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Hi all. This is my first post. My husband and I are new to swinging. With his job we are unable to really pursue swinging locally so our options are kind of limited. We do have a second home in another state so we typically try to look there or wait for our trips to Desire. With this, our playing doesn't get to happen like we would like. We have some friends who asked us about Desire and we took them there. Since they are friends we haven't really approached them about the possibility of playing. They have never played with anyone but I do know they are looking to spice up their marriage. They are close friends, but becoming closer.

 

Anyone ever approached this? TIA

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I am going to make a prediction--virtually all the replies from the experienced and the wise members of this board will tell you "DON'T DO IT!" They will tell you the potential risks are just too high and too predictably unfortunate. They are the voices of experience and reason, they will be right.

 

Maybe there is a contrary view? What if your "close friends" have as much to lose from disclosure of these activities as you do? "Close friends" don't always stay close and can become estranged, so don't ignore that potential--guard against blackmail by knowing that you are not the only ones at risk.

 

Affairs involving sex are risky, even with just two people, but life would be boring and not rewarding if everyone was unwilling to take the risk. Whatever you do, keep us posted.

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Good point.

 

I'm thinking our lifestyle fun may be limited until my husband retires. LOL Then we won't worry so much.

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It worked for us with a former colleague of Mrs Doc. She came to visit us in Fla, they talked about all kinds of things while floating in the pool while I was working, including our hobby, and Trapeze. On the 3rd day, I got a call from my wife reporting that they were naked in the pool and I should get home asap. We had a great afternoon and evening which included the friend sending pictures of the 3 of us together to her boyfriend with the invitation to, as she put it, "get your ass down here". He did, we all played, we took them to Trapeze and introduced them to the club. We got together several times after that week here or in Pa. Eventually, their relationship failed (not related to swinging) but she continues to visit and is likely coming again after Memorial Day.

 

We were very fortunate with this friend but by and large, we'd urge caution in trying to "turn" friends. On the other hand, you said you took this couple to Desire. The genie is out of the bottle, I see no harm in asking if they're interested in exploring further.

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There is some risk to a friendship when swinging is introduced. You must weigh that risk for every couple with whom you consider swinging, friends or strangers.

 

My late wife and I didn't swing with strangers. The less you know someone, the more likely a problem will surface. One problem we didn't want to surface was a Sexually Transmitted Disease. While swapping with friends does not totally remove that possibility, it does give a couple the opportunity to access the risk. We chose our play couples based on their exposure. If their marriage was strong and their communication developed, we communicated with them and assessed the likelihood of their being offended by learning that we played. If there was a possible problem, we didn't ask.

 

It's not likely y'all will find a couple who have never slept with anyone else. We did, once in our twenty-seven year marriage. (30 years together.)

 

My advice is to get to know the other couple well. Learn how they think. Consider the possible pitfalls before asking. When you ask, don't invite. Learn about how they think. Laura's favorite way to open the conversation was to ask, "How do y'all feel about swinging?" That question does not ask for a decision, but an opinion. Learn, learn, learn.

 

I wish y'all the best of luck!

 

Alura

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Her and I have talked about her wanting to bring some desire to her and her husband's bedroom. She said she wouldn't mind seeing him with someone else and he has flat out said he would swing so I know they are open to it. I'm just not sure if they are with us. Heck, they may be thinking the same thing. We did play a game that got kinda wild one time. She blew her husband in front of us and her and I kissed but that is as far as it went and we were all drinking pretty heavily. I guess I worry about it being so close to home. My husband is a DR and we need to be very careful. Then again this couple is in the same boat with needing to keep things private. I guess we just need to play some more games and see where things go maybe.

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I'm one of the people who usually strongly recommend against trying to make swingers out of friends. I stick by that by still saying proceed with extreme caution if you decide to go forward. But, there are several things going on here that are different than the usual scenario. One, the topic has at least come up some and no big red flags here. Two, you went with them to Desire and that went ok. Three, by many people's definition, you have already had a swinging experience with them - alcohol induced or not, it happened, and no apparent repercussions so it's reasonable to wonder what else may be possible there.

 

I think your last sentence is the key - I can't think of much or anything really in swinging that is better when you rush into it, so just keep going along and see where it leads. Also, I'd try to leave room for a graceful retreat on both sides should you take a step too far, that way a "no thanks" doesn't have to mean feelings of awkwardness and potentially the end of the friendship.

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NORMALLY, the recommendation is to stay away from trying to make friends into swingers. There's too much of a chance that they aren't ready, can't handle, or will just be shocked at the suggestion and let the neighborhood know what you two do with your spare time. Usually it is much better, easier, and safer to make friends of swingers instead of swingers from friends...but in your case it sounds like they might already be on that path to becoming swingers.

 

Don't make this so hard. Next time you all get together (or maybe just the women), talk to her/them about what has happened. How did they feel about the trip to Desire and/or giving her husband oral in front of them? Ask them if they have done more (or anything) with anyone else? They might just be afraid of bringing it up, especially since they know that you two have 'more experience' than they do (you've started and they really haven't done anything other than express interest) and are hoping you will say something. Ask them and see what their feelings are...

 

At the same time, remember that there will always the risk that word may get out among your friends and neighbors, especially if their relationship has problems in the future. It doesn't sound like that much of a risk here, but be aware that there's still a risk. Let us know how things go for all of you.

