Confused about change in attitude

[MixxedCpl360 29]

Thought I would get the opinions of the board before I address this issue. My wife and I decided to look into swinging about 5 months ago and went to our first event almost three months ago. You can read about that experience if you want my very first post. Anyway we both enjoyed the experience and had immediately agreed to attend again. My wife started shopping online and in town again for another sexy outfit to wear to the next outing and to wear in general. She intensified her workouts in what I can assume was to look her best the next time out. With that being said lately the past few weeks she seem less interested in the lifestyle. But for the life of me I don't know what changed. She doesn't bring up anything lifestyle related unless I do and I quit bringing it up anymore because she seems uninterested. A week or so ago I tried having some sexy conversation with her by asking her if she had anything on her "fuck it bucket list" and she just simply said nope. Then I asked her (again for like the 10th time in our marriage) if she had any fantasies at all and again she replied with an uninterested no. The thing is she never asked me if I had anything on those lists either and went back to doing whatever. We have a paid lifestyle profile (that she started BTW) that she never logs into and there is no evidence she is interested in finding anymore sexy clothes for parties or our bedroom. Seems like she one day woke up and decided to go back to being well boring again. Now, she is still very interested in having sex with me which has not changed but she just seems to have just abandoned any thought of exploring the LS any further without any clues as to why. I am going to sit down and speak to her about all this to try and get some answers even though I suspect she will say there are no issues. But I thought I would ask yall if any of you experience anything similar in your relationship or if anyone want to take a stab as to what could be the problem. I want to get opinions before I have the talk with her.

[Alura 2,774]

I'd suggest you tell her what you told us, or bring her here to read your post. In either case, you need to know what she's thinking.

 

Good Luck!

[Miss_Piggy 98]

obviously, this is my own experience and the only way for you to know your wife's feelings is to ask her directly.

 

My interest over the years has gone up and down many times. Typically, when I've been disinterested it's due to other things going on putting added stress on me. I mean things like major international moves and job changes, having children, that sort of thing. Big things happen and my interest drops completely. Life calms down and I'm back in the prowl.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

The initial excitement passes and the working out isn't providing the instant improvements that she was expecting...you can't lose if you don't play the game. As already said, talk to her and tell her what you told us. Either way, there's something wrong and you should always be able to talk about anything in your relationship (swingers or not). Talk to her...

[MixxedCpl360 29]

Update...well no need to have the talk with the wife. Out of the blue she asked me if we could go to a club soon and said she would ask a friend to have our kid for a sleep over so we can go out. So that answers my question about whether or not she is still interested. I know this time will be much better considering the first club experience was less than stellar with me not feeling well and all. I can't wait.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Good luck and let us know how it works out...