New to swinging married

[Lil Bitch 17]

Me and my husband are bi. I don't mind doing guys and females, I just don't know about couples. My biggest fear is that we are married and I don't want this to come between our marriage. He has done this before I haven't.

[ViSexual 1,008]

You say he's done it before. Are you saying he was with couples as a single man or was he married before and he and his wife were swingers?

 

Either way, if it's something you think you'd enjoy, dip your toes in first and see how the water is. A good marriage isn't adversely affected if both are onboard. When swinging comes between a husband and wife, it's usually because one was just going along and later resented it or that the couple had, non-swinging related, issues before.

 

OK, that's my opinion and I hope others will jump in and help you. And, btw, you did find a really great website with some really great people.

[Funguy796 44]

Jump in together and share how you feel each time. Be feel to discuss the good, the bad and the ugly and you will become stronger as a couple.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Me and my husband are bi i dont mind doing guys and females i just dont know about couples. My biggest fear is that we are married and i don't want this to come between our marriage. He has done this before i haven't.

 

"What's love got to do with it" Tina Turner. Don't fall in love with your playmates. No breakfast!

[Erik13 157]

Jump in together and share how you feel each time. Be feel to discuss the good, the bad and the ugly and you will become stronger as a couple.

 

This. It has brought us way closer.

[austinbicouple 16]

Us as well Erik13. Best marriage booster ever! We've never been happier!

[swingagain 18]

It is great that you are concerned about your marriage. Swinging can reveal any weakness you have in your trust & communication. If you have a healthy & strong relationship, you have a good chance of actually growing closer in your relationship. I know that sounds weird but it is very common.

 

You should proceed slowly to be safe. You can always go crazier next weekend or the next party. But you can't undo actions which is why slower is usually safer.

 

You shouldn't worry about playing with couples. Other swinging couples are also happy with their relationship and they don't want you getting in the way of their marriage. Things can get stickier with singles or couples that give hall pass for solo play. That can open the door to an outsider becoming too clingy or intruding on your relationship. This isn't a big issue with experienced swingers. Swinging is more like a lending library and we all want to go home at the end of the party with our own favorite book. We may temporarily lend it out but we want our own book back at the end of the party.

[Funguy796 44]

Your statement, "Swinging is more like a lending library and we all want to go home at the end of the party with our own favorite book. We may temporarily lend it out but we want our own book back at the end of the party."

 

I love what you said in a very straight forward manner. Bravo Zulu!!!!