The after-sex (no desire)

[cSwing 45]

Is it normal to not have a burning desire for your partner after a romp with others? We have participated in swaps before with other couples and the sex between us in the following days was great and surprisingly charged, but we have never had sex immediately following play with others (I.e same night).

 

When I envision what I'd feel (female side) I don't foresee or feel myself having a drawn affect to the Mr. It's great we had fun, but I just don't see it or feel it in this moment.

 

What is the driving force behind the urgency to have sex with your spouse after they have just been with another?? Am I missing something? Am I not receptive to the emotion enough? Am I blocking something? It seems like this isn't a natural occurance or feeling and it's not fatigue that I envision that's stopping me. It's an emotion

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Has happened to me. My vote is, "you're normal".

[cSwing 45]

Good! I was worried that it was an indication of jealousy or something. I've read a lot of couples experience a euphoric feeling and heightened desire for their S/O, but I mostly don't after swinging. I wish I knew why. Seems like such a great after-experience.

[lnw 145]

Not everyone feels the same way so I am not sure what is "normal". For us, it is always about reconnecting with each other right after. Some of the best sex is "reconnecting" sex. We have been together a long time and have a great relationship together. I don't have any answer, just what works for us.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

What is the driving force behind the urgency to have sex with your spouse after they have just been with another?? Am I missing something? Am I not receptive to the emotion enough? Am I blocking something? It seems like this isn't a natural occurance or feeling and it's not fatigue that I envision that's stopping me. It's an emotion

 

I have sensed it too. I'll let my wife enjoy the moment if I think she is "in the zone" for the man who just gave her a very satisfying experience. We'll reconnect later. This is what makes sharing so exciting.

[Guest]

The difference between boys and girls. We do a swap, husband gets done with her and is done. I get done with the other guy, and I’m ready for another round. Thankfully, hubby allows me my passions.

[cSwing 45]

Thank everyone for the reassurance. xoxo

[3waypleasure 58]

The difference between boys and girls. We do a swap, husband gets done with her and is done. I get done with the other guy, and I’m ready for another round. Thankfully, hubby allows me my passions.

 

We consider swinging as just foreplay. My wife is usually left in very horny state and still wanting more (lots more). She is usually begging for me to fuck her as soon as the other guy finishes.

[Sophy 569]

We always have sex after a play session,

Once at home we review our experience and recollect details of what just happened -> that bring us always a lot of eroticism and charge us both back.

[crazednymphos 38]

We had a get together with a friend a week ago and since then I seem to be having some difficulty maintaining arousal. She has not felt great recently so I am chalking it up as concern for her but.....?

[johnandlingf 25]

We are different in the fact although I am usually spent L is still on a high, but once she tells me about the feelings she had, the amount of orgasms she got and what her partner was like, this is often more than enough to get me ready again when we get home. And this is the one connection she needs to complete the evening for her.

[TwoFunTexans 103]

When we play it's usually at a house party or with friends we haven't seen in a while so we're having marathon sex. After those we're usually sore so it can take a day or two for either of us to heal enough to want sex. So normal for us! Lol

[AngelandTiger 364]

Is it normal to not have a burning desire for your partner after a romp with others? We have participated in swaps before with other couples and the sex between us in the following days was great and surprisingly charged, but we have never had sex immediately following play with others (I.e same night).

 

When I envision what I'd feel (female side) I don't foresee or feel myself having a drawn affect to the Mr. It's great we had fun, but I just don't see it or feel it in this moment.

 

What is the driving force behind the urgency to have sex with your spouse after they have just been with another?? Am I missing something? Am I not receptive to the emotion enough? Am I blocking something? It seems like this isn't a natural occurance or feeling and it's not fatigue that I envision that's stopping me. It's an emotion

 

Angel is usually not up for any further sex after a play session. I would gladly have what most of us term "reclaiming" or "re-connection" sex with her if she would be willing (it's a strong desire of mine), but mostly, we wait 'til next time. I would say you're "normal", as ridiculous a term as that is.

 

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