House party questions...

[2NoLimit 95]

We want to try going to a house party, and have some questions (This would be our first).

 

We are a same room full swap couple.

From reading about some house party's it almost seems the norm for couples to separate and go on a free for all. We don't play separately! Is this going to make guest uncomfortable?

 

What should we bring to the hostess, and for the party?

 

Anything else you can suggest, or expect to see at one of this party's? Note that we never been to trapeze even thou it's only 15m away from us, or any other swing club (next on the list). So we are not sure what to expect? We are thinking it's not going to be that much different then a bliss cruise.

 

We also have some good friends in the LS, and we are thinking of asking them to go with us (with permission from the hostess). Would this be recommended or should we go by ourselves? Reason for asking this, we don't want to sound like we are bringing a clic to the party.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

House parties are the one area of swinging that we haven't explored much, but I know some others here have lots of experience with house parties so hopefully they will chime in. My impression too is that house parties seem to have more playing separately than some other types of swinging do.

 

Going with friends has pro's and con's. It kind of eases the anxiety since you will know at least someone there, but then again, you can easily end up taking the easiest path and just sticking close to your friends and might miss out on meeting some great people. That's really a tough call to make, not sure what we would do there either.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Is this going to make guest uncomfortable?

 

No, it's usually about 50/50 separate/same room split (IMHO)

 

What should we bring to the hostess, and for the party?

 

Ask the hostess but probably you will only need to bring whatever you want to drink

 

Anything else you can suggest, or expect to see at one of this party's?

 

It usually depends on the group having the party. It might just be a night of talk and drinks or it could be a night of the most perverse sexual depravity imaginable...if you're lucky

 

We also have some good friends in the LS, and we are thinking of asking them to go with us

 

Are they good friends that also happen to be in the L/S or are they good L/S friends? Good friends, no. Good L/S friends, why not, but you should ask the hostess before asking your friends.

[CB&DD 218]

GoldCoCouple covered it pretty well so we'll just add that we usually ask the host/hostess what they would like us to bring. If they say whatever you want then our go-to is a bunch of cupcakes. We figure they are individual so that you don't have to worry about someone finger banging the ones they aren't going to eat themselves. Lol. We also bring whatever beverages we will want for the evening with enough to share.

[2NoLimit 95]

Are they good friends that also happen to be in the L/S or are they good L/S friends? Good friends, no. Good L/S friends, why not, but you should ask the hostess before asking your friends.

 

I'm confused on this. Would it matter if they are FWB? We wouldn't consider a one nighter good friends.

 

Thank you for your advice.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Every house party has a different character so it would be hard for me to give direct answers to your questions. I say, don't worry. Bring your own style. And if it seems not to fit, look for a different party. Anyway, we encounter many couples at parties that do only the couple-on-couple way.

 

I picked up a hint from your story that you are planning to attend an 'open' party, meaning you did not receive an invitation from the host -- the kind of party for which you just sign up at a Web site and go. If so, not much can go wrong unless you fail to follow whatever rules are laid down.

[2NoLimit 95]

I picked up a hint from your story that you are planning to attend an 'open' party, meaning you did not receive an invitation from the host -- the kind of party for which you just sign up at a Web site and go. If so, not much can go wrong unless you fail to follow whatever rules are laid down.

 

We received an invitation via SDC, although we never met them before. We looked at the list of couples that are going, and it looks like a selection went into the process. Example: most couples are between the ages of 30s and 40s with some 20s and a few single ladies, also noticed from a few random views that everyone is full swap or full swap same room, and all the ladies are bi or bi curious. No single males. So far about 80 couples clicked the attending button (visible only with received invitation). Due to the amount of couples attending we thought it might just be an open house, so we looked at the private and public party's section on SDC, and they are not listed. We have received invitations in the past but we never wanted to attend due to the amount of single males (looks more like a gangbang then anything else). But this one caught our eye due to the selection of couples.

 

Would you recommend to go to an open house party instead as a first experience, would it be safer?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I would write and ask the hosts your questions. 160 people seems like an awful lot,even if it is a mansion and they valet park. Sometimes people run unlicensed clubs and call it a house party.

 

I think you might be better off going to Trapeze.

 

If your friends are on the website you could share their profile with the hosts and ask if they would consider inviting them. If they are not on the website,I wouldn't.

[Ghuleh Girl 20]

Hi!!

 

We haven't been in the lifestyle too long. We went to a comedy club party as our first adventure. It was fun, but not a lot of personal interaction. We decided that a house party would be more low key. We were invited to a house party with 30 or more couples. I really enjoyed it. Although we haven't participated yet, I recommend it. It's much more laid back. You have to put yourself out there which was hard for me, but everyone was nice. There were some groups that wouldn't let you in to their groups. That was fine as I would want those type of people anyhow!! We've been back to the same house twice and will continue.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Would it matter if they are FWB? We wouldn't consider a one nighter good friends.

 

FWB count as L/S friends. If they were 'just' vanilla friends (even if you knew that they were in the L/S), I wouldn't recommend going with them. Since they are friends that you have had benefits with, then it's up to the two of you (with the permission of the host/hostess).

 

...our go-to is a bunch of cupcakes

 

Ummmm, cupcakes...

[2NoLimit 95]

List just jumped up to 130 couples (that's a lot of cupcakes LOL), I think will take others advice and try the Trap for the upcoming glow party.

