Male-male contact, how much?

[Mcat37 24]

Hello, first post here. My wife and I have had a few MMF threesomes. I am bi (very masculine) and she is bi curious. I love oral both getting and giving. Her and I love to share a cock to suck, it's hot! I have never topped or bottomed yet, but it is on the list. I love women and am not attracted to men. I mean, I can't look at a guy and say "wow, would love to cuddle with him".

 

Before I was with my wife, I had a few male encounters but absolutely no one knew. I would be petrified if someone found out. Guess it was my insecurities. When I met my wife and found out she loved gay porn, I was very happy. One day after porn and sex, she asked me if I ever sucked a cock. I was honest and told her yes. Well, the rest is history and we have lots of fun.

 

My question is, how far do guys like me go? I don't think I could kiss a man, although, I could kiss a passable CD, if he looks like a hot women or a hot shemale. When with a man, I can rub his cock, balls and area around there, but don't have the urge to rub him all over or kiss up and down his body. I do however have the urge sometimes to try all that, but am afraid for some reason. I fantasize about rimming sometimes, I lick my wife's ass and love it, but have a fear of doing it.

 

Anyone else feel like this? I know, don't knock it till ya try it. Wondering if my masculinity is holding me back and I just need to step up to the plate and try it? Best cause scenario I believe would to be one on one with a guy to try things.

 

Sorry for the long rant.

 

Thanks for any help

[ViSexual 1,008]

Mcat, you're certainly not alone. Now your profile doesn't indicate how old you are but I can see me thinking the exact same thoughts you've mentioned when I was in my forties.

 

Like you, I'd had a few encounters with guys before I married. And, again like you, I would never have wanted to kiss or anything with a guy. In fact, my only experiences were receiving oral and fucking two guys.

 

I married at 24 and at 40 I sucked my very first cock and enjoyed doing it.

 

I finally told my wife about my bi interests when I was in my early 50's. Like you wife, she thought it was sort of sexy.

 

OK, since then, I experimented with other things. I can't compare how I feel about men with how I feel about women. I don't ever see a man and think, "I'd love to do that", like I do when I see some women.

 

I have kissed and, hey, if you'd do them why wouldn't you kiss them? I love rimming women and did rim one man. There's a huge difference and I'd only rim another man if it was for him and I liked him enough to do it. With a woman, it's as much for my pleasure.

 

OK, hope that helps and you just do what you enjoy and don't over think it.

[Mcat37 24]

Thanks for the input. We are in our 40's. You said it best about not being able to say "I'd love to do him". I love rimming a women, just doesn't seem such a turn on to me with man. Then again, I'm sucking his cock and balls so what's the difference I guess. We have a guy who we are with frequently, so I think I'm going to talk to him about trying more things.

Thanks

[asncpl 729]

Know that you are not alone. My husband is the same way. He loves giving and receiving oral, and like you, we love sucking a cock together. He also likes anal, receiving a bit more than giving. But he doesn't kiss other men and also not attracted to them other than having sex. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If you are curious, give it a try. Go as far as you're comfortable. It's just sex. What matters is that you and your partner find it fun and enjoyable.

 

I'll tell you finding another male or couple that enjoy the same thing you do is not easy. From our experience, it's not as difficult to find a guy willing to receive oral sex from another guy, but it gets more difficult if you want to involve anal sex.

[kikonkrome 844]

There are a lot of guys out there that like what you do. Just got to ask them. Personally I am more of the kiss, cuddle and touch variety, not really the anal variety. However, I do understand what you are talking about and I think it is more common than the other way.

[Baconheads 432]

I am a 56 year old male and I fantasize about cocks, but not men. I have sucked a few in my day, but the one in junior high school grossed me out for a long time. I didn't revisit that kink until my late 40's.

[Funguy796 44]

Like some guys, I have had a few encounters with guys. When I was younger, I had nothing to do with them....them a few years ago we had our first MFM and then close contact and oral play just sort of normalized. I can't think of ever wanting to kiss a guy....and i guess when I think about it, I don't kiss many women other than my partner. Like others have said, Do what you enjoy and don't over think it

[Babblebrox 21]

You aren't alone in your likes at all. You sound a lot like me. I've had my fun-times with men mostly in the context of playing with another couple. Kissing is a turn-off. Giving oral is something I'll do if I want to play nice and reciprocate. Anal? Yes, please! I love prostate stimulation and I don't really care who does it or what they do it with. I would never have emotions for another guy but there is a bit of an ego stroke when one tells you how much you drive them crazy. The closest label I've found would be "bi-comfortable" aka "situational bi".

 

Bottom line is this: do what you want with whomever you want and don't worry about labels.

[Baconheads 432]

I went to what was billed as a "bilicious" party in O.C. a few weeks ago. I paired up with a wonderful girl twelve years my senior, who was a firecracker. I didn't personally see any M-M bisexual action and was a little disappointed that I didn't get to suck anyone's cock that night.

[agreatguy 269]

Just had my first foray into this. I've been thinking about it more the last couple of years as I've let my mind open up about sexuality. Actually my best friend and I were talking a few years ago. He said that he wouldn't be opposed to letting a dude suck his cock. His reasoning was if girls know what girls like then a bi guy should know what a guy liked. I guess I kind of tucked that away for a while and then it came back when an ex GF once mentioned that she liked gay erotica. I guess I started thinking about it more, started watching some homoerotic stuff, pretty tame actually.

 

Just recently I had the opportunity to play with a couple that had a bi guy. I had told them I wasn't opposed to any sword crossing and might be down for more if the situation was right. Well, it was right. The three of us were playing, he was fucking her in a scissor type position where she could suck me as I was standing. He leaned over to kiss her and really, I think, to get closer to me. She pulls my cock out of her mouth and he sucked it a little. It was fucking hot. We eventually got in reversed positions so I was able to return the favor. Not bad. I'd say it's not something I would seek out alone. Having her there as the buffer was nice and made it easy to fall back to focusing on her( We ended up fucking her in multiple DP positions, all three holes) but the eroticism of it was really a turn on and I'm glad I gave it a try. Might be down for some more next time but some light oral is probably about as far as I'm ready to go at this point. Now if she wanted to force him down on me that might be hot too. Again, I think for me having her there was an important component to it being a turn-on. She was enjoying it too and that's really what it was about.

[TheBiggerMan 83]

I love sucking dick especially with a woman. Rubbing dicks together is especially intimate. Once I had a female friend take me to gay bar. I was kissed buy a man. It was the first time it made me feel strange. The way he handle me made me feel feminine. It was the wildest thing I've ever known. Laying on my back and being fucked up the ass was a whole nother experience. Women never tell you how powerful a penises is. Feeling feminine is very addictive. I don't want to be feminine but it felt strong and I liked it but I'm not a feminine guy. I never felt feminine doing anything else with a guy even going down in front of them.

[Finebf20 20]

I am the same way. Having tried out some guy on guy stuff on my own. I am only turned on by another mans cock. Not into his body though still needs have to have my interest. I enjoy joining couples with a bi guy. I love getting my ass fucked. I had several great times with couples. Really crave playing with a mans cock with a woman there. Not really into solo play anymore, never was except experimenting in my late 20s. Its great to see other guys feel the same way as me.

[lovefest04 700]

You've got me interested. What grossed you out?

[Baconheads 432]

You've got me interested. What grossed you out?

 

In 1973 there was a definite stigma against being a "homo" or "fag". Also my Christian education made me feel as if I was a failure before God.

 

Nowadays I think that God has bigger fish to fry. If he is truly our Father wouldn't he want us to be happy and live without regrets?