Being the Second

[PSULioness 859]

My boyfriend and I are new to this. We recently went to a party where I knew a few of the girls from college, one I knew very well. This was the first time we were going to a party where we both had multiple partners. The night before was the first time we were with another couple. I hadn't thought about something he mentioned after. He said having sex with someone after another guy was in her was upsetting. He said seeing the other guys goop and then doing it got to him.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

First, there really shouldn't be any 'goop' if you are using a condom (just another reason to use one). Second, maybe he isn't cut out to be able to do this. Time to talk with him again.

[Alura 2,774]

The late Mrs. Alura always promised me that I would be last. She kept her word.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

This reaction about 'goop' is not unusual for a guy. Don't let his reaction upset you. With time, he might get past it; he might not. Either way, it will be OK. He might have to make a point of being first.

[TricianMike 777]

I may sound like a hypocrite when I say you should be using condoms. I think you can understand that this is something your boyfriend probably never saw before. He most likely has only seen his own goop. If this is his first experience he is getting thru seeing a group of naked people, people having sex in front of him, other men walking around with erections, women willing to have sex with him in an open room and maybe the hardest thing, watching you enjoying other men. Each of these things all at once can be overwhelming. Then something he didn't plan on, another man's cum left behind. As the others posted, take your time and be aware of his hesitations

[Alura 2,774]

To call semen "goop" shows an aversion to bodily fluids. One needs to get past that in order to enjoy swinging, in my opinion.

[Wornsilver 219]

Then there are some of us who find "sloppy seconds" to be arousing or at the very least, neutral. The concept of being last, being the one who remains when all others have gone, of being the one she chooses to be with in and out of the bedroom is quite gratifying to some of us. One of the great things about the lifestyle is the variety of people and of viewpoints.

 

Having said that, I fully understand the other viewpoint, how another guy's goop is unappealing.

[luvin eye full 140]

PSU

Just give him time, you guys have been though a lot and come out still together 0 it very well maybe mind over matter as much as he stll has some small resentment over before or it could be just that he does not like "goop" lol

 

if you want to know what the problem is then like always talk to him,

 

and ...

 

make a rule condoms for all and he still has a problem then it's more then just "goop" which i think it is more or a combo of both of the above.

 

Go slow and have fun.

[PSULioness 859]

Wng aboute do talk and we are talking more. His goop moment wasn't with me it was with others.

 

I used the goop because we use that between ourselves. We also use Jackie for ejaculate. It's our play words. I know it's semen. I don't think I ever used the word semen in any relationship I had. I think it was always cum. I can't remember any guy I was with say he was going to shoot semen. Or you have semen on you. I have heard of guys joking about sloppy seconds but this was a first for him to be a sloppy second. I could be wrong but I think a lot of guys are even afraid of their own cum. My boyfriend is far from the first guy I have been with. I think girls have always had to deal with cum. I learned early on that when a guy cums he doesn't care where it goes as long as it's not on him. I know I have friends that don't like to be near cum. This is just from talk I know that some of my friends will not let their boyfriends cum in their mouth. I admit at first I didn't either. I would say it was an acquired taste. I know there is no typical thing or normal thing but I am fine with a guy who cums in my mouth and if he cums in me and he wants I will take him in my mouth again. Most of the guys I have been with will not give me oral after they finished unless I cleaned up and that's their own goop. I have been with guys who won't kiss after oral sex.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Surprise!

 

I prefer not to be second. A woman is very well lubricated after the first man and she just feels different. If you can feel her at all. If he has cum in her without a condom. I assume you can't get pregnant.

 

Touching another man's goop might make your boyfriend feel "gay" but who hesitates in the middle of an awesome sex party?

[ViSexual 1,008]

I, personally, always enjoyed being second, or third. I've always loved the feel of a well lubricated vagina. It's really just a matter of preference and those preferences can change with experience.

[oc1234 435]

I have always preferred to go second with my wife when our longterm playmate has a threesome with us. He is a very good friend who we first got to know as a friend and then a playmate. We have been in a poly relationship with him for the the last eight month which has been great.

[PSULioness 859]

We have invited one of the couples who were at a party we attended to spend the weekend with us. We plan on spending time at the shore with them and maybe go to NYC. My boyfriend has been with her at the party, I was not sexually with the guy. We figure there will be sex with them even though we didn't discuss this. We are assuming. So with that assumption by boyfriend has requested that if I do have sex with our friend I should clean myself after. Now normally after sex I do go to the bathroom and pee and clean up. Don't know how true it is but when I was younger someone told me to pee after to stop any urinary problems. Is it normal in a swinging situation?

