Went to club for 1st time

[PDXsoftcouple 19]

Hello all,

 

My wife and I, late 20s, had talked about swinging in the past, mostly just her wanting a threesome with a woman when we would go out drinking. We never acted on these talks, but it was a frequent enough sex talk that we researched swinging and found a club near us.

 

So we had a date night planned, normal dinner and theater show, and after the show my wife said she wanted to dance. Not knowing any of the other local bars, I suggested we try the club with the boundaries that we wouldn't play with other couples, just watch and play with each other.

 

We were dressed to the 9s for our date, so my wife was looking especially attractive in her short black dress. We got to the club, and the receptionist greeted us kindly, telling us we both look amazing, and that the club was a little "slow" tonight, so she would wave the membership fees and just charge us door fees. "Slow" was an understatement. There were no more than a dozen other couples there, and a few single males, but no real activity, and nobody really our age or close to it. We saw one couple close to our age, but being shy we didn't approach them, but watched as the female danced in the cage (no panties on, which was SO HOT!). My wife was aroused and intrigued by this, and I was expecting some jealousy from her for me watching as well, but she supported it.

 

I only had a few drinks as I was driving home that night, but my wife had 4 or 5 strong drinks, when that couple approached us and chatted us up. They were nice, funny, female was gorgeous, the husband was semi attractive, although he had a large gut. They could tell we were new, and extremely nervous, so they sat us down and we all just talked for a few hours, while I slowly drank my drink and the other 3 had their drinks. As I said, it was a SLOW night, so we all decided to leave. My wife and I were disappointed, as we wanted to have sex with each other at the club, but we were going to head home anyway. The other couple invited us back to their hotel nearby to hang out. We decided to go for an hour as we had to get home.

 

When we got there, their intentions were immediately clear, but they were not pushy. The other man didn't touch my wife, nor I his, but the girls kissed and she played with my wife's breasts while I was eating my wife out. Unfortunately, I guess I was nervous as I had a hard time getting/keeping an erection, and I finished quickly inside my wife once I did have sex with her. My wife seemed to want more, so we cleaned up, thanked them for the intro to swinging and exchanged numbers. My wife and I went home and had the most amazing sex for over 2 hours, myself cumming twice and my wife multiple times, with her talking about how she wants to watch me fuck another woman and enjoy her and the other woman at the same time.

 

My wife currently has no interest in playing with other men, as she seems keen on exploring her bi sexuality. I am ok with this, and happy to watch her play with another woman, but I am leery of myself playing with another woman because I don't want my wife to get jealous (mind you she was drunk when talking about these fantasies). In my head, I'm sure she really does want to do all of the things she talked about, but the good wife/mother in her thinks it's not what she should do, and then I am hesitant as well because I had trouble getting an erection in front of the other couple. I wouldn't want to disappoint another woman or my wife should we decide to do this again.

 

This other couple has invited us to their house for dinner, and we would like to go, but my work schedule has been hectic and we have to reschedule, not to mention some other issues in my wife's personal life.

 

Thanks for the read, just wanted to share our first time/experience swinging. We both enjoyed it and definitely are open to doing things again, but we are not at the point of swapping spouses, just female/female action.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

I guess I was nervous as I had a hard time getting/keeping an erection

 

VERY common problem. The eyes tell the brain what is happening and the brain says 'no it isn't' and doesn't talk to any other body parts. It's also difficult being naked in front of other people (normally being naked while there was more than your wife around...well, an erection is usually not appropriate in most cases).

 

Don't worry about it, instead dwell on what actually happened...and it sounded very hot. Welcome to the club and we look forward to hearing about your next adventure.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Hello, PDXsoftcouple, and welcome to SwingersBoard!

 

It sounds like you had a generally positive and exciting first foray into the swinging lifestyle, which is great! I'm really glad that your first time was with an experienced couple who were not pushy.

 

As GoldCoCouple said, the difficulties you had getting or keeping an erection are common, and not anything really to worry about. In addition to the first-time jitters, you also had, as you mentioned, "a few drinks", which is not particularly good for maintaining erections! I'm experienced, not shy, and a beneficiary of the magic of pharmaceuticals- and I have trouble if I've had more than about two drinks over the course of the evening. Soone recommendation for next time is that you maybe nurse one drink, just for relaxation, but really minimize your alcohol consumption.

 

You two will want to talk about your rules and limits for next time. Peopls'e limits often broaden, and rules sometimes fall away, as they gain confidence and experience- so it's a good idea to keep checking in with each other frequently. Who knows, you may both feel comfortable with activity between more than the women sometime!

[DjRayder 43]

Yeah I had trouble once or twice it isn't uncommon. Usually alcoholic drinks give that problem as I was affected in my younger days. As I mentioned on a previous post; if you know a week or two before you guys are going to a club or party have a very clean diet with little to no meat. Plenty of veggies and herbs that help with blood circulation and any vitamins or supplements that you think you are lacking. A funny story I was at a club in Vegas where a girl was stroking me and my shot erupted a good five feet up. There was plenty of wows overheard. I don't know if it was the diet or not masturbating for a week that did that but it was a sight. And another time I was complimented on how hard I was and the woman I played with said guys couldn't get it up because of whiskey dick or nervousness. Well good luck on your venture seems like its going to be a ride!

[PDXsoftcouple 19]

We had no idea we were going. It was a spur of the moment idea, and funny enough we had been to a Brazilian steakhouse for dinner (I ate about 20 steaks and had some drinks there too). Sounds like my dinner/drink combo before the club, then the couple of drinks at the club may have been to blame. I was feeling uncomfortable after the dinner. Thanks everyone! We are excited to explore again, just need to find time to get a sitter.

[BuiltForSin 66]

Hi and congrats on your first encounter, hopefully one of many good great ones! On the erection thing: This seems to be the norm rather than the exception for the first few encounters.

 

On a totally selfish note: Assuming you went to Privata, what day of the week did you go? We are going in late Feb and hearing the crowds are good Saturday but we have conflicting information about Friday...

[PDXsoftcouple 19]

We went on a Friday, and like I said, it was SLOW! We were lucky to find the couple we did.