Getting her to move past just being an exhibitionist?

[pusher6811 44]

ok, I got my wife to try a swing club with the agreement that no swapping just allow others to watch. We've been to two in Austin and the last one in San Antonio. We went to Players in San Antonio and did a little dancing, drinking and then went to the back. There we found an open bed and started kissing. She undid her dress (closes like a bath robe). I laid her on the bed and pulled off her panties and started playing with her clit; she was so wet. I sat off to the side, spread her legs and started to eat her out. I brought a lipstick size vibrator and started to tease her clit. I sat far enough over to the side so people walking by could see her wet pussy and awesome breasts. I would move from eating her out to using the vibrator.

 

So many couples stopped to check it out and I got so hard I think I could hammer a nail with it! I moved her so we were laying on the bed sideways and my cock slid right in her. I lifted her right leg and lowered her left so people could see my cock going in and out of her. A LOT of people were watching us and I had to start thinking of baseball in order not to cum LOL!! I took the vibrator and placed it on her clit as I slowly moved in and out. I asked her if she was doing ok (nerves and everything).....she said "I just want you to fuck me" and this about sent me over the edge. I kept up with the vibrator while fucking her and she had a massive orgasm. That was all I could take and came hard.

 

When we left I asked if she enjoyed it and she said "I just want to make you happy baby". I really want her to enjoy it as well, NOT just me...pleasing her turns me on. Before we met no other lover ever did the things we do (just vanilla sex).

 

Did anyone else start like this? Do you think she will get more comfortable with the swing thing? She says she does it for me but when we go she is so wet each time...I'm just wondering if anyone else started this way? I would appreciate any advice.

 

Thanks!!

[ViSexual 1,008]

I think you know her well enough to know that she did enjoy it too. It may ease her own feelings to keep pretending she's just doing it for you. But be very careful not to push her into more until she says she's ready. My wife had said similar things and it was her idea to have a no-intercourse rule. I agreed but let her know that I was OK with her deciding to break that rule if she wanted. I'll always remember the night that she led the other husband down the hall to our bedroom!

[HornyToronto 51]

We are in our infancy in the LS as well, and this is exactly the way we plan to get started! Baby steps. My wife has already indicated that she is VERY excited about the thought of me sticking my cock inside her while other people watch. Our only first time rule, no swapping, only watching and putting on a performance for others to watch. Your experience will give us confidence when we walk in the door for the first time. Thanks for sharing!

[pusher6811 44]

Awesome!! Have fun

[pusher6811 44]

Thanks V!

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

My wife loves to show off, and I love it too.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

When we left I asked if she enjoyed it and she said "I just want to make you happy baby". I really want her to enjoy it as well, NOT just me...pleasing her turns me on.

 

Communication! Make her completely comfortable with talking to you about anything and everything. It SOUNDS like she enjoyed what happened, but wouldn't it be better if she felt free to just tell you that she enjoyed it and knew that it was okay with you that she did? Don't try to drag her down this path, walk down it side by side knowing she wants to go here with you. There's no such thing as too much or too good communication. Let us know how things go from here.

[pusher6811 44]

So true Gold. I'm always trying to get her to talk about her fantasies but she seems embarrassed. I don't know if she thinks I'll look down on her or what but I'm just taking it slow. We go every 3 months or so and before we go I take her to a piano bar or nice dinner to make sure she has a little fun and relax. Thanks for your advice!

[dan63 106]

That sounds very much like her upbringing showing itself. If she was brought up to believe that kind of stuff was "wrong" or "dirty" it would probably explain a lot. Getting past that will likely be a long slow process but it sounds like you are moving at a good speed.

[pusher6811 44]

Good point Dan.....Colombian brought up Catholic (now non-practicing). Thanks for the insight!

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Every time she tells you more, give her a ton of positive reinforcement so that she feels safe and no sense of judgement. The more you talk (I do hope that you are telling her your fantasies as well) the safer she will feel, the more she will trust you, and the more she will be willing to tell. It is a slow process, but you only have the rest of your life to accomplish it. Good luck and keep us updated.