Drinking and swinging - good or bad idea?

[sweetsnspeed 52]

Do most couples require a drink or two to loosen up enough to become flirty (or more), or are there other couples out there that do not drink but enjoy or swing totally sober?

 

We do not have a problem with others drinking (as long as they don't get sloppy drunk, that's a turn-off), but for health reasons (her) and moral support (him), we don't drink.

 

Just curious.

[gisade 20]

We don't get drunk but do have a drink or two to loosen up, especially if it's the first time meeting the couple/gentleman.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We've played sober and drunk. I am comfortable playing sober, but I really like the feeling of a good buzz while having sex.

 

Typically I will not play with a man if I feel he's had too much to drink. It just doesn't go well.

[Guest]

We drink during the meeting part. He usually stops after the 2nd, I might go further, depending on the situation. I know that I can become quite the slut if I drink too much; can be fun at the time but cause 2nd thoughts the next morning.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

I don't drink and generally prefer to play with people who haven't been drinking.

 

Anecdote time - the first couple we almost hooked up with, before we really started as swingers, the young lady would get crazy drunk before we started messing around. Once she did, she would be all over me. It never led to more than heavy petting because it was very clear there were consent issues at risk... which, selfishly, I think was horrible because I wanted nothing more than to rip her clothes off and make her writhe, but I couldn't because I was fairly certain she wouldn't be doing any of it if she had been sober.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

I have a drink or two during the meet, but that about it. It's really about the only time I drink. I smoke weed the rest of the time, but that makes some people uncomfortable, so we leave that out of swinging.

[kikonkrome 844]

I prefer not to drink while talking to people at parties and when swinging. I am just wittier, more alert. Makes the sex for me better as well. The only exception to that, is a fascination with eating my wife's pussy while a little lit, but I save that for home. I do enjoy a glass of wine, but only in an intimate setting.

 

My wife likes to have a few to feel more relaxed.

 

I kinda like it when the women get a little lit and get super slutty. For men, if they don't get it hard, I'm kinda pissed. I just feel like watch what you drink so we all can have a great time...grrrr.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Much the same as what kikonkrome says -- ethyl alcohol increases the chance of a failure to launch and dulls the whit.

 

To add one more related thing, whacky weed I have known to enhance a sexual experience. But smoke hurts my lungs. I no longer do it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Neither of us drink at all...not because we have a problem with it, but because I don't really enjoy the taste of alcohol and the Ms. is watching what calories she takes in...she'd rather have chocolate than alcohol.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

Much the same as what kikonkrome says -- ethyl alcohol increases the chance of a failure to launch and dulls the whit.

 

To add one more related thing, whacky weed I have known to enhance a sexual experience. But smoke hurts my lungs. I no longer do it.

 

That's why I limit to one or 2 drinks early on in the night and then stop. The plan at least is to have a couple drinks, have a bite to eat and chat a while. If things head back to someone's place or a hotel room, by the time we get there and chat a little more, I shouldn't even be feeling buzzed anymore. It does make the talking to people quite a bit easier for me though. I am not really a people person by nature, so putting me in a situation where I not only have to talk to strangers, but I am planning on having sex with them? I need something to loosen me up a bit until I get comfortable, lol. I'm sure once I have more experience in the lifestyle this will not be as much of an issue though.

 

As for the weed. Yeah, my wife loves it when we smoke before sex. I last longer, she enjoys it more, what more could you ask for? Like I said though, it seems that throws up a huge red flag for some couples. I'd hate that to be the one thing that turns them off from us, so we just don't bring it up. If it was brought up we would not lie about it of course, but why bring it up?

 

Also, if the smoke hurts your lungs, there are always edibles.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . Also, if the smoke hurts your lungs, there are always edibles.

This is true.

 

We were invited to a house party. The host and hostess had received a recipe from other lifestyle acquaintances for making Magic Brownies, as I believe they were called. Things went, for me, not quite as planned. First, the host and hostess are amateur, at best. They used far too much of the "essential" oil. Second, having never before experienced a brownie, half hour after eating one and sensing no change in the way I felt, I ate another. That was a mistake.

 

I'll know better next time.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

This is true.

 

We were invited to a house party. The host and hostess had received a recipe from other lifestyle acquaintances for making Magic Brownies, as I believe they were called. Things went, for me, not quite as planned. First, the host and hostess are amateur, at best. They used far too much of the "essential" oil. Second, having never before experienced a brownie, half hour after eating one and sensing no change in the way I felt, I ate another. That was a mistake.

 

I'll know better next time.

 

We always called them special brownies, not magic, but yeah, I'd know what someone meant. It probably wasn't too much, you just ate 2!!. Also, it creeps up on you. You gotta wait at least 30-45 minutes to start feeling the effects. Some people it takes even longer, like my wife takes about an hour before she starts to feel it. When it hits you though, you know it. With edibles, when it does finally hit, it hits a lot harder.

[padoc 1,703]

THAT is funny!!! We (I) had a similar experience at a party. I ate a "special" brownie and nothing happened. As a drinker, I expected to feel a buzz in 15-20 minutes as I do after ingesting a top shelf vodka rocks. I was told the brownies were "good shit" but when I felt nothing after about half an hour, I thought wtf and had another! At the time, I had no experience with THC. Well, the first brownie hit after 45 minutes and then BAM!! a bit later the 2nd kicked in. We had a hell of a good time, I was wasted I guess but had no performance problems and was still VERY happy and horny when the party wrapped up. Mrs Doc insisted on driving home and told me the next day that she wished I'd have worn socks so she could have stuffed one and shut me up on the hour long drive. All in all, it was a good experience but next time, I'll only have one.

