What just happened?

[Herself79 15]

My husband and I have been swinging for years. We play with couples and single guys. Last night we met a guy to play with who we've met once before. Previous time was great, we all had fun. I should say here I NEVER go unprotected with anyone other than my Husband. Last time we met this guy he wore a condom. Last night, we were still in foreplay, or so I thought. Things were getting hot, he flipped me over and stuck his cock in me, no protection, no permission. I pulled away and told him he shouldn't have done it then went to the bathroom. My hubby came in after me to see if I was ok. I wasn't- I was totally shocked and asked him to get rid of the guy, which he did and then we came home (we were in a hotel). I don't know what yo think, am I overreacting?

[njbm 2,881]

Not at all. You have ground rules that I am sure you spelled out in advance, correct? No means no.

[Herself79 15]

I didn't say at the beginning of the evening 'no condom, no sex' - I didn't think I had to given that we've met him before and that was made clear last time. ?

[kikonkrome 844]

Nope he had to go. That's absurd. The guy was being a jerk, at best an imbecile.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . am I overreacting?

No.

 

You both acted properly.

[DjRayder 43]

The asshole single guy strikes again. Yeah you are totally in the right to "overreact".

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

I didn't say at the beginning of the evening 'no condom, no sex'

 

...but you also didn't say it was okay without a condom either. It's just a respect thing. He should have asked you before he even tried to put it in...with or without a condom. You did the right thing, don't even think twice about it.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

You were right to do as you did- right to stop things immediately, and right to get the guy out of there. I hope the guy realized what he did wrong, and apologized to you both.

 

Do not give yourself any grief at all- you were not the problem!

[Sweetcheeks85 16]

You were not in the wrong, it's all Common sense not you life partner use a protection and always ask first !!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Note: Common sense is no longer common

[Miss_Piggy 98]

When it comes to how you feel, there's no real overreaction. You feel how you feel. You have done nothing wrong in your actions nor in your feelings. And I'd guess that the vast majority of women would feel similarlly angry, violated, shocked, confused. This man's behaviour is entirely unacceptable.