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I'm not even going to read all the replies.

 

In years past when I first started I tried approching this subject with a few friends.

 

I learnt very quickly NEVER to ask normal friends about this.

 

Sadly playing with someone you know well / someone who knows your jobs / someone who knows where you work / someone who knows your family / someone who knows your routine / is all very bad and has a habit of blowing up in your face.

 

My general approach towards swing is to meet someone new who knows nothing about your family / work / other friends / hang outs / hobbies and so on. The less they know the safer things feel.

 

I know at the time it seems like a great idea, at the time you think this certain friend is perfect, sadly when it goes wrong they end up telling people you know, they end up spreading gossip about you, they can cause you a lot of damage by letting out such secrets.

 

Just my personal opinion really but I'd never ask a friend or anyone I work with, to risky.

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I'm happy to swing with friends, but I have a rule about it, I will not be their first and I want to see that they are still happily married 6 months or so after they start to swing. IMO swinging has the potential to blow up relationships and when it comes to friends, I'm not going to be the stick of dynamite that does it.

 

So, what I have done is talk to such friends about our experiences, and if they are interested in moving forward I will help them find the right sites to be on, help them get set up, talk to them about what to expect and then let them find their own way.

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We read the many, many articles and opinions saying not to do it but, we have. I rationale was that we were doing it with total strangers, why wouldn’t be better with friends. So, it started as a birthday blow job for a guy had been a long time friend of mine but who bonded nicely with hubby and I as a couple when we started dating, grew into MFM with him and then regular time play, and willingness to play with others we know.

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I have this crazy hangup. Swinging with someone I have a long history with as strictly vanilla is a tough mental hurdle to get over. If we were introduced as lifestyle, even if we'd never played, it's different.

 

Mrs. Stop has a friend she's known for decades, and we've been hanging out with him and his wife. They know we are LS, and apparently that knowledge has kicked their own fantasies into gear. I suspect they've talked about having a woman for her, and now they won't have to potentially embarrass themselves looking for one.

 

He often sends us nudie pics of her. We haven't tried to talk them into doing anything, but they are increasingly curious. In the beginning they were on the fence. I told Mrs. Stop that perhaps one day we could play, but they weren't really ready yet. And she agreed.

 

It seems in the couple years since the talk started that we might actually do this sometime. It's one thing to be approached, it's another thing to hit up friends and try to work it into conversation. I guess you'd have to be somewhat flirty towards each already before trying to cross that bridge.

 

In the end it's probably easier to make friends out of swingers than the other way around.

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I've had one 3some with friends of mine and I found it more comfortable than the thought of strangers. Mind you they were open to it as it had been a flirty topic before. I think it depends on the friends. I wouldn't ask friends who haven't expressed any interest before. That might end badly. But with strangers you don't know who they really are.

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When we began, four of the five couples we swapped with were prior vanilla friends. One of the husbands was even a coworker of mine and another of the husbands was the contractor we hired to build us a house. We never, ever, had any problems after.

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I have a suggestion for feeling out friends who might be interested in swinging with you. First, if they aren't already flirting with you, don't go there. If they are:

I'm a writer and I've just written a scene in a story that I'll summarize briefly. A private Christmas party. Both women goaded each other into wearing very sexy, revealing dresses. Kisses under the mistletoe. Dancing where the women's breasts and bare asses were flashed by the revealing dresses. If it gets too much for someone, they will likely stop it. In my story, they didn't stop there.

Another real experience was changing a bridge game that only four of the six people could play and we didn't know how to play the game, so we suggested poker. When someone asked what stakes, I said, strip poker. My wife dealt, and the game started. I had a shirt and cutoffs on with no skivvies. I quickly lost two hands and was naked. Eventually all three women were topless and the game stopped there. The next weekend we repeated it and got naked, and then got into the shower together with much fondling. Two of the couples, us and one other, swapped, separate rooms. It ended with them getting nude with us once more, but no more sex, her choice not ours. We all remained friends after that.

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We don't proposition friends but we were once propositioned by friends in our vanilla circle.


Years ago (before kids) my wife had a co-worker friend (let's call her Tina) and occasionally we would hang out with her and her hubby.  One night the four of us had dinner at their place and after dinner, to our surprise, the hubby put porn on the TV.  As if this bold gesture wasn't enough, he announced his wife Tina recently had her nipples pierced and encouraged her to show us - and she did (they looked beautiful).

 

Our 'vanilla' friends had set the mood with porn and now the wife had her tits out.

 

My wife and I had swinging experience. We were active nudists, we had been to sex clubs... yet this moment of being hit on by our vanilla friends caught us off guard and felt very awkward.    Even though we were swingers things could have easily gone south then and there.

 

I decided to help and try to save the situation so I said "I think it's unfair that Tina is the only one with her tits out". At that moment all eyes went to my wife. I had totally put my wife on the spot and for a moment i thought she was going to kill me, but after a couple seconds of hesitation she pulled he shirt off over her head and now both ladies were topless at the dinner table.

 

The ice broke, the tension lifted, we began to laugh and flirt and to make a long story short we swapped with them and after that they were lifestyle friends and no longer vanilla friends.

