Fantasy of watching wife pleased by another man

[hotwife87 16]

I've had this fantasy for years of my wife being pleased by another man. I've encouraged her to have a FWB and so far she's been reluctant. We have attended many parties at swingers clubs and she has touched a guys cock, but that is as far as it has gone in a club. Did set up a "massage" with a younger man and it was going the right direction, the guy didn't do well massaging her, but played with her breasts, went down on her and rubbed his cock on her pussy, she wouldn't allow him to penetrate her. He came, she said she came and afterwards she sucked his cock for a minute. Later the next day she said that she felt guilty about it. I told her that she wasn't cheating on me, that I was okay with it as long as I know. I told her that cheating was doing it behind my back. I have to say watching the "massage" go wild really turned me on and I've been trying to set up something like this since. I had a guy come over that she was somewhat familiar with to give her a massage and he gave her a great massage, massaged her breasts, her ass and kissed her just above her pussy. It never went any further than that. Working on getting them together again and see how far she'll let him go this time. I've encouraged her to have him as her out of town FWB and I've encouraged him to try to go as far as she would let him. It's all set up now for next month when we go to the town he lives in again and I'm excited to see if something will happen.

 

Is this wrong or normal? My wife is a beautiful woman with a beautiful body. I tell her all the time that I like to show her off and that if we go to a swingers club whatever happens, happens and at the end of the night she is still going home with me. I love her unconditionally and if it never happens I will be fine, although it really occupies my mind.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Reading this post kinda made me think you are pushing your wife into an uncomfortable situation. It might be best to find out the reason for her being uncomfortable. Some things like a strict father or strong religious beliefs can be overcome somewhat eventually. Other issues, like an inability to have sex without an emotional bond, or when sex causes an emotional bond, can be more difficult or impossible to overcome. Lastly, she may be holding out because she knows that if she lets go, she will really let go and be a huge slut, and that scares her.

Try to remember that the woman's brain looks at sex way different than men. You have put your wife in your fantasy but it's not hers. There is probably a lot of unspoken fear on her side.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

My husband had similar fantasies, and I think that they are very common and normal. As JandK say, you need to let your wife proceed at her own pace. With time and communication, she will likely become comfortable with cuckolding (and maybe swinging) and will even start taking the initiative. My husband and I started with a lot of open communication, fantasizing, and role playing before I finally took the plunge with another man.

[Guest]

I am always amazed at how many men think they can unilaterally decide for the wife, what erotic adventure she should have to turn them on. My BF and I were approached by another couple about swinging. This caused the two of us to talk about it and our related fantasies. We had already had an FMF, but none of us thought of it as swinging, just a little party one night after too much drink and no bi activity what so ever. I expressed concern about doing such with another woman or couple when we knew she was bi as was the case with the current couple. He expressed interest in watching me with another man, and so I suggested he and another man as part of an MFM. We agreed, that would be a good starting point. About 2 months later, it happened very easily because we had discussed and agreed upon it as being acceptable to both of us.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

ALWAYS start by working on the big three: Love/Trust/Communication with the biggest being the communication. No matter how much YOU way want this fantasy to happen, she may also want it just as badly as you to NOT happen. Talk and find out if she is even interested and that you are not forcing something on her that she just doesn't want. Forcing a woman to do anything she doesn't want to do almost ALWAYS ends badly.

[hotwife87 16]

Reading this post kinda made me think you are pushing your wife into an uncomfortable situation. It might be best to find out the reason for her being uncomfortable. Some things like a strict father or strong religious beliefs can be overcome somewhat eventually. Other issues, like an inability to have sex without an emotional bond, or when sex causes an emotional bond, can be more difficult or impossible to overcome. Lastly, she may be holding out because she knows that if she lets go, she will really let go and be a huge slut, and that scares her.

Try to remember that the woman's brain looks at sex way different than men. You have put your wife in your fantasy but it's not hers. There is probably a lot of unspoken fear on her side.

 

I agree totally with your thoughts on this. She does have the one guy that I've spoken about in the post that she has let touch her without any issues. I will take it slow and if she never does it, I'm okay with that.

[hotwife87 16]

My husband had similar fantasies, and I think that they are very common and normal. As JandK say, you need to let your wife proceed at her own pace. With time and communication, she will likely become comfortable with cuckolding (and maybe swinging) and will even start taking the initiative. My husband and I started with a lot of open communication, fantasizing, and role playing before I finally took the plunge with another man.

 

 

We have talked about it. I've told her that I want her to have a FWB. She's reluctant on the sex part, but okay with at least this one guy massaging and touching her. I think that it's more of a comfort thing with her and I also think that she believes it's cheating. I've told her that it is my belief that it is not cheating if I have met the guy and I know it is happening and that if she did it behind my back (I don't have to be present) with someone I don't know or have never met, then I would consider that cheating. She knows that it turns me on. We're still talking about it.

[hotwife87 16]

ALWAYS start by working on the big three: Love/Trust/Communication with the biggest being the communication. No matter how much YOU way want this fantasy to happen, she may also want it just as badly as you to NOT happen. Talk and find out if she is even interested and that you are not forcing something on her that she just doesn't want. Forcing a woman to do anything she doesn't want to do almost ALWAYS ends badly.

 

That's for damn sure. I'm not forcing her to do anything. You don't know my wife, but you cannot force her to do anything. She has to do things at her own pace and at her own comfort level at the time. She loves the thought of thousands of men looking at her body, she actually admitted that to me yesterday. And I'm I also love the thought that all of these men want her badly and that at the end of the day she's always coming home with me.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

She loves the thought of thousands of men looking at her body, she actually admitted that to me yesterday.

 

If only we had a place to post pictures here...Oh wait, we DO!

 

Cheating involves lies and deception. Since both of you are okay with what is going on, it's called 'swinging'!

[Guest 2B13RFUN]

What was the question?

Are you wanting someone to say it's okay?

 

You do not need affirmation from others.

You need consesus with your wife. Work on that and it may fall in to place.

[Cheetah 84]

My husband really gets off watching a guy fuck me or eat me. I love the attention and love being watched. I get very aroused when we are watched by others. Even if I am masterbating watching others or having my husband jerk his cock watching me.

 

We have had sex in places where we could be seen like in a empty storage building room during the day with the door open. Or in back of a restaurant, in a restroom, in motels with the curtains open, on the car both day and night, in theaters both adult and regular.

 

At any of these locations if a person wears to stop and look either male or female, they could join.

[rdy2go 23]

Hi. I’m new to the swingers board. Keeps me busy reading the stories. I’ve had fantasies of my wife being with another man. Sometimes together with me and sometimes with out me. One of my favorites is her with two guys. One being a young , hung stud. I have brought both scenarios up during sex. She never really seems to object to them but also doesn’t appear to be extra excited by them. I asked her recently if they bothered her and she said she was ok with them. We’ve talked about being with another couple but she’s not to thrilled by the idea. She hates the idea of me being with another woman. I asked if she would be ok with another man involved. She said she would probably okay with it. She thinks the porn star Evan Stone is HOT. She loves his long hair and long cock. I’ll send her photos of other men with large cocks and she comments on which ones she likes the best. Her fucking Evan is one of my most popular fantasies. I have asked her many times over the years if she has ever had fantasies. No is always her answer. I can’t believe that. Are there any other women readers who don’t fantasize? I’d like to her any comments.