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By Dont.Stop
We are 40-somethings, less than six months into the lifestyle. But we've played plenty in that time. Met a couple a a party last weekend. 50-somethings, and plenty experienced. We got to talking and touching in the pool. While Mrs. DontStop and the male continued pool play, I led the female upstairs. Since it was obvious from the underwater action she was ready to mount me right there, I told as we headed up that we play safe. She said ok, but her husband didn't have any condoms.
We played upstairs and later they joined us. After some time he was ready to mount Mrs and we stopped him and said "You gotta wrap it first."
He didn't say much after that, and within in a few minutes he said he was taking a break and left the room, and us in a FMF situation.
Did we fail here, not expressing safe play to him ahead of time?
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By funat40
Hi, guys. Long-time lurker, first-time poster.
My wife and I have shared a long-time fantasy involving her blowing a room full of guys. Until recently, this was nothing more than a fantasy we would share in the "heat of the moment." But recently, we decided to turn this fantasy into a reality. We recruited a bunch of single guys from a popular swinger's web site, picked a date, and planned to book a hotel room.
However...the closer we got to this date, the colder our feet became. So we contacted all the guys to let them know the "event" has been put on hold.
The issue for us is the threat of contracting some nasty STD. We've done extensive reading on the subject, and every legitimate site advises you to never have oral sex without a condom, dental dam, etc.. But let's face it -- they HAVE to give you that advice. Of course there is a risk of contracting an STD through oral sex, and to advise someone to have unprotected oral sex would be considered reckless.
But realistically, no one wants to use a condom or dental dam for oral sex. (It would ruin our fantasy, frankly.) No couple we have ever been with has used protection for oral sex. And no one really knows the risk factors involved in having unprotected oral sex (because most people don't limit their exposure to only oral sex.) In reality, some STD's can (and are) transmitted through kissing, hot tubs and even skin-to-skin contact. And statistics show that more than half the people in the US over age 21 have some form of STD. Some STD's don't show up in testing, and others don't reveal themselves through symptoms for weeks, months or even years (if ever.) So most people with STD's don't even know they have them!
We've also read that when performing unprotected oral sex, it is safest to either swallow the cum immediately (letting the stomach acid kill the bacteria) or spit it out immediately. Either way, you are risking exposure to STD's through the exchange of bodily fluids and the thin membranes in the mouth and throat. So, whether you spit, swallow or stop before it gets to the point, you are equally at risk.
The thing is, as swingers, she has sucked several dicks without protection. Were they safer because they were married dicks? Are married guys safer than single guys? If a married guy's wife sucked a dozen dicks the week before you met them, wouldn't having sex with her be just as risky as sucking a dozen dicks yourself?
I guess my question is: is there any more risk in blowing a room full of single guys than having sex with a married couple who may have had unprotected sex with dozens of others prior to meeting you?
Is there a "safe way" to fulfill this fantasy of ours? Or are some fantasies better left as fantasies?
You all give great opinions here, and we value your advice. Thanks in advance.
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By Mr. Truelove
Anyone have any tips for increasing sensitivity while using condoms? I've heard some people put a little extra lube on the inside of the condom, but I'd be a little worried it would fall off during intercourse then.
We've been using lifestyles skyn and some other assortments of lifestyles condoms, and they all seemed pretty much the same to me. The people we tend to play with almost always have a latex allergy so non-latex is the way to go.
Keeping hard isn't the problem... but getting "there" is! I usually get tired, call it a night, and plan on finishing with my wife after. But it's just a little downer not to be able to get there with a play partner.
I've only came twice so far using condoms with play partners and it's quite frustrating. I'm sure a big part of it is mental and not just the condoms, but it sure could help to have a little help. lol!
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By foozballnow
Hey everyone,
I know it has to have happened to some or most of you. You are in the middle of your full swap having your way with the other spouse when all of a sudden you or they realize the condom came off!
Knock on wood this has not happened to us yet. We would just like to know what everyone's course of action was after this happened? A friendly fishing expedition maybe?
Did you put a new one on and go at it? Or decide that it was a moot point by then...
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By Spoomonkey
I was talking to a friend here about an experience we had with a single male some time ago. It was a first "play" situation and we were clear that condoms were expected.
The guy turned out to be fairly well endowed; the kind of gear that requires the larger size wrapper. When "condom time" arrived he pulled out one of the cheap thick skinned, average size condoms that you might buy in a truck stop bathroom.
Needless to say - it didn't fit.
He couldn't put it on and maintain his erection.
This led to him asking (in a mock casual voice) if we ever play without.
End play date.
It struck me as a bit odd that a guy who said he had a lot of experience seemed to have no clue what condom size he needed. Was it a ploy to go without? Did he really buy one at the last minute when he knew ahead of time that there would be play? Did he simply have no experience with "safe sex"?
I actually use condoms that would have worked and did have mine with me, but the whole thing felt wrong to me. So - I let him flounder and leave. After all, I don't use condoms with Mrs Spoo and couldn't have been expected to provide them. I didn't feel very benevolent.
I have had men right before play come to me and ask if I had one. Spur of the moment situations can leave anyone in a bind. I have no problem with that and do carry extra just in case that happens. But this wasn't a "spur of the moment" kind of thing.
Mrs Spoo was upset as well and was glad I didn't offer one of mine.
What would you have done? And do you know what condom size works for you? How long did it take you to figure that out?
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