"Seconds" for the night..?

[Sexykitty6364 38]

Here's the scenario: We made a play date with a couple we are very close with. Full swap, separate rooms is the norm. The wife goes off with my husband but tells him she's not interested in intercourse, just wants to give him a blow job. The husband goes off with me and while he can get hard, he can't cum. He tells me its his meds messing with him. Its happened before that he can't cum a second time but not a first time.

 

After we are all done and back together, the husband then tells me how they had a play date with another couple immediately before seeing us.

 

My husband and I are hurt? Confused? Angry? We would have rather they had been upfront with us and let us decide if we wanted to be "seconds" for the evening.

 

We've never had this happen to us before (except at parties were multiple hookups are expected). How would you feel?

[padoc 1,703]

Sounds like they both got laid before they got to you. And, they lied on a couple of different levels. You have to wonder, what else have they lied about. I don't think you should be hurt, you should be DONE with them! If your playmates are not honest with you, they're dangerous. Find new boink buddies.

[Alura 2,774]

It would be hard to pass this one by, Sexy Kitten. It's time to move on. It seems you won't be giving up much, anyway.

[Sexykitty6364 38]

I have to say, I thought I would get slammed for asking this and told I was being too sensitive. But you have all validated that what I feel is what I should feel. Thank you much.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I've been thinking about this one for a while now.

 

If they were "close friends", as you say, we'd probably make light of it, BUT call them on it and tell them in a light-hearted way "You owe us".

 

People make poor decisions. If we valued their friendship and this was a one-off issue with them, we'd forgive.

If it was part of a chain of issues, or a couple we weren't so close with, we'd move on.

[padoc 1,703]

People make poor decisions choosing Golden Coral over Capital Grill. Fucking other people unknown to you and then initial lying about performance issues isn't a poor decision, its just deceitful and flat out wrong. What is known of these other people? Are they a couple you'd like to play with? Hope so since you both probably encountered some of their left over juice. What the hell is there to forgive? Doesn't sound like they asked for forgiveness, in fact, they seem to think that their behavior should be OK with you. These people didn't behave like close friends. Close friends would be much more concerned with your safety and with providing the kind of encounter you had come to expect in the give and take of your friendship. We would NEVER get naked with them again!!!!

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

In my opinion, it isn't really that big of a deal, especially if you know them well and have had fun times with them. A lot of times people play with a few people in succession at parties and no one bats an eye.

 

I would let them know it bothered you and see if they will agree to put you first in the future. People do make mistakes or do things that are hurtful without intending hurt. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. They did confess in the end. Also, like Two4 said, rib them!

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I would let them know it bothered you and see if they will agree to put you first in the future. People do make mistakes or do things that are hurtful without intending hurt. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. They did confess in the end.

I agree with this! It is an issue for you- you feel kinda cheated out of a full playtime with them, and a little hurt that they did not tell you beforehand. If they are good friends with you, then they should be open to talking it out, and trying to make it right. Once you have developed a relationship with a couple into a close friendship, you are too invested to simply abandon the friendship over one act of seeming inconsideration.

[Wornsilver 219]

I'm surprised that there is a difference of opinion among the responses. To me, pretty simple. This is too important to wonder about deceit at every turn. I'm also thinking that your description of "very close" really doesn't flange up with their opinion of you. They might simply think of you as someone not deserving of the respect we all believe is part of sharing this level of intimacy.

[Alura 2,774]

How would you feel?

 

Did they have a shower before playing with y'all, Sexykitty?

[Sexykitty6364 38]

I'm also thinking that your description of "very close" really doesn't flange up with their opinion of you.

 

I guess not. But this is a couple who we make very planned dates with and not just for sex-- concerts, sporting events, dinner....we are even going on vacation together.

 

 

They might simply think of you as someone not deserving of the respect we all believe is part of sharing this level of intimacy.

 

We really thought we had that level of respect with them and it's why we are so stunned.

 

Did they have a shower before playing with y'all

 

You know, I actual asked that of the hubby in my shocked response to this revelation. He said yes.

 

I am much closer to the husband then my husband is to the wife. The husband and I just really click on so many levels (only child, very talkative and outgoing, etc) and we talk all of the time. While my husband is hurt about this too, he has yet to contact the wife because he knows he won't get much of a response and because they are not the ones who drive our relationship; the other husband and I do. I plan on meeting the husband tonight at a local restaurant to talk this out.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Good for you for not letting it fester, straight in sort it out ! I like your style!

Hope it goes well for you guys