 

But I wondered how they knew.  Did they see our profile on a swingers site?  They insisted they just caught a vibe and acted on nothing more than that!

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We've asked a lot of our friends.  Unfortunately we have had a very low success rate with our couple friends however we have an extremely high success rate with our single (and some in relationships) friends (well mostly guy friends).  Approaching this with guy friends is very easy and usually very successful.  With a couple it's a little different because you have to get two people on board and the emotions of it are very different.  If you're very open about your lifestyle I don't see much of a reason not to approach friends but if you're trying to keep it a secret then friends can be difficult because they know people within your inner circle and might tell other people.

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For my wife and I, we've told two friends of ours (neither associated with the other; they'd never even met) that we are swingers.

 

In the first case, it was because he and his girlfriend were beginning to experiment with non-monogamy, and so we talked with him to help support him and answer questions he might have. He was absolutely floored, having never guessed we might be swingers. We didn't proposition him; just offered to answer questions he might have. We also gave him a book on the subject, which we had both already read.

 

In the second case, it was an old girlfriend of mine and it was a proposition (agreed to by my wife beforehand). That didn't go well, but we remain very close friends.

 

We don't see much of a benefit in telling friends (the two cases aside). You stand a fair chance of losing them as friends. There's also a chance of exposing your lifestyle choices to other friends and family and possibly coworkers. The potential reward is getting to play with your friend, but the chances of that are, as a general rule, pretty small. With so many couples available in the lifestyle with whom you could develop a friendship without such potential complications, it doesn't seem to be good math to proposition friends.

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On 6/29/2017 at 12:57 AM, ViSexual said:

another of the husbands was the contractor we hired to build us a house. We never, ever, had any problems after.

Amazing!  This is the first story I've ever heard where someone did not have a problem with a contractor. ?

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My first wife had affairs with several guys who were half of a couple we were friends with and the wives didn't know about it. She also had a long affair with one of my thesis advisors, which is the same guy I mentioned above (the couple we were friends with), and I knew socially or from work or school all of the guys she had affairs with (or just fucked a few times). One wife knew her husband cheated on her with my wife and that caused them to start an open marriage, but he refused to let her play with me and she let him bully her. 

In short, playing separately can get awfully messy. 

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16 hours ago, videoeditor44 said:

My first wife had affairs with several guys who were half of a couple we were friends with and the wives didn't know about it. She also had a long affair with one of my thesis advisors, which is the same guy I mentioned above (the couple we were friends with), and I knew socially or from work or school all of the guys she had affairs with (or just fucked a few times). One wife knew her husband cheated on her with my wife and that caused them to start an open marriage, but he refused to let her play with me and she let him bully her. 

In short, playing separately can get awfully messy. 

In these cases you are taking a huge risk.  One day a few of us were out drinking and partying and we all came back to her friends house.  It was really late maybe 3am or so.  I was downstairs with a couple of people and my GF was upstairs (I had a feeling I knew what she was doing up there).  Her friend goes upstairs into her bedroom and finds my GF and her BF in her bed together and freaks out.  They had a falling out after that but they actually became friends again not too long ago.

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16 hours ago, videoeditor44 said:

My first wife had affairs with several guys who were half of a couple we were friends with and the wives didn't know about it. She also had a long affair with one of my thesis advisors...

One Lifestyle couple we know got into swinging bc the wife was a serial cheater.  She admitted to having six separate affairs in their first year of marriage.  It wasn't bc she didn't love her husband she just had a supercharged sex drive and probably a sex addiction. To her husbands credit he realized the Lifestyle may provide her what she needs and save their marriage and it did.  Now they have been married 20 years.

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My relationship with my first wife didn't fail because of swinging problems. They helped us stay together to raise an accidental child even though what she was able to do with others was far more than what I could do. Twenty-three years plus a mandatory year of separation and I was able to get on with my life. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't marry her. It wasn't worth it and I don't think my kid was better off for it. He's in his fifties and never found a wife or had kids. He thinks it's poor mothering and a bad relationship with her that is to blame.

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I can see this ending in about 5 ways.....4 of which are disastrous. We had drinks with a couple at a bar in our small town. They are swingers as well. It was supposed to be vanilla but after a few drinks......we also know the bartender, who called our adult kids and said your folks are down here. So that ended that. The only other local swingers we know are also friends. We have drinks quite often but never played with them.....in highschool my wife babysat for the female. We go to a larger town to play. We have no clubs in our state so when we go to a club it's a long way from home.

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We talked about asking friends to join us and even talked about how we should approach them. 

Should I talk to the husband or she talk to her friend. Do we go to dinner and bring up the subject and watch for reactions. 

Its a hard call to make. 

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3 hours ago, ToeDippers said:

We talked about asking friends to join us and even talked about how we should approach them. 

Should I talk to the husband or she talk to her friend. Do we go to dinner and bring up the subject and watch for reactions. 

Its a hard call to make. 

Unless people have had “exposure “ to the concept of swinging, this is a tough ask of friends. The first people that told us about swinging blew our circuits out. If we were to try to recruit friends (doubtful), I think we would break the ice by asking what they thought of swinging to get a read on their receptivity. 

