Need some perspective

[Nococouple 15]

A little background... I work 12-14 hours a night and do this 5-6 nights a week. Last week I had to make a flying trip south and pick up a vehicle. I worked the night before slept 5 hours and then got in the plane. Landed in TX and only managed another 4 hours of sleep Thursday. Picked up the car and screwed around in Dallas. Got on the road North by 3. Drive all night with 2 2 hours naps. Got home and napped 6 hours. That night we went to a house party and by midnight I was wiped out. Wife wanted to stay a little longer to play and I was fine with it. We stayed she made out pretty heavily managed to get off and we left. Now afterward I was feeling jealous. I am having a hard time figuring out what the hell happened. I think it's because of lack of sleep. I will be honest by nature I have jealously issues but never like I did that night. Also this isn't the first time we've played so that's part of the problem with me figuring it out. Thanks for reading this long ass post. Look forward to hearing what you guys think.

Mike

[Fundamental Law 2,928]

Mike...

 

You are almost certainly correct. Fatigue distorts perception as well as eroding performance. Sleep is a remarkable restorative.

 

Your wife had a great time! Be happy in that. You were tired.That leads to magnified perceptions of "not good enough" for whatever, which is often at the root of jealousy.

 

There is a next time, you will be rested the next time, and both of you will feel great about next time.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Maybe your jealousy is about her having a great time while you weren't really into it due to a lack of sleep,

My wife and I were both deprived of sleep after our first child was born so I know how that feels , the slightest thing used to get me mad, you probably should have skipped the party and got some rest

[Guy1964 177]

I'm going to say it's not either/or, but an interaction between the newness and the sleep deprivation. Like fundamental law, I tend to get overly reactive when I'm fatigued; negative emotions get magnified. I think the take-away from this is not to try for fun experiences in a state of sleep deprivation.

[Nococouple 15]

Thanks folks. Makes me feel a little better knowing you agree that it was due to lack of sleep. Have a great night

[GoldCoCouple 4,070]

Personally, we think that swinging is a team sport and as such, if one of us isn't up to the game, we take a rain check (under the one says no equals two saying no rule) and play on a different day. This way there can be no problems or hurt feelings. Just a thought...