Old partner back for more

[udsarge 119]

So my wife and I used to swing with another couple. We had times where we played with both the wife and the husband and times when we had one on one full swaps. After playing with them for a year or so we had a falling out. Mainly my wife and the other wife butted heads severely and we no longer were playing. The thing was that the other husband and my wife became friends but their friendship ended because of the other conflicts with the other wife. Just recently the old husband from that couple wanted to play with my wife again, but without getting his wife's permission. Has anyone ever had this type of issue before? Have you had a time where one partner from a previous consensual/open swinging relationship had it turn into wanting to get some fun on the side outside of swapping? For full disclosure my wife said no she didn't want to be sneaking around the other wife no matter how much they butted heads. Whether we full swapped or did one on one swaps, it was always with the permission of all involved.

[junkyard38 21]

That spells trouble big time. Like a stick of dynamite one hell of a big blow up.

[padoc 1,704]

Too bad it didn't work out with that couple, but we view swinging as a team sport, our team, their team. Sometimes we'll allow a pinch hitter or a pool player but ONLY with the other team's knowledge and consent. It has happened to us on several occasions when the other husband has tried to join us on the sly or get Mrs Doc to play alone. The answer is always an emphatic no.

[bbarnsworth 2,668]

The only time we did something remotely like that was a guy who got divorced. We knew him and her, but she was gone...long gone.

 

Here, there is nothing but trouble with this scenario. Don't even think about it. There is nothing good that can come from it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,072]

Have you had a time where one partner from a previous consensual/open swinging relationship had it turn into wanting to get some fun on the side outside of swapping?

 

No, not EVER an option.

[BobGann 40]

Like others, I can see where you might include someone from the past who has divorced their partner if everyone gets along. Doing so in the situation you describe sounds like a powder keg waiting to go off when she finds out, and she will.

[luvin eye full 140]

Just walk away from it - part of the LS for us is trust - so any couple that has trust issues ( not telling is included in our view ) we would avoid like STD's lol.