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22 minutes ago, njbm said:

Unless people have had “exposure “ to the concept of swinging, this is a tough ask of friends. The first people that told us about swinging blew our circuits out. If we were to try to recruit friends (doubtful), I think we would break the ice by asking what they thought of swinging to get a read on their receptivity. 

We're a younger couple and have no kids so maybe it's just easier for us to ask.  Our feeling is if they are really our friends they won't be judgemental about it and most people haven't been.

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We would have them over for dinner or drinks. Mention our trips to HEDO II. If there seems to be some interest, my wife would take the other women to the bedroom and try on some of her sexy dresses for her, if there is still more interest wife and maybe the other woman would come out and model for us guys. We take it from there.

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A safe way to approach is to ask a non-committal question like "have you guys heard about swinging" or "what do you guys think about people who swing?" The reply might be anything in the range of "people who do that are destined to burn in Hell" to "we have sometimes wondered about that." Your line of questioning can go from there.  If you perceive a positive view you can work around to "we are swingers, your know."  You'll need to feel around for what happens next. 

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If done properly, sex among friends and acquaintances can bring them closer together.

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We have been pondering for some time and if this pandemic ever abates, our first time may be with close friends. We've been friends for almost 2 decades and live long-distance, but in the last few years have flirted a lot and at the beginning of the year we tested out the waters with some playful teasing and wandering hands at their house, just couldn't take it much farther since our kids and their kid were there. The plan was to take it further next time (without the kids around), but then the world caught on fire.. oy... but we still hope and tease.

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33 minutes ago, couplers said:

If done properly, sex among friends and acquaintances can bring them closer together.

I agree, Couplers, but if done improperly that kind of sex can destroy friendships and marriages.

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7 hours ago, couplers said:

If done properly, sex among friends and acquaintances can bring them closer together.

We have been very active with friends and acquaintances - friends, coworkers, my GF's boss, etc. and we have had some bumps in the road but at the end of the day we both agree that the benefits have outweighed the drawbacks for us.

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The problem with having sex with friends (or making friends into swingers) is that if things go bad (and because the other couple probably doesn't have the foundation and the time to talk about swinging, swinging limits, etc and they haven't really considered swinging before this, the odds are pretty good that things can go bad) then EVERYONE is most likely going to know about it...neighbors, friends, family, co-workers. Is it worth taking the chance. Even just ASKING your friends, no matter how much you THINK they are interested, may shock and disgust them. You really don't know until it happens.

 

Ms. Gold with her former husband tried this. They started going with friends nude in the hot tub...then fooling around, then changing partners and fooling around. In the end, Ms. Gold and her former husband shouldn't have been swinging at all (they were thinking that swinging would save a bad marriage) and the other couple...well the husband fell in 'love' with Ms. Gold and was willing to leave his wife for her (she wasn't interested, but everyone knew that he wanted her over his wife). Friendship was destroyed, private lives became public knowledge, marriages ended, and everyone knew why.

 

While it may SOUND easier to do, it really just isn't worth the risk. You are just better off finding another couple(s) that have already decided to try swinging and make them friends.

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6 hours ago, GoldCoCouple said:

... Even just ASKING your friends, no matter how much you THINK they are interested, may shock and disgust them. You really don't know until it happens.

Everything GoldCoCouple said. Spot on.

 

I wanted to emphasize what GoldCoCouple said here quoted above. I mentioned previously in this thread that I approached an old girlfriend (with my wife's permission), and that it did not go well. She and I are very close, and remain very close. We broke up 10 years before I met my wife, but it was a very amicable break up. I never really thought about propositioning her with idea of us having sex again, but as my wife and I became more comfortable with emotions developing it seemed like a potentially natural evolution for my wife and I. After quite some time and a fair bit of thought, we decided to try it. I spent two years on and off flirting with my ex girlfriend. As I said, we're very close. All three of us referred to her as a sister wife, and all of us were comfortable with that. That is, until I propositioned her that it could be something of a reality. I thought there was a very high chance she was going to be accepting of it, and found out she was exactly the opposite.

 

No matter how well you think you know your friends, you never really know just how they will react.

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On 10/8/2020 at 6:49 PM, videoeditor44 said:

My first wife had affairs with several guys who were half of a couple we were friends with and the wives didn't know about it. She also had a long affair with one of my thesis advisors, which is the same guy I mentioned above (the couple we were friends with), and I knew socially or from work or school all of the guys she had affairs with (or just fucked a few times). One wife knew her husband cheated on her with my wife and that caused them to start an open marriage, but he refused to let her play with me and she let him bully her. 

In short, playing separately can get awfully messy. 

 

Yeah, that ain't swinging, that's cheating.

 

And BTW, ew.

 

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My swinging started with a friend, though not an everyday friend. She was a college friend in town for a football game. There was no talk, no asking, it just happened while sharing a hotel room after the game. 

We have two very close friends that we are very sexually involved with. My husband’s best friend who my husband approached to join us and a very good friend of mine who I didn’t want to include but eventually welcomed into our play. Neither of them have caused any problem for us. My husband’s friend has become the person who I have had more play with than anyone else other than my husband. An outsider might question our relationship even though there are no romantic attachment. 

I was hesitant at first and included him at my husbands urging and none of us have regrets. 

