Help!!!

[Jayo919 15]

Finding ways of introducing swinging too my wife? Any ideas?

[Erik13 157]

I just put on a porn scene where the husband watched the wife get fucked. She liked the idea so we tried it. We've had some fun times since then!

[Scaredstiff 129]

Watching episodes of "playboy swing" made the idea more intriguing to us after initially discussing our fantasies together

[EastInWest 1,524]

Bottom line, try talking to her.

 

The discussion opened up for us when we were doing 69 and I mentioned that I always loved watching her give me head, and wouldn't mind watching her suck another cock.

 

A couple days later we're in the car and when we pull into the driveway she goes "...did you mean that or were you just saying things in bed?"

 

"I meant that."

 

"I could be into that."

 

Took us a while to get there from talking, but making sure she understands what you want is the first step.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Bring here here to Swingersboard. She will be able to see that we are normal people.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Exactly! You probably found this site because of your interest. Just tell her that you'd heard about the lifestyle and thought it interesting enough to learn more. And you found a site with some interesting things that you'd like her to see and discuss with you.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

You need love/trust/communication. Get those in order first then start opening up the communication by talking about your sexual fantasies and ask her for hers. Once you can talk about sex... (see sig at bottom). You MUST have a great (not just good) relationship to be successful. She must know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you will be there for her thru anything. Swinging will make a great relationship better than ever imagined, but it also works as a magnifying glass and will show every crack and weakness a 'good' (or less) relationship has. Don't be in a rush, take your time and never forget she is your priority. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

[Jayo919 15]

Are their any sites that will let me just add her email in so I can slide the idea too her like that? Any of y'all from around north Carolina?

 

 

 

Finding ways of introducing swinging too my wife? Any ideas?

[EastInWest 1,524]

Are their any sites that will let me just add her email in so I can slide the idea too her like that? Any of y'all from around north Carolina?

 

I think if you're that far from speaking openly about this that you're trying to surreptitiously slip her some swinging SPAM, that you should definitely work on communication about sex first.

 

Once the idea is out there, you're going to need to have a lot of pretty frank conversations for this to work.

[Jayo919 15]

Not that I'm that far from speaking about it , just want too make it seem like its more her idea, I know she would love it, but yes it is a process , but she is sexy and I'm sure once she tried it she would love the idea

 

 

 

 

 

I think if you're that far from speaking openly about this that you're trying to surreptitiously slip her some swinging SPAM, that you should definitely work on communication about sex first.

 

Once the idea is out there, you're going to need to have a lot of pretty frank conversations for this to work.

[dan63 106]

I think again it is going to go back to you talking to her, just like everyone has said.

 

I would suggest trying to draw it out of her if it is a possibility at all. Draw her out about her fantasies. Most likely she will not on her own suggest anything involving her having sex with another man. Her first thought will be to protect your "manly ego." Of course if you are sharing fantasies you will have an opportunity to share yours. This is where you might suggest that you have a fantasy of seeing her have sex with another man. Of course she is probably going to be incredulous and start talking about you getting jealous if you saw that. Then it is your turn to convince her that you really believe it would turn you on and you wouldn't be jealous. From there talk talk talk and remember, the biggest obstacle you will likely have to overcome is the thought in the back of her mind that you might someday find someone you love more than her and will leave her for them. Only way to overcoming this is to let her know every day that you LOVE HER and that she can TRUST you implicitly. With never a thought in her head that when you come home late from work that you were doing anything besides working.

 

If possible, that is how you convince your wife to try swinging, and there is absolutely NO GUARANTEE that she will try it even then, but who cares, if you do those things you WILL HAVE a great marriage anyway.

[Scaredstiff 129]

There is a game called ipassion on the Google play store, you play it together by logging in on your mobile phones, you invite your spouse to the game by email, it's a Mr and Mrs style question and answer game, most of the questions are just about naughty sexy stuff but some are about swinging, it's a good way to get each other revved up while your apart anyway and if it turns the conversation to swinging then it's done what you need.

One of the early questions we had was "would you like to try a foursome with another couple?" I answered yes, she answered maybe, we met at home after work and couldn't keep our hands off each other, pretty sure the kids got put to bed early that night lol, it's kinda tame but it was one of the things that nudged the door open for us.

 

A few weeks later we downloaded a new game called "nudge" that's basically a sexual exploration game that ramps up the naughtiness each week and its good because eg one week it might say "she must pick some porn for you to watch together and you have to eat her pussy while she describes what is happening on screen and which bits she finds exciting" because the game is telling her to do it the pressure isn't on you both as to who's idea it was, keep it light hearted and see if you both enjoy it

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

The other thing to start the conversation starts with 'I had the strangest dream last night...' and tell her how in it she was having sex with another guy and it was SO HOT!!!! That way she knows that it's okay to talk about other people. But the bottom line is you DON'T know that she'll 'love it', or that she will even like it. If you don't have a great relationship and fantastic communication, this is most likely the wrong path to take.That you can't just talk about your fantasies to each other says you are not close to where you need to be.

[Jayo919 15]

I think I'm going too try those games, thanks for helping me with this ??

[dan63 106]

There is a game called ipassion on the Google play store, you play it together by logging in on your mobile phones, you invite your spouse to the game by email, it's a Mr and Mrs style question and answer game, most of the questions are just about naughty sexy stuff but some are about swinging, it's a good way to get each other revved up while your apart anyway and if it turns the conversation to swinging then it's done what you need.

 

After reading this post, my wife and I both downloaded ipassion. It is awesome. We are going to purchase the full version, so unlimited play each day and no ads. Highly recommend it. My wife and I have been married for 26 years and have learned allot about each other from playing the game.

 

I also downloaded Nudge, but never could get it to connect to the server. Bummers I was anxious to try that one out too.