First time in the books

[3sumfun38 26]

We went to Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale for a key and lock party. This was our first time at any type of club like this . The club was very clean and laid out well, the food was good and staff were very helpful to us newbies. We met some really nice people and a couple that were not our cup of tea per say, we eventually met a group of friends that met up for the night and they took us right in to the group. We danced and made conversation for a while . Now just some back story ,we said that we could not just jump into full swap the first time out and we had discussed what our rules were for the night and decided that we were up for soft swap at most for our first time. So after we met this couple we made our way to the play area which was very clean and had many areas to play, mind you everything was new to us and it was a lot to take in for one night. The Mrs. is a little more cautious and slow to try anything new , but she jumped in and before we knew it we were swapping and I have to admit I was a little afraid of how I would feel watching another man have sex with my wife, but as soon as it started all my worries went away ,I was really turned on by watching my wife have sex with this other guy and to hear her moaning with enjoyment told me she was at ease as well. The other couple was experienced and were very respectful to us and made sure not to push us into anything we were not ready to do. So once we started we all did oral, and then we moved on and had sex for what seemed like two hours, both the other male and myself had some problems finishing but we both did , could have been the alcohol or nerves? The feeling of another person other than your wife is confusing somewhat because you usually know what your spouse likes or wants, with a new person you need to learn fast, they both told us what they liked during sex and it helped alot to get everybody off. We left after we played and checked the time and it was about 3:00 a.m. did not seem that late. Overall it was a great experience and we will be doing it again.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

 

Sounds like you both had a great time. Welcome to the club.

 

...could have been the alcohol or nerves?

 

Most likely a combination of the two. Sometimes it's hard for the mind to accept what it is seeing. Eventually it will, just don't worry about it. No matter what, as long as you enjoyed yourself it doesn't matter if you 'finish' or not. Thanks for sharing!

[3sumfun38 26]

Thanks for the advice and yes we both had a blast and are still talking about it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

BTW: What is a 'key and lock' party? Is it just a key party but the women are given locks instead of house keys?

[adamgunn 1,460]

At lock and key parties, women are given locks, men are given keys. Usually, three or four keys fit each lock. So the guys go around, trying to fit their key in girl's locks. A good ice-breaker, usually vanilla.

 

I've attended similar events where the guys are given various sized metal screws, the girls get the nuts; I even attended one swinger house party that did that.

[sweetsnspeed 52]

So at a lock and key party, or key party or nuts bolts party, when a person finds the corresponding other half (lock and key, nut and bolt, etc) does that indicate that they are supposed to get together? Sounds kind of contradictory to the only do what your comfortable with belief about swinging.

[3sumfun38 26]

it's more of a way to break the ice and start a conversation , worked pretty well from what we saw and experienced. we didn't hook up with either of the people that fit our lock or key.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

That's what I thought, just wanted to make sure.

[MixxedCpl360 29]

Congrats. Seems like a good time had by all. I'm still waiting for my first swinging experience with another couple (at least one where I get to participate too). You should feel lucky to have such an adventurous wife.

[3sumfun38 26]

Well to be honest we originally started looking for a threesome with another woman , and after reading about how hard it was to find one and trying for a while I told her it looked like it was almost impossible so we started looking into swinging with couples instead. we were both scared and this was not her normal mentality about sex , i think it actually helped her , it did help the frequency of sex between us. I cannot tell you how proud i am that she was willing to try this and we are already making plans for our next kid free weekend.