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19 hours ago, PSULioness said:

I was hesitant at first and included him at my husbands urging and none of us have regrets

Your husband and my wife were the ones who had the talk with the friends, did you ever wonder how the conversation went? How did your husband bring up the topic with his friend or was it Hey you want to fuck my wife? I know now my wife and her friend made up stories to get me to agree and I wondered if they had already played before what was our first time as couples. I don’t think they did and now I don’t care if they did. We are very open with our play with them. We play together and alone with them. My wife has played alone with her friend, so have I. As you said I have no regrets and am enjoying how close we have become especially during the Covid era. 

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On 10/17/2020 at 11:35 AM, findinganswers said:

How did your husband bring up the topic with his friend or was it Hey you want to fuck my wife?

That's how I bring it up.  That's what it is and nothing more.  It's been a very effective pitch in my experience.

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How to proposition friends and acquaintances?  Create the opportunities - I would leave my friend alone with my husband for short periods to show that I wasn't jealous; I would undress/dress in front of both of them.  (It was something I had done in front of her before, and obviously had done in front of my husband, but with both there it created an interesting dynamic.)  Go slowly - let the other person take the next incremental step, then welcome it.  Make your response mutual - when she said she found my husband attractive, I would say he finds you attractive too.  

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      Jim then said he had a serious comment for all of us.  He said he didn't want anything to interfere with the friendship the three of us had.  He said it was obvious our relationship was different than most in that he and Sue get to be intimate with each other.  He specifically said, it was more than just sex with him, without over stepping on feelings.  He saw the relationship as being very close friends with both of us, it just happened to also include he and Sue having sex. 
       
      He also said that he brought up the idea of whether or not Sue would be comfortable on having a consistent FWB relationship IF I was also comfortable with it.  I told Jim that it was a fantasy of mine but the thing we should do is consider the weekend a "test run".   And once he brought Sue home, she and I would talk about how we all felt and then follow up with him on his feelings.   
       
      To be continued.
    • By HotwifeHusband
      Sue and I had taken a break for most of our 40's.  Out of the blue I met a guy named Jim through work.  We got along well.  He had been divorced for a number of years, was well educated, and held a very responsible job.  As friends, our conversation eventually turned to "let's get together for dinner some night and you can meet my wife."  There was no "intent" for anything other than for Jim to meet my wife. 
       
      We invited Jim to dinner at our house one night and the conversation was great.  Over the next few months we got together a few times for a drink at the end of the work week.  Sue wasn't working anymore so she'd meet up with us.  Eventually the conversations got a little more "suggestive" but nothing was said until one night on our way back home I told Sue that Jim had told me it had been a long time since he'd been with a woman and had no interest in dating someone because he didn't want to deal with the drama "of a relationship". 
       
      I told her I thought it would be fun to see if he'd be interested in getting together some night for some adult fun and she said she'd consider it.  I told her I wouldn't pressure her at all as I wanted her to make the decision based upon how she felt.  The next day she brought the subject up and said she'd be willing to try one night but for me not to plan on it being a regular thing like what had happened with John.  I then talked with Jim and mentioned to him the conversation I had with Sue but told Jim not to let Sue know I told him.  The plan was to get together at Jim's and at some point I'd mention about playing cards, and Jim would say, "all I know how to play is strip poker".
       
      Sue and I showed up at Jim's and he had cheese and crackers and wine set out.  Sue only needs one glass of wine before she starts feeling "good". 
       
      So after one glass of wine, the cards came out and when Jim mentioned "strip poker," I said, "I'm fine with that", and Sue said in a flirty way, "if we play, nobody can chicken out at any time."  Jim laughingly said "you may regret you said that." 
       
      Sue was the first one to be completely naked.  When that happened she said, "ok, the game is over".  I said, "the game isn't over until we are all naked as we said, nobody could chicken out."  Sue said, "I don't have any more clothes to take off, can I put them back on?"  We both said "no". 
       
      Sue lost the very next hand and looked up at us and said "oh well, nothing changes".  I said, "no", she lost the hand.  I then told her to pick a card from the deck and whatever the number was would be the number of minutes Jim and I had to use our hands anywhere on her.  She picked a 6.  With that Jim felt up Sue for the first time.  After just a minute or two Sue grabbed Jim's hand and looked up and said, "OK, we all know where this is going, why don't we just go to the bedroom."  And with that, we had our first threesome. 
       
      We eventually had a number of 3somes and we were all comfortable with each other.  Jim owned a secluded summer lake house and after a few months invited us over for the weekend.  He and I talked together and I shared that I thought it would be cool if we met at a restaurant and I'd let Sue off at the door and she'd walk in and sit at the table that Jim was at, as if she was picking him up.  And, that I would sit at a separate table and then follow them to his house when they left.
       
      So, the Friday had finally come and on the drive to the restaurant to meet Jim, Sue all of a sudden said to me, "what would be your perfect fantasy for tonight and Saturday?"  I asked her "why" she was asking.  She responded that Jim was someone she'd be willing to do pretty much anything with if it was a fantasy of mine.  I then told Sue it would be a huge fantasy of mine if I just dropped her off at the restaurant, for her to go sit with Jim as I parked the car.  That I'd watch them from another table and that she'd leave with Jim in his car after they had a drink and I'd follow them.  I said I wanted to "watch her" as if she was on a date with Jim and for her to act that way, knowing I was watching.
       
