How many play partners is normal in one night?

[Markjorge1 59]

My wife and I are wondering how many play partners in one night is normal. We have had lots of discussions and would like to play with two different couples during the night and possibly play with a group of several couples. Is that setting our sites too high or is that normal?

Also, when you play with a couple, hoe long does a session last?

[Napoleon 230]

Personal preference is the answer.

 

Me and my three girlfriends don't play with other swingers. Myself and either one of my three girlfriends attend events to have sex with each other while others are watching. We only like being watched having sex, not playing with other swingers. That's our preference.

[SexyRedmondCpl 128]

Napoleon is right. It's very much on a night-by-night, couple-by-couple basis. Our evenings are generally long on foreplay with a single couple, but we've played in groups or (independently) with multiple couples in a night if the mood is right and we find folks we click with.

 

The great thing about the lifestyle is that there's almost always someone out there who wants the same thing you do.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

The correct answer here is whatever number you two decide upon...however more than three in one night (for the guy at least) is impressive

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Two playmates in one evening is well within the Six Sigma. My typical is one playmate but I have had as many as three. Typical for my wife is three or four.

 

As the other members have implied, you should have no concern for what is normal. Go for what feels good for the situation. As we in Pittsburg say, yinz shud relax; it's jus' sex n'at.

[couplers 4,655]

As we in Pittsburg say...

 

Isn't Pittsburgh spelled with an "h?"

[Guest]

Most typically, its one time an evening. But, at times, for example at a couples club, if things get started early and you hang around for a while, we may being chatting with another couple and end up with a 2nd time. More often though, in those situations, we’ll watch some group activity and hubby encourages me to get involved so its once a night for him, 2, occasionally 3, in those rare instances.

[adamgunn 1,460]

The 'normal' number, for us, changed from day to day, experience to experience. We started out in foursomes, but within five weeks we found ourself in an orgy, she got poked three times that night. The most I ever remember her with was at a house party, I think she played with seven or eight men.

 

My guess is, assuming there was more than one guy around for her to play with, her average was 2.4937.

 

So, I guess, that's our 'normal.'

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Isn't Pittsburgh spelled with an "h?"

Not if you're a real yinzer.

[kikonkrome 844]

Max is I guess three. Kinda have to get started early to get 'more' in. Three would also mean group play. At least that has been our experience. Kinda need to rest after that.

[couplers 4,655]

Not if you're a real yinzer.

 

Then call it by the original name, Fort Duquesne."

[LagniappeDC 313]

We've found the answer can vary wildly based on the night/situation - even if it's the same couples both times. One night you may just want to stay with one couple. Other nights there is a lot more swapping going on. Sometimes we'll reall take our time with one couple and stretch it out over a while, other times it's more heat of the moment quickie style. One thing we love is that this is like a "choose your own adventure" type fun...though we always say to really avoid going into situations with any preconceived notions of what may or may not happen. We've found that is the quickest way to a disappointing evening. Just enjoy the ride ;-)

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

For some reason, I just started laughing after reading the question for the umpteenth time: how many play partners is 'normal'...what part of that question is even close to being 'normal'

[swingster 17]

One or two couples per night ;-P

[Markjorge1 59]

We are excited to play and explore and meet a few new couples to play with!

[JessicaJamison 862]

Well that depends on your stamina stud, realistically how many times can you get it up.  Realistically how many times can your wife go in a night.