MFM Threesome

[MyBabeA 15]

New to lifestyle, married couple interested in MFM threesome. Wife is sexy and wants to experience the feeling of two guys. Not sure how to get started though. Any advice for the new guy?

[oc1234 435]

This may not be practical in your case but we started MFM threesomes after a couples swap with good friends. My friends wife and I liked each other a lot, but we weren't as sexually compatible as I would have liked, so it evolved into mainly threesomes with my wife, me, and her husband. Over the years they split up, married other people, and our male friend's 2nd wife died. Through all of this we have remained friends with his first wife and her new husband who knew we had played together. Our friend's 2nd wife knew we were playing with him and had played with others before but given it up due to body self-image problems. We continued to play with him. After she died, we have become very close to our male friend. That has evolved into a poly relationship with him that satisfies all our needs. To put it in perspective, my wife and I are in our early 70s and our male friend is in his early 60s.

[MyBabeA 15]

This may not be practical in your case but we started MFM threesomes after a couples swap with good friends. My friends wife and I liked each other a lot, but we weren't as sexually compatible as I would have liked, so it evolved into mainly threesomes with my wife, me, and her husband. Over the years they split up, married other people, and our male friend's 2nd wife died. Through all of this we have remained friends with his first wife and her new husband who knew we had played together. Our friend's 2nd wife knew we were playing with him and had played with others before but given it up due to body self-image problems. We continued to play with him. After she died, we have become very close to our male friend. That has evolved into a poly relationship with him that satisfies all our needs. To put it in perspective, my wife and I are in our early 70s and our male friend is in his early 60s.

 

Thanks, that is helpful, we currently do not know anyone that may be interested in a relationship like that and was wondering where/how might one go about finding a compatible partner. Best approach, places, you know. Not risky, don't want risky

[oc1234 435]

One thing you might try is visiting a clothing optional or nudist venue. Most nudists are not swingers, but it is a good place to meet and become friends with people who have no hangups about nudity. That in itself is very exciting. That is what my wife and I did. We became nudists in 1973 and had no idea about becoming swingers. We just wanted to be able to enjoy walking around nude outside. It was a very small membership conservative nudist park, but even there, there was sometimes a bit of sexual energy. I was at the park one Sunday evening. My wife and our baby were visiting her parents in another state. Another couple we knew fairly well and I were the only ones at the park. We were in the dimly lightly clubhouse. We were all nude. I was sitting on one couch and the other couple was sitting on another couch across the room.

 

The other couple started making out and ended up having sex across the room from me. That was the most exciting thing I had seen up to that time in my life. It also seemed like such a natural thing. I still wonder what would have happened if I had made a move to join them, but I was not ready to take it that far.

 

After they finished, I had to drive to the airport to pick up my wife and baby son. They asked to come along with me to the airport, so we all picked them up. My wife and I lived 80 miles away so we parted with the other couple at the airport.

 

On the drive home I told my wife what had happened and she was turned on by it too. We never did have sex with the couple, but that experience did lead to our finally swinging with a couple about 10 years later.

 

In 1980 we moved to Maryland and joined a nudist club as soon as we got there. We met a couple and became good friends. We started getting together with them on a weekly basis at either their or out house. We were always nude when we got together. We started flirting with them and about 6 years later they seduced us.

 

That was the most wonderful experience my wife and I had ever had. When we woke up the next morning, we asked each other, "Did that really happen?" That was about all my wife and I were able to talk about for the next week.

 

What was really amazing was that neither my wife nor I saw it coming, but we both knew we wanted it without even asking each other. It was a wonderful turning point in our lives.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

The advice I typically give to people just starting is to go out to see and to been seen. Swingers clubs, although they are basically designed for attracting MF couples, the "M" is often free to separate from his "F" long enough to help make an MFM. In addition, some clubs do allow single men as members. Being at a club party does not guarantee a hook-up but it always provides an opportunity to talk to actual swingers.

 

Dates and locations of club parties can be found at swingers Web sites like SLS or SDC. Signing up at one of these will also provide an opportunity to create an on-line profile. We have an entire forum on the subject of finding people on-line.

 

I hope this helps.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Another route, in addition to the great option of going to a swinger club, is to sign up on one of the Web sites that specialize in helping swingers to meet, like SLS, SDC, SZC, Swingtowns, APG, Kasidie, or Quiver. You can set up a profile there, where you describe yourselves (don't be afraid to mention that you're new), and what you're looking for. Be sure to include a couple of pictures- profiles with pictures get a lot more attention.