      It was exciting watching them have a drink together and just talking and laughing.  When they got up to leave, I followed them out the restaurant and saw them walking thru the parking lot holding hands.  I sat in my car waiting for them to leave the parking lot.  That took longer than I thought and I was wondering what was going on.  Eventually they passed me in the parking lot and I followed them out.  During the drive I noticed Sue's head bobbing up and down and realized that she was giving Jim a blow job while he was driving.  I can still picture it now.
    • By HotwifeHusband
      We both had graduated from college and Sue saw an ad from a local modeling agency looking for male and female models.  She set up an interview and was hired. 
       
      Her first modeling assignment was a "fashion show" for Fredericks of Hollywood clothing.  This was similar to what she had done once in college so she decided to do it again. 
       
      The fashion show was in the next town and was at a person's home.  When we both got there we were greeted by the hostess from the modeling agency, and about a dozen men.  The event was uneventful as she modeled every outfit, saving the last which was a light yellow teddy with "open cups" exposing her breasts and crotchless bottoms exposing her pussy which ever since our trip to Mexico with Dan, she kept clean shaven.
       
      We got married soon after.  Sue and I both found jobs at the same high tech company and after a few months the Director of Sue's department called her in his office.  He told her he didn't want to cross any lines but needed to ask if she ever did any modeling because he had been to a house that had a lingerie fashion show and she looked like the model.  Sue was a bit embarrassed and admitted that it was her. 
       
      At this particular time I was under a lot of stress with my work and hadn't been up for as much sex as Sue wanted...and it became an issue of me trying to explain that it had nothing to do with her and that I still found her very attractive. This went on for a couple of months.  Eventually she told me that she felt the Director that mentioned the fashion show was starting to flirt a bit.  They had sat together a few times in the cafe for lunch and he was starting to make some suggestive comments.  I told her that if she wanted to she could encourage it and see where it took them as it would also  take some pressure off of me. 
       
      Within a week Sue came home from work and said that the Director (John) called her in his office and shut the door.  He started with, "I want to be very careful of what I'm going to say because I don't want to lose my job if I offend you about something." 
       
      Sue interrupted him and said,  "I know what you are talking about.  We've been having discussions that probably cross the line, and we are both guilty of that.  So say what you want to say, and I won't be offended." 
       
      John then told her that she's been driving him crazy and that he constantly thinks about her.  He also said, "Even right now with you in my office I want to bend you over my desk and have sex with you." 
       
      Sue then looked at him and said, "John, I've known we were heading to this based upon our conversations, and I didn't want to stop it.  Obviously, we can't do anything in your office, but all you need to do is invite me to your house."   And then she said, "And to be honest about it, my husband knows and is ok with it." 
       
      John was a divorced man so he lived alone and didn't have to worry about sneaking around.  And with that, Sue came home after work and told me that that Friday she would be leaving work right at 5 pm and going to John's house.
       
      I made arrangements with my best friend to go out to a sports bar for the night, to help me keep my mind off things to help the time go by quicker.  I got home at 10 p.m. wondering if Sue would be home.....and I waited and watched as the clock hit 11 p.m., midnight, and then I finally called her at 12:30 in the morning and she answered her  phone stating she was on her way and would be home by 1 a.m.  John lived 25 minutes in the other direction from work so he lived about one hour from our house. 
       
      As soon as Sue got home she looked at me and all she said was "I don't care how tired  you are, you need to take me to bed to re-claim me."  I asked her how it went and she said she'd tell me when we got to bed.  I was surprised she spent so much time with him.  Apparently John came inside her three times, telling her that he "was inspired" by her.  Sue told me that even after cumming in her, that he'd leave his cock in her pussy because he wanted to take advantage of every minute he had with her.  And they would either spoon after cumming or they would be facing each other with his cock still in her and they'd just talk....and they did that all three times he came. 
       
      The next morning was Saturday and it looked like she was getting dressed for work.  I asked her what she was doing and she said she had to go back into work as they were working on a major project with pressing deadlines.  For the 1st time in all these years of being open minded it really bothered me knowing she would be with him again after just getting fucked by him about 10 hours earlier.  I didn't like it because I felt their relationship was getting more "personal", rather than just about the sex. Little did I know what would happen later. 
       
      About 2-3 years later we were in our bedroom getting ready to call it a night and Sue looked up at me and said, "I have to tell you something and I'm worried about you getting mad but I can't live like this, keeping a secret from you."  I asked her what she was talking about and I never even thought of John being brought up.  She then proceeded to tell me that after that first night with John that she saw him a couple more times.  That three times she went to his house when she told me she was going shopping and that one time he was out sick and he had called her at work, and that during lunch she went to his house to visit him because when he called her he jokingly said, "I'm in the mood for a blowjob right now, can you come over at lunch time"...and that's what she did. 
       
      I went silent when she told me this and all I said was, "leave the room, I need time to think through this."  I didn't speak to her that night and didn't respond to her trying to bring up conversation for the next couple of days.  Finally she came to me and said, "All right, I understand you're angry but can you please speak to me.  I don't know what I can do other than keep apologizing to you."  She said that she would be willing to do "anything to earn back your trust." 
       
