Ladies....Big Dick Help

[soccermomzready 17]

My wife had her first and only encounter so far last spring. She really enjoyed his large penis. The size issue doesn't bother me as long as she's happy. We do have a good marriage and sex life but she would like to experience a well-endowed man on a regular basis. I've been told it is almost impossible to find a well-endowed man to be a FWB to a wife on an on-going basis and that they are usually one and dones. Is this perception true? Thank you.

[angelkin 1,326]

I don't suppose the size of a man's member makes him any more or less suitable or interested in such an arrangement. When you heard that well-endowed men are one and dones, was there any explanation given?

 

I had a friend who was a regular third who was well-endowed...never seemed to be any issue with him.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I'd have to agree that I don't think the more well-endowed someone is the less likely they are to have regular playtime. Chemistry really trumps everything I think...doesn't matter what size dick he has, if there is great chemistry, both are going to want to keep coming back for more.

[NerdsAreFun 226]

In swinging circles or at a club a bigger guy is likely to have more initial demand/options. But yeah chemistry is a bigger factor. If everybody has a good time there's more likely to be a 2nd time.

[padoc 1,703]

We were regular attendees at a club in the northeast for years. They would periodically have a contest where they would put a sheet up on stage. The sheet has a number of waist high holes and guys would get behind it slip their dicks through the hole and women would try to identify the guy only by his dick. It was a lot of fun and Mrs Doc got to work a lot of penises to erections! One guy was absolutely HUGE, garnered a lot of attention, and got a lot of play time. Interesting though, he seldom got replays with any of the ladies we know, in fact, as time went on, he got fewer and fewer opportunities and eventually disappeared from that club all together. The consensus was that he had no personality or finesse and simply got hard and pounded away until he came. The ladies had begun to refer to him not by name but instead called him simply, "the dick". Size probably does matter at least initially, but if that's all the guy brings, dick dimensions rapidly loses its attraction.

[Bob250 74]

I have a large dick, I'm single and I'm respectful so I have a lot more initial options than perhaps other guys do, plus I have had a number of "return engagements" in the past. I think that what you are describing has less to do with the guy, and more to do with the perception that size trumps other considerations. Some people expect that if you have a big wang, you are some kind of sexual miracle worker, and can produce Orgasms on demand. An example is a married woman from PA that I played with, who basically laid back, and did the minimum. She even told me to "do my stuff" and expected me to rock her world without her putting forth much effort. A big dick isn't a magic wand.

[padoc 1,703]

"A big dick isn't a magic wand" was exactly our point, Mrs Doc's perspective on "the Dick" and why you have return engagements. Good sex requires mutual participation and it does work both ways. We met a couple once (and only once!!), the guy was very good and Mrs Doc had a wonderful time. The woman, on the other hand, was the most singularly uninspired boink EVER, including both swinger and vanilla women.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We met a couple once (and only once!!), the guy was very good and Mrs Doc had a wonderful time. The woman, on the other hand, was the most singularly uninspired boink EVER, including both swinger and vanilla women.

We have met and played with a couple like this, too. The guy and my Mrs had fun on our first play date, but the woman seemed so uninspired that it made me wonder whether she was doing it just to please her husband. I really did not enjoy the experience (and everything I saw suggested that she did not enjoy herself, either). We were not particularly interested in getting together with this couple again, but then we saw them a while later at a party. The woman suggested that we all head upstairs to play, and though I was a bit skeptical as to our prospects for enjoyment, I figured that she might be feeling more enthusiastic this time, since she was the one who suggested playing. We agreed to go play, with me trying to be fair-minded, thinking that maybe she'd just had a bad day the first time. Well, the second try was just as bad as the first, with her giving no indication that she was enjoying the experience.

 

How does this tie in with the OP's question? The bottom line is that simply having a certain kind of equipment is only a small part of the equation. Being respectful, engaging, considerate, sensitive, skilled, and interesting means much more!

[NerdsAreFun 226]

Yeah, though if all else is equal, bigger is better. To a point. The monster ones > 10" can be overwhelming/painful/cumbersome.

[cpl36996 91]

I know my wife would be intrigued to try someone but that would be as far as she would go. She would rather have someone normal size but knows how to use it. Girth would make her hapier!

[gisade 20]

My wife isnt a size queen by any stretch but given the choice she does tend to pick those who are larger. Not monstrously large, just bigger than average

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

My wife isnt a size queen by any stretch...

 

[Guest]

I had a 9” one once and ok, I went a little crazy over it but it’s not like, that’s what I’m looking for now. Sure, some are longer, some are shorter, some are thicker and some are more thin. Dad was a carpenter, but it had mostly hand tools, maybe a circular saw, others had big electric saws that they had to unload and set up. Dad always said, it’s not about how many tools you have or how big they are, it’s all about how well you use them.