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[Pogie75 15]

We are new to this lifestyle and had a pretty bad experience wife is bi-curious we responded to another couple whose wife is bi-curious they are both Asian and hit it off wonderfully the girls really like each other and they have even played alone the other girl's husband is always telling how pretty my wife is this weekend the try to set a hotel up just for my wife and didn't want me there it would just be the others girls husband and the two girls my wife told me how uncomfortable she was with this I sent a text to the guy asking what the plans are for this weekend he said that there are no plans and didn't know what I was talking about 10 minutes later sends a text to my wife telling her why did she tell me that this was just supposed to be for them when the girls played he took several photos and I was not happy about that and threatened to post the photos online if she didn't show up this weekend my wife feels completely humiliated as she really liked the girl she forwarded the husband's text message to the wife she called my wife back said that she would still like to see my wife however I want nothing to do with this couple anymore I feel completely disrespected however my wife still wants to continue seeing this girl the other girls husband has even offered money to my wife

[njbm 2,879]

Your relationship with this other couple is completely off the rails. There are widely accepted protocols in the lifestyle. One, play together as a couple until you are very experienced. We are moderately experienced and we never play without the other partner in the same place.

 

Second, you have to communicate and work together as a team. No separate communicating or texting. If one of you likes one member of a couple and the other one of you do not like the other, that's the end of your couples play. Maybe one of you can get together with the liked one at a house party, but unlikely.

 

Offering money sounds like prostitution. I know you are in Vegas, but you should lose this couple and read this site to learn the "norms" of swinging.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

My advice: Have nothing further to do with this couple. Block them. Cut off all contact. Do not reply to any messages. Full stop.

 

This is not normal or acceptable behavior in swinging circles, or any circles for that matter.

[2NoLimit 95]

I'm sorry about the bad experience you had with this couple, and thanks for sharing that. We did play with a couple recently that wanted to take pictures, and they said they would share it with us. We declined! My husband said if you want pictures as we are still fairly new, and our profile has all our FacePic blurred out unlike there's that are in the open. The only way we would accept that, is if we took them ourselves, and blurred out our faces before we share them. In the end we decided not to take any.

 

Do most of you enjoy taking pictures, and how do you prevent being blackmailed like what the original poster went through?

[njbm 2,879]

We just do not take X rated pictures of ourselves and we do not permit others to take them. We are all one click away from being an internet sensation (disappointment?).

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

The men are the only ones who text and only to each other. This other couple isn't swinging, they want your wife to cheat. Don't even bother with telling them goodbye and block their number.

 

As for photos. On the rare occasions that we take pictures, we allow the other guy to take them with our camera (thus insuring that if they don't want her face included, it won't be).

[padoc 1,703]

Im by nature, training and experience a very suspicious man. Have you considered that this guy is not some kind of perv but instead a criminal. I wonder if his "wife" is a willing participant or if she has been coerced in to helping him recruite your wife. Taking pictures and then using them as blackmail is a BIG tool in the process. You should immediately (TODAY) contact the police department's sex crimes unit and then follow their instructions. Do NOT allow your wife anywhere near those two ever again and if one or the other or both show up at your house, call the cops. This sounds to me like either prostitution or the tip of the iceberg with a human trafficking ring. Protect your wife!