      I looked at her and told her that she was right about me being angry and that I felt betrayed and I didn't know how long it would take me to get over that feeling.  I also told her that I couldn't get it out of my mind that she had made arrangements with another man, to fuck him, and she kept it from me.  We had always been open with each other about this.  I mentioned how hurt I was by the deceit rather than the physical act of having sex and developing a friendship with John but that at the same time I felt myself being turned on by it. 
       
      I then asked her if she was serious about doing "anything" to earn back my trust?  She said "yes", and I said, "you might not like what I'm about to say." She said it didn't matter if she liked it or not, she just wanted to earn back my trust.  I proceeded to tell her that I would be going on Adult Friend Finder and that I would find a guy that she would have to start fucking. 
       
      So I eventually found another person named John and met up with him.  He was a divorced guy who owned his own small construction company that included two different crews.  They would build homes, and do high end renovations.  He lived alone, and his schedule was fairly flexible.  All John asked of me was to bring pictures of Sue as I told him I needed to meet him alone first as I knew the type of guy Sue would be interested in. 
       
      I told Sue what I was doing.  She said she understood.  I told her I needed to take a few pictures of her in fairness to John to see if he would be interested.  Sue again understood. 
       
      I met with John and he was absolutely interested in Sue based upon the pictures and I could tell he had a personality that would go well with Sue's.  When I came home after meeting John I told Sue about meeting John and felt that he would work out well.  I also told Sue, that if things went well after the three of us getting together the first time that "earning my trust" would require a longer term Friends with Benefits situation, until I got the previous situation out of my system  Again, Sue said she understood.  
       
      We met at John's house and got pizza delivered to help start the relationship and eventually I just said, "Are both of you comfortable"?  They both said yes, and with that John took Sue into his bedroom and they fucked each other.  When they were done, they both came out of the bedroom fully dressed.  I then told Sue to take off her shirt and pants as I wanted her to just be standing in front of John and me with her sheer green bra and matching sheer green panties.  She gave me this look, and I just shrugged and said, "you know why." 
       
      She did what she was asked and we visited for about another 20 minutes, giving John the opportunity to stare at Sue's totally sheer bra, still exposing her tits and nipples the entire time...and left for home.  On the drive, Sue did say that John was a very friendly person.  I told her that John and I would be talking the next day to get his feelings but that she needed to be prepared for anything because of her prior indiscretion with the previous John.  All she replied with was "OK, I understand."
       
      John and I had our conversation and he said the night couldn't have gone better and that he was very attracted to Sue, and that he also just had a very good feeling of a relationship between the three of us.  I told him I agreed. 
       
      When I got home, Sue asked how my conversation with John went.  I told her that he was attracted to her and he enjoyed the sex with her.  I asked Sue if she would be upset if I told her that he was the one I was going to pick for her to start fucking on a regular basis and she said if that is what she needed to do to regain trust that she could do it as she also felt they were compatible in bed, and she also liked the conversation the three of us had and felt we all could be friends. 
       
      But Sue didn't know what would be happening next.  I told Sue that John and I discussed how "moving forward" would look like and that we both were in agreement.  I then gave Sue John's phone number and told her he was expecting her call.  That from now on the two of them would communicate with each other but Sue, unlike with the previous John, needed to tell me every time she and John would be getting together. Again, Sue understood and said she promised to be totally honest with me about anything to do with John and she was willing to do whatever I wanted her to do, given what had previously happened. 
       
      I then looked at Sue and told her to call John, and I wanted her to be "forward" with him on the phone and that she first needed to ask him if he felt comfortable after meeting the two of us (I already knew how he was going to answer).  I then instructed Sue to specifically say on the phone that she was "also very comfortable both in conversation, as well as being in bed with him."  Sue then stated, at my request, "I'm interested in seeing you on a regular basis if you are.  And if you can commit to not dating any women on the side, I'll commit to having sex with you, pretty much whenever you want.  And, one more thing, if you are ok with it, I'd rather you no longer wear a condom." 
       
      And that started what turned out to be about a 15 year relationship where we are all still friends today. About two months after they started seeing each other, John called me and asked about the possibility of Sue working for him part time.  He was thinking about her going to his house two days a week, just half days.  One day would be to work on calling back customers who call to set up an appointment with him, and another half day to take care of sending out the bills, and making bill payments to suppliers, etc. 
       
      I had an idea pop into my head because I was still of the mindset of "punishing" Sue for cheating on me earlier.  John really liked my idea and now I was going to tell Sue.  When I told Sue what John had asked and what he and I decided she initially thought it was asking too much...but I reminded her about how hurtful her cheating had been and that I really needed her to do this. 
       
      Sue was a teacher and was about to have almost three full months off.  I told her that John would be paying her to work part time out of his house for two days a week.  She needed to be at his house around 7:30 in the morning to review his schedule so she could set up appointments for him to meet with people calling asking for a quote of construction work, and then on the second day she would handle all the billing that needed to be either paid, or invoiced. 
       
      She looked at me perplexed as if to say, "Ok, what's the big deal?" I then told her that EVERY day she went to his house to work that she was not allowed to wear a bra, and had to wear a top that was revealing either because of sheerness or being low cut. 
       