[EastInWest 1,524]

We have invited one of the couples who were at a party we attended to spend the weekend with us. We plan on spending time at the shore with them and maybe go to NYC. My boyfriend has been with her at the party, I was not sexually with the guy. We figure there will be sex with them even though we didn't discuss this. We are assuming. So with that assumption by boyfriend has requested that if I do have sex with our friend I should clean myself after. Now normally after sex I do go to the bathroom and pee and clean up. Don't know how true it is but when I was younger someone told me to pee after to stop any urinary problems. Is it normal in a swinging situation?

 

I've always heard the same thing and many women I've been with do this. I don't know what's "normal", but Mrs. E always cleans up after intercourse if possible. She has a pretty high-energy disposition and is a bit of a clean freak, so after "get this guy off", it's always the next item on her to-do list before cuddling. This is fine and wouldn't confuse me.

 

As for the "goop" question, I'd probably have an aversion to fucking a woman bareback with another man's cum inside her, but really only for the same reason I'd have an aversion to going bareback at all. Some guys seem to love this and fetishize it. Everybody's different.

 

Beyond that, cum is just cum. It tends to get everywhere if you're having enough fun.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

My wife usually pees and cleans up after I have ejaculated inside her, and I don't think that there is anything unusual about that. When we are swinging, we generally use condoms as a necessary evil for safety reasons. However, there are a few men whom she knows well--in some cases longer than she has known me--and with whom she goes bareback for the increased sense of intimacy. On the very rare occasions that I have been part of an MFM with one of these men and my wife, I have found it incredibly erotic to be inside her right after she has been filled with the other man's semen. I have on occasion even cleaned her up. However, I understand that every husband/boyfriend is different, and they may not enjoy coming in contact with another man's semen. It's just a matter of communicating with your boyfriend and respecting his wishes. With patience, you will probably find activities that maximize enjoyment for both of you, and of course both your tastes will probably evolve over time.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Now normally after sex I do go to the bathroom and pee and clean up. Don't know how true it is but when I was younger someone told me to pee after to stop any urinary problems. Is it normal in a swinging situation?

 

The best I can recall, every single swinging experience we have had has followed this pattern, with both of the ladies. She does the same thing when it's just us having sex too. So, not unusual at all.

[TricianMike 777]

Quote Originally Posted by PSULioness View Post

Now normally after sex I do go to the bathroom and pee and clean up. Don't know how true it is but when I was younger someone told me to pee after to stop any urinary problems. Is it normal in a swinging situation?

 

I would say you are completely normal peeing after sex. It does clean out your urinary tract of any bacteria that might have entered. The butt with all that bacteria is so close and even if nothing was going on back there whatever bacteria is around might be pushed in. Peeing cleanses the tract. For me I usually have to pee after sex. Maybe it's my bladder that is telling me or some other physical trigger. Michael almost always pees after sex too. Sometimes we race to the toilet.

[Guest]

My hubby is just a little bit that way. No problem if it is a condom situation. But, I’ve noticed that when its not, for whatever reason, he tends to select a different area, like oral sex or anal sex with me. He calls it the advantage of going last.

[Dont.Stop 339]

"Sloppy Seconds" has never appealed to me, but that's not to say that in the moment I won't think differently. We use condoms so it's not something we've encountered. When I was younger and quicker to the second draw I thought the extra lubrication took away from the sensation.

 

Some guys want to eat the cream pie after another guy has cum inside her.

 

Again, not my thing.

 

But none of this is terribly unusual.

[Alura 2,774]

I'm not a fan of cum. I've not had the desire to suck a cock, much less to do so in anticipation of the reward at the climax, like my late wife did. When I heard that familiar "Mmmmmmm" I knew what was happening. I've considered that a girl thing.

 

Cum that happens to be in a pussy, however, is another subject. How can it be distinguished from the lady's own secretions?

 

Laura and I had swapped with Ronny and Linda, side-by-side in their bed. The husbands had delivered all they could into each other's wife. Laura, however, hadn't gotten off. I had rolled off Linda and was lying beside her.

 

Laura, climbing across bodies while saying, "Darling, have I got a hot pussy for you!" put a knee on each side of my head and lowered seriously dripping labia on each side of my nose. I used the side of my tongue to push her lips first right, then left, urging the fluid to run down my cheeks into my beard, while I persevered on my way to her clit.

 

It didn't take long for her to inform me she was coming. Then it really got wet, to the point that, despite my efforts, I has having trouble dealing with it. But deal with it I was able to.

 

I'm sure I swallowed some of Ronny's cum, as I imagine he did mine, but this remains one of my favorite memories from our years of swinging.

 

I rinsed my beard out afterward.

 

[couplers 4,654]

... Everybody's different...

 

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