Rant: Why do guys think this would work?

[Lionheart72 2,191]

It's an old topic, but I feel the need to rant...

 

Got a message on SLS that just said "Interested" and a dick pic.

 

Seriously? Does that ever actually work? Are there really women out there in the swinging net who actually see a message like that and say "hell yeah, give that to me baby!"? What the fuck is wrong with people!?

[Alura 2,775]

There are probably a few around who would be panting about that message and picture, Lionheart. My guess is they give up after awhile.

 

There are, however, some folks interested in swinging but brutally afraid of being found out by someone or anyone. They want to give as little information as possible about themselves. Since life, not just swinging, is about human communication, Mrs. Alura and I would have gone on to the next.

[Wornsilver 219]

Yeah, I hear you. While they need to just be ignored, the fact that they sent these things to you is invasive. Not what I want to see in my in box.

[Mr and Mrs W540 19]

I know this is a bit mean and nasty, but the next time they send you something like that. Do a google search for a pic of the nastiest STD. ridden genital pictures you can find, and send it back to them.

[JandKinBoise 859]

I'm starting to feel that there is some kind of personal issue a man is dealing with to do this. They obviously know that a dic pic and grunt won't get them laid. I think some guys are just so proud of owning a dick, they have to show as many people as possible. I bet there isn't even an expectation for a reply, or another thought about the recipient of the pic. Their part is done.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

I'm starting to feel that there is some kind of personal issue a man is dealing with to do this. They obviously know that a dic pic and grunt won't get them laid. I think some guys are just so proud of owning a dick, they have to show as many people as possible. I bet there isn't even an expectation for a reply, or another thought about the recipient of the pic. Their part is done.

 

So what you're saying is - he stuck his dick in my wife's (in)box and now he's satisfied.

[SexyRedmondCpl 128]

So what you're saying is - he stuck his dick in my wife's (in)box and now he's satisfied.

 

And, based on that message, it took a comically short amount of time.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Consider:

 

If a man received a message from a woman "interested" accompanied by a picture of a big, harry snatch, he would reply immediately, "yea, let's do it!" Now some (inexperienced and clueless) guys seem to think that women generally have the same reaction to the image of a hairy dick. Men are from Mars; woman are from Venus.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I/we understand that everyone has their own preferences. To me that wouldn't be offensive. When I started looking online for playmates, She let me do the searching. She didn't want to spend time going through countless replies, I wanted a man with a noticeably larger cock than mine so that she could feel a difference. A dick pic was helpful.

 

We never had any sexual encounters with anyone unless we met and got to know each other in a nonsexual way first.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

It makes it a lot easier to eliminate men (scratch that - boys) who do this...

[padoc 1,704]

Some males just don't have enough blood volume to sustain an erection AND think at the same time.

[Sheandme 16]

I have just noticed this thread and I have possible insight.

First of all In our relationship I have been designated to seeker. Meaning I compose adds, answer email reach out to prospective people.

 

I soon discovered that people do not read the profiles, tons wont get back to you.

So coming up with a new and interesting way to reach out for every contact is mind numbing. Now I could come up with a copy and paste reply but I feel like a phony.

So at some point you become a broken man, lol and your like

Fuck it, "heres my dick madam".

 

Not excusing just trying to see illuminate one possible path to becoming a serial dickpicker

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

This last post made me think of something. If they can't come up with anything better than sending a dick pic, respond with nothing more than a picture of your body...say, a finger maybe

[Guest 2B13RFUN]

Seems like a couple of reasons to us, some of which are mentioned above, so excuse me if they sound redundant.

 

Some guys think "swingers" means any dick will do.

 

Some get fooled by the advertising hype that is rife with so many of the sites.

 

Many are just inept with social interaction.

 

Quite a few aren't realistic in their expectations on success rates.

 

Some are just knobs.

 

Could be any one, or a combination, of these. A dick pic and a one-liner never garnered a response from us. A cock pic and a very well written introduction would warrant merit, but...lol...I have never seen that.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Men are visual individuals so a picture usually means more than words. Women are the opposite where words mean more than a picture. Men who send a dick pic are just men who really don't understand women...

[JandKinBoise 859]

Obviously a dick pic and one word is pretty extreme. But this topic can serve a purpose. After meeting a few dozen men in person that we had communicated with only thru e-mail, I was educated.

What I learned is that a person (man) who sits down to write a reply to a swinger ad, exposes a lot about himself. Short sentences in short e-mails can be a guy who is always in a hurry, including sex.

No caps, no commas, and misspellings comes from a guy who is only interested in his pleasure. Very inconsiderate.

Long involved, life exposing e-mails can be a great lover, or a very lonely guy looking for someone to listen to him ramble on and on and never get the clothes off.

Picking the right guy is like detective work.