What's the difference between Hedonism in Jamaica and Desire in Mexico?

[mingfinn1 18]

We are a newbie couple and trying to figure out with what we would be comfortable. Would you recommend one resort over another?

[Guest]

Both large areas where you can be nude. Both are fun. Hedo, lots of single males. Desires, only couples, classy, more expensive, much smaller, 50 or so rooms I’m thinking. Food, drinks, entertainment much nicer. Cleaner, nice rooms, like little cottage houses, just 4 to a building. Desires, large hot tub, like pool size, with bar and stools in the hot tub. A major gathering place. Hedo, several smaller tubs I believe. Hedo is a younger group. Desires, a bit more mature group, most times.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

This is a good question, and one that the Mrs an I faced as newbies ourselves. It's also a question that can result in some passionate disagreement from time to time! We have been to Desire twice, and although we've not been to Hedo, we've read up on it and seen a lot of discussion.

 

So, the Desire resorts (Desire Riviera Maya and Desire Pearl) are clothing-optional throughout, while Hedo has two sections- one that is clothing-optional (Hedo people call that the "prude side"), and one where nudity is actually enforced (the "nude side"). Hedo people say that the nude side is the fun side, whereas the prude side can be a little sleepy. I will say from personal experience that almost all of the guests at Desire Riviera Maya tend to be nude almost all the time anyway, weather permitting, though a few guests will wear clothes (women in suit bottoms or, on rare occasions bottoms and tops).

 

While these resorts are "lifestyle-friendly", there's no actual rule that you have to be a swinger to attend. On any given day, at any of these resorts, there will be everything from hardcore swingers, to people dipping a toe and unsure whether swinging is for them, to people who have no intention of swapping but like the sexy atmosphere, to open minded nudists.

 

The age range at these resorts varies widely, and you're likely to find 25 year olds and 75 year olds at any of these resorts on any given week. But my general impression that the youngest average age is going to be at Hedo, the next older average at Desire Riviera Maya, and the oldest at Desire Pearl. But these guesses are only very rough estimates, and I bet you can find great people to spend time with at any of these resorts.

 

The Desire resorts allow couples only to attend, while Hedo permits single guests. Some people say that this creates a somewhat more "predatory" environment in the hot tub at Hedo. But I will also say that swingers in general are a respectful and considerate lot, and any misbehavior by a bad apple would probably bring a group response coming to the defense of a person who felt they were being pressured.

 

Another issue that you may be considering is the factor of how much swinging activity takes place at each resort. My impression of the relative "playfulness" of Desire vs Hedo is that, on average, Hedo is more active than the Desire resorts when it comes to people playing with other guests. But again, that is a gross generalization. How much swapping activity there is at one of these resorts is completely dependent on the particular crowd that is there on any given day. We went to Desire Riviera Maya one late October and found a lot of swapping going on. We went again near Valentines Day, and found very little swinging activity (in fact, many guests were "shocked, I say SHOCKED, that there was SWINGING going on at the resort!). That said, ranking the resorts on the "playful" scale, I would estimate that Hedo is the most active, followed by Desire Riviera Maya, followed by Desire Pearl.

 

In terms of amenities, quality of the facilities, the food, and the service, there are rabid fans of both Desire and Hedo who claim with religious fervor that "their resort" is clearly superior to the other! Your mileage may vary. Personally, I think Desire is good on all these fronts, but would have no trouble going to Hedo, either.

 

So, which is best for you? It depends on what you are looking for.

 

If you want to "dip a toe" in the lifestyle, one of the Desire resorts may be your thing. I really recommend Desire Riviera Maya, as it's a little smaller than Pearl, and seems to have higher occupancy. Our visit one morning to Pearl left us thinking it was a bit of a ghost town, and we've heard stories of people starting their vacation at Pearl, then asking to move to Riviera Maya because things were kinda boring at Pearl.

 

If you are looking for a higher likelihood of having opportunities to play with others, and don't mind the idea of having single guys around, then Hedo seems like a better bet. After two trips to Desire Riviera Maya, the Mrs and I decided that the resort was a little "sleepy" for our taste. So we will probably not go back unless we can go when there's more of a lifestyle crowd at the resort.

 

Another thing you can do to try to match your trip with your particular preferences is to look for travel groups who are organizing a trip to one of the resorts, and book through a group that suits your preferences. Much as I hate to send you to another site, you may find information about some of these groups at Adult Travel Forum..

 

I want to close by reassuring you that any of these resorts will be a fun and safe place to choose for a first lifestyle vacation. At all of these places, you can feel free to engage in play or not, talk to the people you like, not talk to those you don't like, and say no to anything that you are not comfortable doing. You will not find a more friendly, open, relaxed, and fun group of fellow travelers than those you meet on a swinger vacation. Good luck, and I know you're going to have a great time!

[mingfinn1 18]

thanks everyone!

[njbm 2,863]

Been to both. All comments so far hit it on head. As Couple in Md points out, going with a group is a good idea. If you go on your own and groups do a takeover, you will feel left out.

 

If you want to play, Desire RM. Classy, relaxed vacay, Desire Pearl. Save a little moolah, ok with single males, Hedo. We liked the Bliss cruise best, though.

[YoungSwingersWk 35]

We have been to all three resorts.

 

Hedonism is the largest with 280 rooms.

Desire RM has 114 rooms.

Desire Pearl has 89 rooms.

 

Desire RM and Hedonism are very similar as far as quality.

 

Desire Pearl is the best quality, but it is very quiet and not much partying.

 

7 Mile Beach at Hedonism is one of the top beaches in the world with crystal clear water.

 

The beach at Desire hardly gets used as it is very narrow.

 

Being that we run Young Swingers® Week at Hedonism I am not going to go deeper than these obvious points.