy the sex but don't climax.

 

Is this normal?

[kikonkrome 844]

I come almost everytime!! I don't consider us that hard core? My wife doesn't have a hard orgasm although she tells me she has some small ones.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Good question. I'd say about 25% of the time for me, maybe 50% of the time for her. That's a rough estimate. If we're feeling the need we'll have sex with each other later and get our release.

[intuition897 2,179]

Great question! We've been on hiatus for many years. When we were into it before, although Mr. intuition had no trouble reaching orgasm, I never did. Did I enjoy it? Hell yes, but I couldn't relax enough with a new partner to "get in the zone" long enough to get there. But that was okay, it was all about the experience of exploring a new person.

 

Fast forward to today: we're back at it again, and during our time away we've been busy learning some new tricks. Turns out I'm something of a squirter. A g-spot orgasm is a whole different animal. It's much more mechanical and the only thing you have to do to achieve one is to get of your own way by relaxing and letting your body do its thing. It's almost a reflex. So if I've got some good chemistry going on with my swing partner, he better hope he brought some rain gear. And maybe a mop.

 

I think as I've matured, I'm not only better able to relax, but more inclined to ask for what I want, too. So this new confidence means I don't need so much time to get in the groove. I think I'd still not be able to achieve a clitoral orgasm through oral or whatever, but I think it's not a reflection on my partner's abilities. It's still me needing to feel some level of comfort with my partner that's difficult to develop after only just meeting them.

 

I don't think I'm ever going to find anyone to make my eyes roll back in my head like Mr. intuition does. The man knows how to play me like a fiddle.

[Sophy 569]

To date, I have orgasmed every time, different intensity of course and different amount of times as well, all depending on the situation and/or play-partner.

[Guest]

Hubby does, I think about every time. I’m probably more at half time or a little more. Certainly, some of it may be on the amount I had to drink that particular night. Part of it certainly depends on what activities the person I am with performs and how well he performs them. But, either way, it’s most always fun.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I (Mr CoupleInMD79) may not reach the mountaintop every single time, but I have an orgasm most every time. The Mrs reaches the promised land, big Os or little Os, nearly every time as well.

[CostaRica 130]

Both hubby and I multiple orgasm, and both of us have one specific type of orgasm that is our "phew, ok I'm done" orgasm. So I've orgasmed with almost all of my play partners, but I generally only have the big one with people I'm a little more comfortable with as I generally reach that through self clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

[JandKinBoise 858]

She has many orgasms, I never do. That's by plan. I'm more of the 'enjoy the voyage' type rather than the destination. I like leaving an event still being really turned on and anticipating getting her alone.

[MarniJohn 172]

I appreciate the honest responses. I almost always enjoy when we swap but can't say having an orgasm is happening most of the time. It has on occasion, but we always end the night together so I wonder if we don't hold back to ensure this...

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I know more than one woman who arrives at an event reasonably certain the she will not have an orgasm but also reasonably certain that she will enjoy good sex. I know other women who have an orgasm almost immediately after being touched in certain places.

 

As for myself, I do not view orgasm as a goal in and of itself. On one or two occasions a woman had accused me of purposefully "holding back". I assure them that this is not true. One in particular takes this as a challenge. She will work on me until it happens, one way or another. Well, that's fun too.

 

OK, to answer your question, finally, I pop my cork about half the time.

[oc1234 435]

My wife and I do MMF threesomes, mainly with a very longterm male friend. My wife has multiple orgasms every time and I have an orgasm almost all the time. Our friend often doesn't but he still enjoys the playtime.

[Alphabetty 21]

I'm a rather shy orgasmer at the best of times. I had one play partner who was so focused (almost obsessed) on making me orgasm that I felt rather uncomfortable.

 

I enjoy sex, I don't need to arrive at a destination.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

For us, it isn't about the orgasm so we don't use that to keep score. It's difficult for Ms. Gold to get out of her head and have an orgasm...and the same can be said about me at times. That doesn't make it any less fun or sexy or exciting, however.

[NWAtlSwing 522]

Usually she does not cum, and he does. She will cum in a 69 with him, while getting fucked from behind with one specific guy, but that is it. She may cum in seperate room swaps, with the right cpl.

[Baconheads 432]

Yeah, we always did... We were soft though.

[PeeTWheatstraw 122]

Normally, I orgasm every time I swing. I do recall a couple of times when I tried to play with several partners without reaching an orgasm but I discovered that I would much rather play with fewer people and have multiple happy endings, than to play with more people and have one happy ending at the end of the night. At a lot of the parties that are open to single men, I noted that this is a very common practice.

