kcjones 59 Posted August 21, 2017 Wife and I talked about the lifestyle for years before doing anything, mainly due to kids and lack of time. Now that we have gotten our feet wet. We are interested in threesomes. We haven't met any unicorns yet, and have ZERO interest in bring in a single guy. Yet the prospect of borrowing the husband of a couple we've played with seems much more alluring, mainly because it appears safer. We've had the opportunity to break off into threesomes while group playing with another couple, but no one wants to be left out for too long. We are open to reciprocating, so it is not like we want to take advantage of any couples. Anyone with experience broaching the subject with another couple? We don't have a particular couple in mind, but as we play more, we are sure to click with another couple well enough to want to ask. I in particular am afraid of scaring them off simply by asking. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Erik13 157 Posted August 21, 2017 Just bring up in conversation if they play alone. A lot of couples won't play separately, but it can't hurt to ask. Quote Share this post Link to post
Alura 2,774 Posted August 21, 2017 Laura and I thought this was one of the best benefits of swinging,KC. It worked out best with a couple who were long-term playmates. We had just swapped partners before. He was a university professor who traveled for speaking engagements. She was an executive for a local oil company and traveled all over the world on business. It began when Mrs. Playmate called us from London. She had been talking with Mr. Playmate, who had told her he was really horny and looked forward to her return. She asked if we'd like to call Mr. Playmate and invite him over for a threesome. She offered to return the favor when she was back in the country. Mrs. Alura loved the idea. She called Mr. Playmate and said, "Hi, Mr. Playmate! I heard [your wife] is out of town and was wondering if you'd like to come over and help Mr. Alura fuck me?" As it turned out he was able to come over the nest morning at 10AM. Laura met him at the door in a negligee, gave him a hot kiss, and the fun began. Laura was able to fulfill several fantasies, trying to suck two cocks at once, sucking one while the other fucked her doggy style. As events unfolded Mr. Playmate had to go to Houston a month later. Mrs. Playmate invited us to their house for time in their hot tub and time in their hot bed. But it didn't end there. On swap nights, when all four were present, one sometimes sat out and watched before joining in for our usual foursome. I encourage y'all to pursue the idea. It's more fun than you might imagine. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
findinganswers 369 Posted August 22, 2017 This was easy for us. We are friends with couple and we are all comfortable with all the situations that come up. I think you should be comfortable with them as a couple before bringing up threesomes. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
kcjones 59 Posted August 22, 2017 Laura and I thought this was one of the best benefits of swinging,KC. It worked out best with a couple who were long-term playmates. We had just swapped partners before. He was a university professor who traveled for speaking engagements. She was an executive for a local oil company and traveled all over the world on business. It began when Mrs. Playmate called us from London. She had been talking with Mr. Playmate, who had told her he was really horny and looked forward to her return. She asked if we'd like to call Mr. Playmate and invite him over for a threesome. She offered to return the favor when she was back in the country. Mrs. Alura loved the idea. She called Mr. Playmate and said, "Hi, Mr. Playmate! I heard [your wife] is out of town and was wondering if you'd like to come over and help Mr. Alura fuck me?" As it turned out he was able to come over the nest morning at 10AM. Laura met him at the door in a negligee, gave him a hot kiss, and the fun began. Laura was able to fulfill several fantasies, trying to suck two cocks at once, sucking one while the other fucked her doggy style. As events unfolded Mr. Playmate had to go to Houston a month later. Mrs. Playmate invited us to their house for time in their hot tub and time in their hot bed. But it didn't end there. On swap nights, when all four were present, one sometimes sat out and watched before joining in for our usual foursome. I encourage y'all to pursue the idea. It's more fun than you might imagine. Thanks for the affirmation. We figured a long term couple would be the way to go, but didn't know when it would be OK to ask. Also, it seems to be more and more common to see couples with a partner that travels often. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Wornsilver 219 Posted August 22, 2017 Having had no experience along these lines, one thing did pop up in my head--rather than worrying about "when" to suggest, perhaps determine the order in which things might happen. And be very clear. Instead of saying, "We'll reciprocate," maybe offer to join them first. And then let them know your preference is only a MFM, not a FFM. Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted August 22, 2017 We were involved with a couple that was very into us. My wife was a hotwife in addition to us swinging, the other couple knew that. Once, when my wife was going to be out of town for awhile, I called up the other wife and asked if maybe they'd like to have a threesome with me. I still remember her words: "Of course, you know you didn't even have to ask." 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
robaval 220 Posted August 28, 2017 We have a couple that we are long term friends with. They are the first people we swang with after we were married and are still our longest term friends in the lifestyle hobby. Occasionally, when one of the 4 is out of town or not available, the other three get together so MFM, FFM and FMF meetings occur depending on which 3 or the 4 are home. Julie 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted September 13, 2017 I firmly believe the best way to experience a threesome is to experience a foursome. Once you have built a strong relationship with another couple, all the trust and chemistry is there, then that opens up all sorts of possibilities for threesomes, solo play dates, etc. It's just much easier to do when everyone knows and trusts each other. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Alura 2,774 Posted September 14, 2017 I firmly believe the best way to experience a threesome is to experience a foursome. Once you have built a strong relationship with another couple, all the trust and chemistry is there, then that opens up all sorts of possibilities for threesomes, solo play dates, etc. It's just much easier to do when everyone knows and trusts each other. There is full agreement here, Cplnuswing! We used to have "date night" in which we'd swap spouses and (usually) go out to dinner, sometimes to the same restaurant but seated at different tables. Play time came later. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted September 14, 2017 This is from a post that I made here long ago. _____ My wife told me she was going to meet up with a woman (say Linda, because that is who she is) about a threesome, and asked me if I was ok with it. Sure, I told her. we did this a couple of times before with girls she knows and I enjoy the FMF's. She comes back and tells me it's a go; she and the other woman want to get together again for dinner, this time with me and the other woman and her husband. Turns out, the plan was for my wife to join the other couple for FMF's without me! Quote Share this post Link to post
afterwork 89 Posted September 15, 2017 With our best friends and over many decades, we certainly have had all sorts of combinations. Sometimes it was because of business travel absences and other times it was not in sync with the "monthly friend." And, there were times that commute times on a Friday evening allowed for some of us to get started before all four of us were there. Quote Share this post Link to post