Getting better !!

[Sexylyn 20]

Well thanks to a few people here I am getting better with the lifestyle. My new relationship is different and moving fast. My guy and I talked about a lot of things and decided to do a few one on one dates. We went to a close friend of his birthday party and he introduced as his woman. Things are going fast but it's good. We went home to have great sex with just us two it was awesome.

We did visit the club again and it went great. He was patient and we talked about what our plan would be that night.

We played with a couple and we both had sex that night right next to each other. I understand why people enjoy the lifestyle it was a good feeling between us even though we were having sex with another person.

Curious do you find people in the lifestyle love faster and harder ? He seems to be really into me and I like it. I am a little scared to be hurt.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Curious do you find people in the lifestyle love faster and harder ?

 

How about more passionate and deeper...Most couples in the L/S have been together for awhile so loving faster isn't right. When you have a great, solid relationship to start with, swinging makes things more passionate, more exciting, brings the two of you closer together...it's the sprinkles on the ice cream sundae of life. Sprinkles by themselves is not very filling or tasty, ice cream sundaes without sprinkles are still delicious and the sprinkles are hardly missed, but adding sprinkles adds just the little bit more and takes it over the top.

[Sexylyn 20]

I feel that closeness sometimes because we have been very open and communicating more than I ever have in a relationship. This forum has a been great help to me while starting this new chapter in my life. I find myself feeling attached to quickly to this man. He is treating me like a queen and telling me he wants me in his life permanently. Always teaching me new things and giving me a chance to act on my fantasies. It's intoxicating just want to protect myself. Thanks Goldco couple

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

I feel that closeness sometimes because we have been very open and communicating more than I ever have in a relationship.

 

This is the reason that you are off to such a good start. Just remember to not let it end or be taken for granted.

[Wornsilver 219]

I have heard the plea to "protect myself" twice, and while we all acknowledge the need and absolute right to take care of yourself, I hope that your guy friend is a good person and is not going to abuse you. I am a man who spent nearly 30 years in an abusive relationship, some of the abuse caused because she had only enough energy to take care of herself leaving nothing left over for me. There was a lot more to it, but that was part.

 

Finally I found a woman who has enough "reserves" that she can be open and giving to me, and receive what I can give to her.

 

My guess is that your situation is not analogous, but I hope you risk enough that you can accept what appears to be pretty worthwhile. Maybe you can take all that in while holding back and "protecting yourself," but I doubt it. Most of us have been hurt, but we recover.

 

Fondest hopes that your future is authentic and you both get the most out of your relationship.

[Sexylyn 20]

Wornsilver that makes a lot of sense. I do need to learn to open up. In the past I have had so many men play games and cheat. Now that I am with someone that is pretty much an open book and really nice I am questioning things.

He has been nothing but sincere and I am happy. Thank you for your comment. I need to give it a 100% chance.