      After her saying, "Are your serious?", I responded, "You are damn right I'm serious, and frankly it's all because you were fucking the other John without telling me.  Now I'll know for the next three months what you'll be doing, and the plan is that you and John will be fucking each other each day, and sometimes 2X a day (when you first get there, and when he comes home for lunch). 
       
      She said, "Ok, I get it, but I hope this is coming to the end of it."  I then had her call John and had her say the following to him, "I hear  you have a job opening for me, can you confirm the dress code and expectations that I just heard from my husband."  She listened to his response and said "When do you want me to start?.  And for the next three months she arrived at John's house, always with a sweater on in case she got stopped by a police officer or if something weird happened on her way "to work." And the first thing she did when she got in the house was take her sweater off. 
       
      The very first time she was to go to work she came downstairs and took her sweater off and said, "Does this meet  your approval?"  She was obviously braless, wearing a thin, low cut tank top with low arm holes exposing plenty of side boob, and you could make out the color of her nipples through the top.  I told Sue I couldn't have picked out better work attire and then she went to work. 
       
      During the three months doing this I had to go on a business trip for a few days so I called John and told him to call Sue and ask her out to dinner and make plans to spend some time at his house.  I also told John I wanted "photo proof of him fucking her so I know she went."  This was also going to be a test to see if Sue would be honest about telling me what she was going to do. 
       
      About 30 minutes after talking with John, Sue called me.  She told me that John had asked her out to dinner and wanted to make sure I was ok with that?  She said it felt like she was going "on a date" rather than just being a friend with benefits.  I told her it felt the same way to me, and considering that she pretty much "went on dates" with the previous John without my knowledge, that she now needed to realize that she was about to start dating John WITH my knowledge.  She asked how much longer she needed to go through with this and I told her I hadn't even started to think about that yet because I had been hurt so much. 
       
      So Sue and John had their first "date" while I was away on business.  John sent me an email that included an attachment.  He laughingly wrote: "As you requested, my first date with your wife happened.  I also told her that you asked me to inform her that you wanted her to agree to start "dating me" rather than just me fucking her.  And she agreed to it, so once she's back teaching and can't come over during the summer anymore, she is going to start seeing me for longer periods of time rather than coming over for an hour to fuck each other, we'll grab dinner or take a drive somewhere."
       
      John also told me to watch the attachment as he sent "more than a photo".  I opened the attachment and saw two things: a photo of my wife's face with his cock in her mouth, pressing her cheek from the inside so I could see his cock bump pushing out her cheek. And he also sent me a video that lasted a few minutes of him fucking her.  He told me not to worry, that he'd delete both the photo and video, but I told him I wanted him to keep it so he'd always be able to look back on how they looked fucking each other. 
       
      And that relationship lasted around 15 years.  After fucking John about 10 times Sue told me that she noticed something different and wanted to be honest with me.  I asked her what she was talking about.  She said it felt like John was "fucking" her at times like he was paying for it but other times it was more emotional, it was starting to feel like he was "making love" to her. I told her I guess that would be normal after seeing someone consistently that you liked.  I told her I was ok with that. 
       
      She then said she was starting to feel like she was making love to him at times, that it was emotional for her as well feeling like she was giving her body to someone she cared about as a friend.  She wasn't having any feelings of being in love with him, but she was getting some emotional connection where she wanted to give herself to him when they saw each other.  It turned me on. The frequency of sex got less over the last couple of years but he and I estimated, that not counting the three months she worked for him and they fucked anywhere from 2-4 times a week, that he had fucked her somewhere between 50-100 times. 
       
      And to this day, years later, the thought that she's been fucked so much by the same guy is a turn-on.  We all still remain friends today.  I thought that would be the end of our openess in our marriage but there would be two other men that would enter our lives, both of which got substantial time with my hotwife.  And she wanted it. 
       
      If you'd like to read about it, let me know and I'll write it up.
    • By Bluespruce1
      So we took in a very good friend about six weeks ago following a very ugly split with her ex. We have know both of them for about ten years and started playing together about three years ago. I actually have known her much longer and before we started hanging out as couples.
       
      Anyway, things have evolved to a point where we are sharing our bed 4-5 nights per week. We are playing together and separately. For example, in the morning it’s not unusual for me to come out of the shower and find her and my husband snuggling, touching and even fucking. I actually love seeing them together and have no feelings of jealousy. She and I are doing the same and actually took the day off Wednesday and simply spent the day in bed alone while he was at work. It’s not all about sex, but it’s clear that she really loves him and I think he feels the same about her. I know that I care deeply for her and may actually be in love as well.
       
      We prepare meals together, hang out in the evenings together, play together and still swing separately, but it is definitely decreasing. Everything feels very natural and relaxed and we are all content - have we found ourselves slipping into a true polyamorous relationship? I never really thought about it and we were talking about it last night.
       
      Thoughts? Warnings? This is uncharted territory.
    • By Erik13
      My wife and I have been in the swinging lifestyle about a year and a half now and it's been great. We have a friend we've know about a year and after a little encouragement from me and the wife she agreed to play with me. She's not comfortable playing with my wife home yet, so we always plan it when she's out. I think it may be going too far, though. We've gone out to dinner twice, alone, which my wife has told me no more. We talk almost everyday, hike and do stuff like that. I'm afraid this is becoming more than the FWB situation we agreed on.
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