When women want to play with their husband and yours

[MarniJohn 172]

This is not the first time I have experienced this and I'm wondering how others would handle this. You go to the playroom in a club and the couple next to you touches you. They are ok with you and your huband so you turn your attention to them. The other woman is happy when you or your husband touch her. When things heat up and your husband is ready to switch, you approach the other man, who is more than willing. As soon as you touch him, she slowly pulls him away from you. She wants to play with both men...

The drunk part of me wants to call her out on it (but I don't). I encourage my husband to enjoy himself, which he does half heartedly. I look around for someone else to play with but when he realizes I'm really not coming back in, he comes back to me. This is not the first time I have encountered a situation like this. The women are smooth enough to do it so that my husband doesn't see she is blocking me from playing with her husband (why the drunk side of me wants to say something so my husband is aware).

 

Question: Since I don't want my husband to think I'm making this up, should I confront the woman on the spot? As in, "So it's not ok for your husband to play?"

[BuiltForSin 66]

A very friendly spoken innocent sounding question to the husband should make the situation clear: "Oh! Are you not allowed to play with others?"

[MarniJohn 172]

Yes, I think that's really my only option. Thanks.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Some people are not go at sharing (and it usually is women). When (if) this happens again, then slowly redirect your husband back to you. She should only get what she is willing to give.

[angelkin 1,326]

I have been "that woman" - selfishly wanting the attention of two men or more. Most often, I am in the moment and not thinking of the comfort or desires of others. I have been the center of attention - receiving pleasure from couples and available singles then later giving back to those who I enjoyed.

 

Why not consider letting the situation unfold and let her have her fun - then turn the tables by enjoying multiple men/women yourself? Join in the fun by lending a hand or mouth to the group (her and either husband).

 

Of course if it's apparent that she doesn't want her own husband to play at all except with her, that's a different situation that should be handled as noted above by asking the husband if he is able to play.

[asncpl 729]

Sorry to say I've been "that woman" too couple of times. I wasn't really thinking in these situations, and if you had spoken up, I would not have been offended and in fact would apologize profusely. My husband is perceptive in this kind of situation and he usually gives me a nudge.