What do you say in your first message to people you want to swing with?

[kikonkrome 844]

What do you use for an opening email to people you are interested in online?

 

My goto is something like...

 

'Hey read your profile and thought it was interesting!

 

We are a friendly, outgoing professional couple having fun with this.

 

Take a look at our profile and let us know if there is any interest.

 

Good luck on here, and in the life style'

 

 

What do you think?

 

What do you use?

 

What have you found successful that people like?

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We use a variation of the same thing. Short, polite, and see if they are interested in us. No need to waste a bunch of time if they aren't. Then we rather quickly ask to meet for a vanilla dinner and see if there is a connection. Why waste a bunch of time if it isn't going to work for one (or more) of us...

[kikonkrome 844]

I think I will also add a line about how long we've been doing this. That way people have better idea about experience/safety level. Just received one like that and thought it was a good idea.

[Scaredstiff 129]

We are very upfront about our lack of experience and we get a few knock backs because of it , fair enough,I suppose some people don't want to risk potential drama.

 

We make a conscious effort to be polite but not too formal , some of our first messages out were way too formal sounding looking back on it, the conversation almost turned into a literature contest and never got naughty lol

[kikonkrome 844]

We are very upfront about our lack of experience and we get a few knock backs because of it , fair enough,I suppose some people don't want to risk potential drama.

We make a conscious effort to be polite but not too formal , some of our first messages out were way too formal sounding looking back on it, the conversation almost turned into a literature contest and never got naughty lol

 

Literature contest, hilarious!!

 

It's always a bit of a play it by ear, especially with people that are new to this. We have just been let down by so many people that are 'all hat and no cattle' talk a big game but let us down.

 

I think if you assured people you intend to meet and don't play coy, they would respond favorably. That's our primary indicator.

[Scaredstiff 129]

I think for people like us looking for that first experience it's very easy to be put off by something trivial, I suppose were looking for that perfect couple, not too fit , not too fat , they need to be normal lol though we're pretty sure everybody has a different concept of what "normal" is. It all ends up adding tension to what is already a nervous proposition for people in our position, I think a lot of the people perceived as time wasters are just nervous like us , but yeah they do waste a lot of time

[kikonkrome 844]

I think for people like us looking for that first experience it's very easy to be put off by something trivial, I suppose were looking for that perfect couple, not too fit , not too fat , they need to be normal lol though we're pretty sure everybody has a different concept of what "normal" is. It all ends up adding tension to what is already a nervous proposition for people in our position, I think a lot of the people perceived as time wasters are just nervous like us , but yeah they do waste a lot of time

 

I think it's a part of 'testing the water'. I mean anything new is learned and mistakes get made. Blow off this couple, reply incorrectly, that guy really isn't into it. That's kinda what makes new people tricky to play with.

 

It takes a bit to get comfortable with the unknown, until it's a known.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I think that saying you found somebody's on-line profile to be interesting is too terribly obvious. If you had not found it interesting, you would not have bothered to write.

 

We go for the short and sweet, "We'd like to meet you. Let's make a plan."

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

Make it brief, make it honest, make it personal...

 

"Dear ..." seems not quite right, does it?

 

A common approach is

 

Greetings!

 

We happened across your profile (or "we noticed that you browsed our profile").

 

Your comments about (something in the profile) resonated with us. We share that perspective..or .. Tell us about the cruise that you mentioned...or...We are also Harley fans...or ...

 

Please have a look at our profile. Let us know if you would be interested in continuing the conversation.

 

All the best,

 

B and T

 

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A couple of notes.

 

Should you decide to open a gallery for them, tell them so in the note ("We opened one of our galleries for you so you can see who we are.") SLS does not make it obvious that additional galleries are opened. Even if just a G-rated gallery with faces, it lets the other couple know that there is some genuine interest.

 

Refresh your profile regularly. They will look. Remember that it's a dating site. Spelling and grammar matter in the first note and in the profile. Make the extra effort, as there is never a second chance to make that first impression.

[kikonkrome 844]

I think that saying you found somebody's on-line profile to be interesting is too terribly obvious. If you had not found it interesting, you would not have bothered to write.

 

Duh...Never thought of that!! Might be re-wording that bit.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Since we decided on going to a club we've been messaging people that have left reviews for the club , asking them about their thoughts on the place.

Since doing this our profile is in meltdown , we're getting so many messages we can't keep up , quite a few want to meet and some will be there on the night we are attending, I guess it helps when there's a common discussion interest but what I find weird is that we weren't flirting with these people , just asking for info but now they seem to be very heavily flirting with us lol