Want to share wife

[RnD 15]

So me and wife have been married for 3 years, been together for 4 years and have known each other for 15 years. We both came from sexless relationships that we were both very unhappy in. We had an affair for about a year before we both ended it with our spouses and ran away together.

 

In our past relationships we had both cheated numerous times and used to tell each other about it (she'd tell me more than I'd tell her) and it was a huge turn on. For some reason I have a weakness for married women cheating.

 

Anyways... we are very happily married and I am finally with someone I can be totally honest with. We are both very sexual and more and more often we talk/role play about her with another man. It's a huge fantasy of mine and she is very into the idea. I have no desire to be with another woman and so it doesn't come up in conversation.

 

We have been talking about this and role playing for at least 2.5 years but how do I take the next step? I'd love to find a younger guy in his mid-late 20's with a rockin body to really put it to her. I've looked on Craigslist but don't trust any of those weirdos. I've talked to a few people on my tumblr but that's it. No real connections. I want a guy that isn't just there to just "fuck" my wife and leave. The other thing is I don't want word to "get out" kinda thing that it happened or is happening.

 

So where do we-I find our MR Right?

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We have been talking about this and role playing for at least 2.5 years but how do I take the next step?

 

Ask her if she is interested. It's as simple and as hard as that. Don't waste time with Craigslist, not even a second. Most guys are either trying to cheat or won't be able to perform when the time comes. Join one of the swingers sites (most are free, use Find Swingers at top of the page). Finding a single guy is like finding air...hard not to find unless you are looking not to find it. However, make sure that you are both strong enough in your relationship to withstand this. Swinging is a magnifying glass...it will make your relationship grow larger if things are all good, but it can burn you if there is any weaknesses. Good luck and let us know how things progress.

 

BTW, I think what you are looking for is called a 'hotwife'

[junkyard38 21]

This discussion seems like very one sided, does your wife have the same feelings you do? She may not want to be exploited, with the so called rock hod young stud. Be very careful whom you try and choose for her. I think this is a fantasy for you.

[RnD 15]

She is very into it. It's not one sided. The last guy she was messing around with was a young gym rat (that was very hung) and she really liked the sex with him.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Maybe your wife can find someone at a bar or the gym? If you're looking for a one time thing I've heard hotel bars that cater to business travelers are good places to look. If you want a friends with benefits scenario you could join a swinger site like sls and go to events and clubs that allow single men.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Yep, if you want to find swingers, then go where the swingers go and that's 1) clubs, and 2) online, meaning sites like SLS and Swingtowns...that's their whole reason for existence, putting swingers in contact with other swingers.

 

funcouple's idea about hotel bars is a good one too, just be aware I wouldn't call the guys you find there swingers, so they might not be seeing things the same as you do when it comes to where they fit into this equation like an experienced swinger would.

[RnD 15]

Please note: You say you want a young guy who can 'really put it to her' yet don't want someone who is just there to fuck your wife.

 

I guess "put it to her" was a bad way to say it. I guess I'd like to find a partner, not just a one time thing.

[yorktownvaguy 76]

you might want to check a site called ourhotwives dot org. I find it a very legitimate site with good information pointers and people telling their experience. There is also a personal section.

[OpenMindedPair 35]

Good idea. Thinking of an intimate cozy hotel bar after dinner on date night just to bump into a new online friend with potential.