Our first real swinging experience

[Scaredstiff 129]

OK first of all this may be a little tame for most so if slow and gentle isn't your thing maybe skip this post lol.

 

Saturday just gone we went to a club for the 2nd time. Our first club visit involved me and the wife fucking in front of others but no swapping at all.

 

It was fancy dress and we were kitted out like American cops , Mrs Scared looked incredible with her very short skin tight black uniform and her cleavage attempting to bust the seams.

The club was busy and it was obvious that a lot of people there were in groups and the people that had made us feel so welcome on our first visit were otherwise engaged talking to others, this made us go into our shell a little to be honest and we had a hard time finding the courage to strike up conversation with anybody. However , that all changed when this really tall good looking lady and her man came over to us and started up a conversation, they recounted some of their experiences and answered our questions , and both were quite witty and well spoken so we soon felt very comfortable around them.

 

The other lady went over to the pole and started going through a routine, wow, she was good , her legs went on forever and yet she was incredibly agile on the pole, she showed my wife a simple move and she tried it too.

We talked a little more and the other lady said "I'm just putting this out there , we really like you two and if you feel like going up to the playrooms we would very much be up for that" wow... reality check moment! It was time to go hard or go home, I asked my wife if she was OK with it and she said she would like to do some stuff with the girl but she wasn't sure she was ready for another man. My head exploded right there, until very recently my wife has shown no interest in her bi side whatsoever, but obviously me being a guy, it had been a big fantasy of mine since forever.

We headed upstairs, the 2 girls arm in arm.

We found a bed and all sat down, my wife was clutching her wine glass like it was the only thing keeping her alive , the other guy took her glass and the other lady asked if she could kiss my wife, they kissed each other so softly and sensually I was desperately trying not to blink.

The other lady said "I'm going to take your dress off now" and she unzipped it right the way down the front, she also asked if she could remove my wifes bra but alas my wife said no, and then chimed in with "you can remove my knickers though" game on!

My wife has large natural boobs which I love but she has always had a hang up about them, she didn't feel comfortable letting others see them just yet.

 

The girls kissed for ages and the other lady asked for permission to go further every step of the way, it was a really nice touch I thought, she knew my wife had never been with a girl before.

As she kissed her way down my wife's body I could feel my heart beat quicken , then as she started to gently lick my wifes pussy my head was swimming, my wife made noises I'd never heard , that alone made me so horny, I held her hand for a while until my wife said "I can't take any more, it's my turn now". The other lady insisted that she didn't expect the favour to be returned but my wife insisted that she wanted to try it for the first time. The other lady was very vocal in her enjoyment as my wife had her first taste of pussy, I actually wondered for a second if this really was the first time she had done it lol.

 

The girls kissed some more and the other lady asked what my wife wanted to do next and she said she wanted to go back to their own husbands.

My wife immediately climbed on top of me and began moaning really loudly as my cock entered her, she was obviously very turned on, the other guy got oral from his wife before they started fucking and I have to admit I felt a little cheated that I didn't get any oral, when I asked her about it the next day my wife said she was sorry but she just needed my cock really bad.

 

I undid my wifes bra as she rode me and the other couple commented on how sexy her boobs looked, I think they both realised my wife was self conscious of her boobs and I thought that was a really classy touch by them.

We fucked side by side in various positions and everytime I looked over at them it just felt so erotic it was mind blowing.

Eventually we got dressed and said our goodbyes, we went back to our hotel and fucked until 4am.

On reflection we had an amazing time and the other couple were largely responsible for that, we both feel very lucky to have stumbled across such a considerate pair for our first experience.

 

We're now trying to pluck up the courage to ask them if they'd like to meet again lol

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

 

A wonderful first step into the LS and a great story. As for your wife's breasts...from looking at your avatar, she shouldn't have any problems with her absolutely stunning chest. Thanks for sharing (the story and the picture of your wife's boobs).

[SASS 69]

WHOAH what a great story! we have never been to a club or party before, and honestly Im not sure I am interested, but I really enjoyed reading about your experience. Thanks for sharing!!

[Scaredstiff 129]

Mrs scared is still getting butterflies in her stomach everytime she thinks about it bless her lol

[Scaredstiff 129]

WHOAH what a great story! we have never been to a club or party before, and honestly Im not sure I am interested, but I really enjoyed reading about your experience. Thanks for sharing!!

 

We found the thought of going down this path very intimidating to begin with, we weren't sure of anything, but we've taken things slow at our own pace , sometimes it's been my wife putting the brakes on and sometimes it's been me , but we're making the trip together.