[Alura 2,774]

My guess is the double-dose of brownies is not uncommon. I have two "It's not workin', Man!" experiences with edibles, one at a concert in Germany (hashish brownies) and another at a store in Morocco. The concert was riveting. I bought a cocktail dress at the store.

 

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

Yeah, it's something a lot of people do, because it takes so long to hit you, they think it's not working, so go for more. Then when it all hits at once, you are long gone. The craziest I ever did was we made a whole batch of 12 brownies for 7 of us. Everyone else only had one, but I had provided and made them, so I decided to go ahead and have the 6 remaining ones. That was a fun night. We also smoked a couple blunts waiting for the effects to kick in. I was still high when I woke up the next day, and through part of the day.

[cpl36996 91]

I hate the alcohol breath and not to mention the cigarette ashtray breathe.

[Hotcouple2627 25]

Every experience except for 1 we have had some drinks to loosen up. The only time we didn't was a MFM with a guy we met online, we just wanted to try it again and it was during the day, we met him at the hotel him and the wife smoked first and then we just went for it. It was fun and your alittle more aware of what's going on sobar, but if you have some drinks in your your a lot more loose and relaxed

[CostaRica 130]

I definitely like to have my buzz on, but if I had my way I would probably be buzzed every time I have sex. If I'm sober I'm just far too in my head and struggle to let myself go to the experience, I still have fun but it's not the all consuming full body experience that I have with a few drinks in me.

[TricianMike 772]

We normally have a drink to be social. Mike will never have more than two drinks. I am not a fan of drunks and I have seen men get nasty. People should know their limits.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Plus, of course, over drinking by the guy leads to dissatisfaction for the girls. I tend to have only one or two drinks before a "performance."

[2NoLimit 95]

We were given some gummy bears aboard our cruise by a couple. We did not want to be disrespectful, so we took it (no we didn't eat it).

 

My husband got a little worried about taking something from a stranger not really knowing what it is or how we would react to it (we have never done any type of edibles). Yeah we knew it had THC as they said it did. But what my husband was most worried about was the possibility of being laced with molly or something else. Glad we didn't as it could have possibly ruined our trip. (Or made it better LOL)

 

As far as drinking, we can hold our own, and know when to stop. We also drink a water bottle in between drinks.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We have never played sober. Might have to try it sometime? Our experiences have always been in a sort of party atmosphere.

 

We've had experiences where a party playmate has shown up unexpectantly wanting to play. Sometimes we do. Sometimes we don't.

[Guest]

Everyone handles a few drinks differently. For me, my limit is 2 and I don't feel like I need to drink more. And as a general piece of advice, the men that drink too much have performance problems. I have been drunk before when in a sexual state of mind. I am a happy drunk but I have done a couple things I wouldn't have done if I hadn't been drinking, and they weren't good. One I will not describe because it's really bad. The other I will describe and post the picture here. I have to laugh as well as remind myself to stay in control. I hope you get a laugh out of it.

 

My family had a Birthday party for me and my husband. Our birthdays are close to each other. They had hired a caterer to make paella. It's called Mr. Paella. Some of you may be familiar with this. It's really good. So, we all eat dinner outside on the patio, we play some music, dance, and drink. They kept feeding me tequila shots. I really don't like tequila but, after the first and getting high, I got into the drinking. The shared experience I guess. I did know I was having too much. But as you all know, when you cross the line, you lose self-control. And when I drink, I smoke a lot.

 

So, I am smashed. My husband said I was being very funny and people were laughing at me. I am sure that they had never seen me so drunk. I go out around the side of the house to take my cigarette and the MR. Paella man was there smoking. The last I remember of this is insisting I give him a tip before he leaves and getting down to my knees. Yep, I gave the guy a blow job about 50 feet away from getting caught. Next I remember leaning against the wall smoking and people calling for me. I returned to the table where they had put out a cake.

 

Oh, I was joyous and laughing along with everyone. My Aunt offered me a napkin and said I should wipe my face. My husband added that I had spilled some milk. Oh my God! When I woke up the next morning I had that very bad feeling that I had done something wrong and wasn't sure how bad it was...I was paranoid. At least I was not fighting with my husband for something...he was laughing at me. He showed me the photo and my stomach became sick with embarrassment. He assured me that no one knew exactly what I had done. But, he described how I was wobbly when I returned from the side of the house. I had dirt and grass on my knees like I had fallen! And, as I could see, I had cum in my hair, around my mouth, on my dress, and a big gob of it on my jewelry between my boobs! Oh shit! He is confident that with his help, we got it off me before anyone could know it was sperm. I don't think so. Enjoy, and don't drink too much at any party!

 

[Numex 2,415]

The only time I am a control freak is when it comes to myself. For that reason I don't drink or use drugs, caffeine excepted. It doesn't bother me if others drink a little. My wife almost always has half a glass of wine or half a beer before recreational sex, but that's all she needs.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

The only time I am a control freak is when it comes to myself. For that reason I don't drink or use drugs, caffeine excepted.

This was the practice of the late, great musician Frank Zappa.

[Eddiem 139]

Not sloppy drunk .. nice to take the edge off with a glass or two of wine or a good cocktail.

[LaidBackFun 36]

I learned my lesson about drinking too much. We attended a house party and I had my eye on a very attractive women that I was hoping might end up having sex with her. As the night progressed I drank quite a bit and then ended up running into her outside one of the bedrooms. She took me by the hand down to another room where we got naked. She had a gorgeous body … she began giving me a bj but it just wouldn't work … too much booze. I ended up watching others having sex while I got nothing. Lesson learned!