Single male looking for tips on finding a partner.

[Rackm248 15]

Lol. So I am here because I want advice on finding a partner who is stable and willing to engage in this kind of life style. I haven't been able to find anyone who is open to this. I've done this in a previous relationship and it changed my outlook on relationships! It changed everything for the best! Anyways, most single women I date are opsesed with monogamy, lol. And if they are not, they are weirded out by this idea. I don't understand...Anyways I guess I'm looking for tips on finding a partner that I can have a relationship with that is open to this kind of thing. I don't want to sound too emotional, but I really don't want just a pure sexual fling kind of thing. I am a sexual person and my partner would have to be too. I am 29, pretty attractive and easy to get along with.... Should I just ask the next girl I meet if she's down with this kind of thing, lol. So I don't rate my time....

Thanks for reading another one of these threads....

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Looks like your question has remained unanswered for a while. Regretfully, I overlooked it the first time around,

 

I believe that the best you will be able to do is to create an on-line profile at one of the swingers hookup Web sites, such as SLS or AFF, that accomidates swingles. In your profile be earnes and truthful in your intentions. Do not expect instant results. But I can tell you that women looking for a similar kind of partner do exits.

 

Wishing you happy hunting.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I agree, one of the online sites is probably the best way to go. It's going to take patience though.

 

Another thing working against you is your age (I'm assuming you are dating women in the same general age range). You're still a little shy of the age when most couples start to think about swinging, and, and it's a big and, they are an established couple too so they have a history together and that helps tremendously. A single woman your age who has never been in a committed long term relationship, finding one who is not only ready for but also interested in swinging, that's going to be tough. Not impossible, but tough.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I have met couples in the lifestyle who met on regular dating apps. The sites were OK cupid, Plenty of Fish and Tinder. They were upfront early on in the dating process about their history and their interests.

[BobGann 40]

The online sites can work, but do take some patience....one thing that I've had great luck with is going to meet-and-greets, bar meets, and things like that for some groups in your area (the things usually posted in "events" on some sites). Since there is no expectation of immediate play, just socializing, people tend to be a little more open minded and relaxed. I think there are probably a lot of single ladies in a "mirror image" situation to yours - wanting someone who understands the lifestyle at the outset.