We had body image issues, neither of us liked how we looked all that much, but just a few months in and our confidence is sky high, it's an amazing thing for me to see my wife starting to be comfortable in her own skin, it really isn't just about the sex, going on this journey has already improved our relationship in every department.

[SASS 69]

It has improved ours as well. both crazed and I are still not sure the club/party scene is for us but we enjoy the individual playmates we meet.

[Scaredstiff 129]

It has improved ours as well. both crazed and I are still not sure the club/party scene is for us but we enjoy the individual playmates we meet.

 

I suppose we feel more comfortable at a club because there isn't any pressure to stick to that one couple if things aren't quite clicking, and we feel it would be easier to just get up and leave if things turned sour.

But yeah from our little experience above I would say a club environment can be distracting, we were in an open play area so anybody could come and have a look (some did) in hindsight we would have preferred a lockable room ( none available at the time ) and we can now see that a home/hotel meet might be more relaxed (nether of us could reach orgasm, too much going on/too much drink/not relaxed enough)

My wife is iffy about going to other people's homes though, she thinks she would need to get to know the other couple much more than one social for example.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We have found that not only does it make us feel better about ourselves, but it also provides motivation to work on improving how we look (i.e. exercise and eat like we know we should but all too often don't). But telling someone that this is a side effect is different from actually experiencing it.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

It has improved ours as well. both crazed and I are still not sure the club/party scene is for us but we enjoy the individual playmates we meet.

 

I did not think the club/party scene was for me either, but this is not really the same thing as a normal club/party. It's totally worth a visit. With people online, you are not even sure if they are really who or what they say they are. At the club, you are looking at them and know they are really a couple, not just a guy. You know what they look like, not what they may have looked like 5-10 years ago. You know they are at least interested(if not totally ready) in actually meeting other couples, not just teasing around and talking online. After spending so much time dealing with fakes and flakes online, it was very refreshing to go to the club and find actual real people looking for the same things we were. It's amazing and we are hooked, despite feeling exactly how you do right now.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

I suppose we feel more comfortable at a club because there isn't any pressure to stick to that one couple if things aren't quite clicking, and we feel it would be easier to just get up and leave if things turned sour.

But yeah from our little experience above I would say a club environment can be distracting, we were in an open play area so anybody could come and have a look (some did) in hindsight we would have preferred a lockable room ( none available at the time ) and we can now see that a home/hotel meet might be more relaxed (nether of us could reach orgasm, too much going on/too much drink/not relaxed enough)

My wife is iffy about going to other people's homes though, she thinks she would need to get to know the other couple much more than one social for example.

 

People watching us just made it better for us. When people would stop and watch, she take my dick even further down her throat to show off, or I would give it to her a little extra hard, because people were watching. Big turn on for us, but different people are different.

 

As far as parties, that's another great thing about the club, it's a great place to meet people. Just because you meet people there does not mean you need to play there, but it is a great way to meet people in the Lifestyle and just hang out with them. Yeah, both times we have gone we ended up having sex, but we saw plenty of other people who did not. They were just there, mingling, talking to other people and then left by themselves. So you can meet other people there and if you click, they may invite you to a house party or something, or let you know of one they heard about or something, and then you have already gotten to know them since you met them at the club and either did or did not already play with them.

 

Long and short, and I know this from reading here and tlaking to people at the club, most people expectations of the club is that it's a place there only for the sex and it's one giant orgy or something. That's not the case at all. Both times we went, most of the people there did not go back to the play rooms and most had all their clothes on as well, with quite a few just dressed normally, not even extra sexy or anything. That's not to say there were not plenty of women walking around in bra and panties and plenty of people in the play rooms playing, just that it's not most. Most are just there to hang out and meet other like-minded people. We have had 2 different couples tell us straight out they are not there to play at all, just meet people. Don't go to the club expecting to have sex, even with each other. Just go expecting to have a good time and meet people. If the mood strikes you, you can have sex with each other of course and if you meet the right couple and things click, great! Just don't go with that expectation at all. if you go with that expectation, it's going to make the nerves higher and make things more difficult for you.