 

By the way the party is at a farm in Miami. Will try a smaller party eventually.

 

Thank you all for your suggestions.

[EastInWest 1,524]

That is certainly a lot of towels.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

160 people? Even if only half showed up it sounds frightening. Hmmm. My wife and I would be tempted to go see. But we're experienced in stuff like this and have learned how to quickly read a crowd -- and how to estimate the ratio of people to bedrooms. We hate fucking on kitchen countertops or in backyard tents.

[njbm 2,880]

We like small house parties. With couples in multiples of four (2 couples or 4 or 8). Not so keen on single men. We always bring a nice gift just for the host and we are generous to bring things for the group. Promotes reinvites.

 

Would not want to go to a house party of 260 people. But at least you have better odds of meeting nice people.

[CB&DD 218]

Ummmm, cupcakes...

 

Some of the ones we have gone to have mentioned bringing food/snacks to share, they usually have a table where everyone leaves the stuff they brought. We figured a bunch of cupcakes made sense for the reason we stated. Plus who doesn't like a good cupcake? Are we missing something that makes cupcakes a bad idea?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Cupcakes are a great idea!

[njbm 2,880]

We once brought a sushi platter and it was a big hit.

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

We have thrown numerous parties and can help with a few suggestions:

-Have a pool, or at least a Jacuzzi

-Have a group romm with at least five mattresses that have clean linen

-know the people you invite. Our friends all know us and we them. We have bareback parties,

and make sure that our friends keep us aware of their health.

-Friends need to check before bringing new friends.

-Make sure one of the friends is a cop

-Meet with the new couples for an interview and "job interview."

-Allow Bisexual behavior, but no does mean no.

 

Dave and I still host weekend parties as we are well known in the adult and Lifestyle community. Our biggest requirement for joining our parties is LEAVE INSECURITIES AT THE DOOR. Our friends are aware of our Nude, Bi and Swinger Lifestyles here in town.

Laura

Laura and Dave

vegasnudecouple

[Ghuleh Girl 20]

The house party that we attend has about 30-40 couples. We have to sign a waiver and bring our own alcohol. We pay a "cover charge" and food is already provided which is nice. They provide water and soda. This way they monitor the amount of alcohol you consume. Drunks are not very welcomed at this home. Many couples are play together/stay together. It is about 50/50. No one is offended. It is tough..as we are still searching for our "hook up"

[Dont.Stop 339]

It's been my personal distinction that a house party had 8-10 couples tops, all personally invited by the hosts. If same room is what you do, it doesn't have to change. Our experience says that while we usually are same room, for this type of party we're okay being separated. This stems from the personal invitation from the hosts-- we trust the hosts and we would extend a decent amount of the same to those they invited.

We expect to bring something to share (other than ourselves, har-de-har), and if it wasn't explicitly stated we'd just ask what can be bring to help.

 

It's been a while since we've been to a house party by this definition, but it's my favorite type of get-together.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

List just jumped up to 130 couples

 

That's now 260 people. We've been to smaller concerts! You are doing the right thing by taking a pass on this one (kind of funny it being on a farm since they will be packing people in like cattle ). Now it would take too long (and be a full time job) to make cupcakes. Let us know how your visit to Trapeze goes (I was looking forward to a cupcake, dang...).

[2NoLimit 95]

We are now leaning towards the first ever full Trapeze take over by any organization.

So, only members from VIPBLISS - VIPBLISS - Club parties can attend.

 

We are already members of VIPbliss, and won’t have to fork out the Trap membership fee. At least will get to know the place, might not get the full trapeze experience as Trap members won’t be allowed in.

 

We know VIPbliss can almost be unfair to some due to the strict aesthetic requirement’s, but that's how they keep an HWP crowd.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Let us know how it went!

[2NoLimit 95]

Let us know how it went!

 

Our visit to Trapeze in FL.

Definitely a Sexy crowd every one was HWP as expected from the VIPbliss screening, Although not much happening in the playrooms. Hard to tell the swingers from the non swingers, but according to SDC about 150+ couples signed up for the event. Ran into a few couples that we have talked to in other party's, this was their first time as well.

 

We found the place kinda small, then again it was super packed. The staff was very nice although I think it might have been a bit overwhelming for them as they tried to keep up with the young crowd, and could have used some extra help.

 

The line to get in was large (looked like a Black Friday event LOL), and made us feel a bit uncomfortable. But we talked to a few couples during the wait. A few single guys trying to get in, thinking they can just tag along with a couple and pay at the entrance. Little did they know that tickets were only available on the VIPbliss site. The location is not in the best of neighborhoods that's for sure.

 

Not sure how we feel about the playrooms. The one with the glass facing the dance club was neat. The others are kinda lacking in theme. But it was very clean.

 

Cant say that we see ourselves joining the club. We like the one on one interaction with couples during a private date. But we won't just scratch it off the list. We also enjoyed being part of Trapeze history, as this is the first time it was taken over by a private organization.

 

We didn't play due to that time of the month. But we did get a few offers including a young hot couple that came in with a unicorn. I was ok with my husband playing, but he said we are not going to break one of our rules, we always play together and to never ask that again. So we made some new future connections. We did have a great time after all.

[freethinkers903 15]

My husband and dear friends of ours are planning an orgy house party. I am looking for some fun ideas to make the experience mind blowing for everyone.