Does it always lead to sex?

[AverageJoe 15]

My wife and I have had a few mfm experiences. She is not interested in women. We like to meet new people in the lifestyle, but we seem to be shunned because she doesn't like other women. It's nice to be open with other couples without someone getting jealous. Can couples be friends without the sex but still play around?

[padoc 1,703]

How can you not have sex yet still play around? Are you mixing metaphors or just confused. If by playing around you mean a golf 4-some or volleyball, you don't need swingers and yes, most swingers we know would not be interested in meeting a couple who claim to be swingers but who don't "play around". Its not necessarily shunning but frankly, we have vanilla friends with whom we can play golf.

[KevandPam1971 18]

Not sure what you are meaning about not playing around either. There are many couples out there where both partners are straight. Frankly if they shun you for your preferences they probably are doing you a favor. And no sex is not always a requirement, we have been to many parties where we just sat back and enjoyed the conversations. Its nice to be around people where you can speak more freely than you can vanilla friends.. We have been to them where she only had sex, or where I only did.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Your wife's interest in women is not necessary.

[Guest]

I am not really interested in other women sexually, either, but we still have swinging events with couples, both swaps and foursomes.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Not sure I understand the question, but Mrs. E likes women - some, to the extent she's over the taboo - but our regular play partners, the wife just isn't into that. It hasn't been an issue, they just both focus on the men.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Can couples be friends without the sex but still play around.

 

Yes, it's called vanilla and is what 98% of the world does. Just because she isn't interested in playing with girls doesn't mean that couples are out for you. She doesn't have to play with girls to be successful in swinging (with couples). Be a 2%er...

[3waypleasure 58]

We like to meet new people in the lifestyle, but we seem to be shunned because she doesn't like other women.

We have attended some parties where we also felt like we were "shunned" for my wife being straight. We have no problem meeting couples at parties, buy many seem to shy away as soon as they find we are looking for strictly M/F sex.

 

Even though we advertise looking for strictly M/F sex, it seems most couples do require a F/F connection to be willing to play. My wife has learned it is helpful to least flirt and ACT like she is interested the woman, even if she has no interest in playing with her.