[SASS 69]

one primary reason I don't think I would like the club is because I have extreme social anxiety. just look at how long Crazed has been a member here, compared to how long I have. it took me a long time to warm up to posting here. and it's online! when we go out to dinner, we go late, when we know most of the crowds have left. If I can't be comfortable with people in a crowded room with my clothes on, and them not wanting or caring to look at me, how would I feel in a club? also, what do you wear? And isn't it weird watching all that sex? I did really enjoy reading about your experience and I felt like maybe it's not so bad...if I could get over the anxiety. oh, and I am just like Mrs. scared. everyone we have played with have either been friends or chatted with for over a year and met in person several times. so I don't know how I would feel about going to a club where people would be looking at me and wanting to play with me, or finding me lacking(this I fear more than the first)

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

one primary reason I don't think I would like the club is because I have extreme social anxiety. just look at how long Crazed has been a member here, compared to how long I have. it took me a long time to warm up to posting here. and it's online! when we go out to dinner, we go late, when we know most of the crowds have left. If I can't be comfortable with people in a crowded room with my clothes on, and them not wanting or caring to look at me, how would I feel in a club? also, what do you wear? And isn't it weird watching all that sex? I did really enjoy reading about your experience and I felt like maybe it's not so bad...if I could get over the anxiety. oh, and I am just like Mrs. scared. everyone we have played with have either been friends or chatted with for over a year and met in person several times. so I don't know how I would feel about going to a club where people would be looking at me and wanting to play with me, or finding me lacking(this I fear more than the first)

 

My wife has pretty severe social anxiety as well. Luckily, the mood in the club is pretty chill and that helped tremendously. After being there not that long, she was the one who wanted to go back to the play room, not me. You don't have to talk to people, just go early sit and chill. At out club at least, they open at 9 but things don't really get going until about 11. So go at 9 when it's slow, grab a table and leave if it gets too crowded for you. That was our plan, we ended up not leaving until we were getting kicked out though.

 

What do you wear? Whatever! I saw people there in suits and ties, in bras and panties, in jeans and t-shirts, slacks and polos, revealing dresses, lingerie...all types were pretty much covered. Just wear whatever you are comfortable in.

 

For me, no, watching all that sex is not weird, it really turns me on. If it's weird for you though, simply do not go back to the play areas. They are sectioned off from the main areas. No phones and stuff allowed back there either. Depending on the club, some do not allow any clothing at all back there, but not at ours. Here, you can go back there fully clothed and just watch if you want, as long as curtains are open and you don't linger in the semi-private area too long. If you are uncomfortable watching others have sex, you don't have to go back there. If you are uncomfortable having sex in front of others, don't go back there! Just use it as a place to meet people and if you ever do change your mind, the play area is still there.

 

Honestly, to me anyway, it sounds like you are more scared of the play area then the actual club, but in your mind it is not a separate place. Be scared of the play area all you want, that's where all the things you are saying you are scared of or weirded out by are happening. Just don't go back there your first few visits, or at all, until you are comfortable with it. Stick to the main area which has none of what you are worried about.

 

As far as people looking at you and wanting to play with you...don't know what to say there. For us that's a turn on. However, at our club, at least in the main area, people are not staring at you. You may catch someone glancing your way now and then, but really, IMO, it's no different then looking around the room at a restaurant. Yeah, you occasionally see someone glancing your way, but most people are minding their own business, dancing or talking to the people they are there with. So far, other than the couple that approached us in the play room(only because we left curtain open) and one other couple, who really just the wife said hi to my wife, we have not had people staring at us or otherwise bothering us in the least.

 

As for people finding you lacking, you have to go to see there are a wide variety of people there of all shapes and sizes. Yeah, you may not be attractive to some, but to others I can almost guarantee you will be. Myself for example, there were some ladies there, you know the type, super skinny model type, skin and bones. I find that sickening myself, but they seemed to be getting a fair amount of attention, people just saying hi and chatting a bit as they passed. Different people have different tastes. There will always be some that do not find you lacking, that's a fact of life, sorry. It will not be everyone though, I can promise you that.

 

Keep in mind though, this is the club in my city, yours may be different. Don't take this as me trying to get you to go either, I am just trying to let you know, it's likely not what you are envisioning in your head.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Our club is not like a normal club it IS really weird! Because everybody is friendly without being pushy and they're all really respectful of my wife, especially the guys that were there, so not like a normal club where everybody stands around staring at each other lol.

Not trying to make fun of your predicament at all just agreeing with the above post that it's probably not at all like you imagine, first time we saw people having sex I was actually too dumbstruck to find it arousing in anyway lol, but the overwhelming vibe we took away from that night was just how natural it all seemed , that's the bit that surprised us the most, how comfortable and at ease we felt within minutes of entering the place, I hate regular clubs for what it's worth, they don't usually play my kind of music and usually full of self loving prima donnas, the swing club was the opposite of everything that's bad about normal clubs

[michaelbrownvm 15]

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[dan63 106]

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Just to save everyone else who also not a Danish speaker I took the time to run google translate on michaelbrownvm post above. As follows:

 

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[Scaredstiff 129]

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