 

On your chosen site, you can look over profiles, and try to find guys who you think you might like. Be advised- there are a lot of single guys on these sites, and not all of them are the most respectful and courteous. You may have to separate some chaff from the wheat here! You can afford to be picky, though.

 

Once you find a guy that seems like a good possibility, you can meet him at a public location, a bar or restaurant, and just talk a bit. Get to know him, and see if there's any chemistry. Then, if you both like him, you can invite him for a second date!

 

I should mention that your search need not be limited to just single guys. You can also seek couples where the guy has his significant other's permission to play separately. You may want to make sure the significant other has actually given her guy such permission, though- a phone call, or even meeting both of them for that first get-together, is not out of line.

 

Good luck!

[Guest]

We had our first MFM and first swing experience with the guy half of a couple that had invited us to swing. After that, they have simply been the two of us sitting at a bar at a nice hotel or resort, some guy starts chatting with us, if I become interested I take over the chat (from hubby), add in some flirt and move it on to seduction and by nights end, I ask him if he wants to join us..... People ask, how do I find another guy to join us for MFM, it’s kind of like trying to find ants to join you at your picnic....... Not at all difficult.

[MyBabeA 15]

This is all great, thanks for the savage advice. We have joined the SLS website and created a profile. We've had a number of contacts already, but yes, it's hard sorting through all the chaff and determining the real from the, well, you know! Wife is a little nervous and excited! Just don't want to make a mistake right out of the chute that could potentially taint the whole experience. Thoughts?

[ROANJO 39]

We have been in the lifestyle for some 8 years now and along this period shifted to MFM or MMMMFM only, not very much into couples swapping. Besides a fwb with whom we go out very often and travel sometimes as well, most of our activity has been at on-premise Clubs. We enter, go to the bar or sit in a booth watching people, sometimes we are approached by one or two guys, other times we go to the back rooms on ourselves and start making out, and then guys come around watching or grouping and when she is in the mood they get into raw sex, either in the group rooms or in cubicles, usually not one only. We stay for 3/4 hours and repeat this two or three times the night until she is worn out and we leave. Her record so far that I have seen was 14/15 guys (she said a few more more, because we were not together all the time, and even went to the ladies´ rom with 2 bulls)but it usually stays at 5 or 6 others per night. Once she got into a cubicle with 5 guys and they locked the door so I could not enter - even ´cause there would be no space inside - and I kept only listening to the sounds coming from the cubicle, what was very, very erotic indeed, but I would rather be inside to watch the action and maybe participate as well.

[FunDrew 15]

Our first experience was an MFM. So after lots of talk and when she was comfortable with going forward we found a guy online that was near us. We all chatted via kik for a while to get to know each other and what we wanted out of the experience. One we were comfortable we set up a time to meet. We met at a bar for drinks. This let the Mrs see him in person. We chatted and they got to flirt in a safe environment. He even rubbed her legs under the table a bit. This was all exciting for my wife. A few weekends later we invited him over to our home to cook out and swim. Again more safe space to talk but this time in her little bikini. More flirts and after a while some kissing and the threeway was on. It was a great experience

[SwingerLite 15]

Where I live it is very difficult to find ppl with an open mind. We have had a lot of experience conjuring new ways to "make contact". Of course it depends on how you two feel about going out on a limb. One way we have had some luck is at a bar or party, you sit in a corner or whatever and have your wife do some flirting. Whether it be with a man or woman the 3rd almost always seem more comfortable with the woman doing the "negotiations". It doesn't just have to be at a bar my wife has flirted with ppl at work and through various websites. The thing is though we have had a few "on the line" we have not "landed" as many as we hoped for various reasons. Most importantly talk through it with her and keep pushing for the common goal.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Hi and welcome. I completely understand your concern about the wife being uncomfortable. Once, I wanted us to meet this guy but there was a gut feeling I didnt like. I met him for a beer alone without the wife.

Spend a half hour drinking with a guy and you'll walk out feeling much better, one way or the other.

Once you have met and feel good about him, then the wife can go into a meeting feeling less sketchy.

[Naughtyvanessa 49]

MFM is the best! I love to go "hunting" in a club, lounge, roof top bar for another guy. It is fun, sexy and hot.

We start with a 4 hand massage and go from there. I love to get the attention of 2 guys.