[johnandlingf 25]

I always manage to orgasm although manage is the wrong word as I am usually trying hard not to. Wife when we first started always did. One of sometimes two. Now she is multi orgasmic through being able to relax with her partner.

[TricianMike 774]

I orgasm some of the time. I think it depends on my mood and my attraction. There are times it doesn't take much but other times it just won't happen. Most of the men I have been with will cum if they are hard. Some just finish before I'm ready. Mike has told me he cums when he is ready. He won't cum with every woman because he knows he only has 2 or maybe 3 times in a day.

I must say some men I have been with just don't get me there.

[AngelandTiger 364]

We both do virtually every time. Of course, Angel is a heavy squirter and can orgasm on demand without being touched or touching herself... It's pretty hot to watch when she's in the mood to demonstrate......

 

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[Jane1902 476]

I easily orgasm multiple times. My partners have not noticed but I do keep my guard up at parties as I have had too many run ins with the creepy guys so I tend to have more intense and better sex 1:1. One of my partners said he finds the 1:1 better too (even after another woman joined us at the last party)

[Numex 2,420]

Having sex with other people gets us both really excited, and as a result we both almost always cum several times and intensely.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Mrs. E will tell you she could cum during an airport screening if it went on long enough. I've not seen her not have multiple obvious orgasms if she's being penetrated, although they're rarely huge ones. From receiving oral, it's probably 50/50. Sometimes she's really engaged with that, other times it's just foreplay.

 

I'd say probably 75% of the time, if I'm hard, I'll finish. Other times, I get sidetracked or wear myself out and am just done, even though I'm not "done".

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Not always, tho at least half the time. I dabble in Tantric sex and usually edge when with partners. So, there are many times I don't ejaculate & miss that part of the orgasm. If I edge enough times & at least one time is intense enough I'll hit a level of post orgasmic satisfaction. I'm all 63 years old & use Sildenafil to keep the erection consistent, which helps extend the sex.

 

When I was in my twenties I knew nothing of technique, but i could recover my erection several times after full orgasms during five or six hours at a party.

[PaCouple8585 19]

I’ve never had a problem getting an orgasm but the very first time with 4 of us in the room I had a hard time staying up with the other guy in the room even though I found it extremely hot seeing my wife with someone else. My wife took a little bit to let herself relax full but doesn’t have a problem getting one now.

[Judy39 145]

I don't orgasm every time, swinging or not.

[cplnluv1 872]

We have met many newbies. To us it is more important for the woman in the couple we meet to enjoy. I can’t say I always orgasm

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

If my partner knows what he is doing, I do climax almost every time. Sometimes, if we do not know each other well, I do need to coach him a little about my likes and dislikes. I have learned not to be shy about communicating my desires.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

... I have learned not to be shy about communicating my desires.

 

Appreciate people who can easily communicate this. Its not always easy to get this intimate.

[BabeAndApe 70]

Babe does; Ape doesn't.

 

Caveat: Babe needs oral or toys to cum.

 

Caveat: Babe knows how to make ape cum and gets him off afterward.

 

I get off on getting ladies off. That's what makes me hot. I plan to coax it out of them when we flirt and during foreplay.

 

After all, I'm not a telepath. They're going to have to tell me!

[Newcouple17 101]

Obviously we haven't got anything really to compare with, but yes we both did......more than once!

[PSULioness 857]

My husband and I discuss this after each time we have been with others. He says that he will orgasm some time during our play. If we are just one on one with a couple or a play partner he will orgasm with who ever he is with when he is ready. If we are with a guy friend in a threesome he sometimes will leave me and the friend alone and come back later. I always bring him to orgasm after. At parties we attended he will not cum with everyone. He has pretty good control and knows he has to rest after he cums. He will orgasm a few times during a party.

I usually orgasm but not with everyone. At parties I will orgasm with a guy as long as he doesn’t go to fast himself. A second orgasm comes easier than a first. Orgasm after that are hit or miss. I have found when I am with a girlfriend I easily cum from female oral play. I think I react differently with female play.

[couplers 4,652]

Our poly family and two other play partners all know each other well: the spots, the timing, the pace, intensity, so each of us makes the other cum nearly always. The guys sometimes twice, the girls sometimes more.

[Fi86 78]

I orgasm 95% of the time. And I always make sure any guys I'm with cum.