Too close to home?

[3waypleasure 58]

Me and my wife have been swingers for quite a few years. The last time we were out at a club, I ran into a woman (Heather) that I know and work with several times a week. Me and my wife had a good conversation with her and her husband, and it turns out they live very close to us, even their kids go to the same school as ours.

 

Since I found out Heather is in the lifestyle, many of our work conversation immediately turns to swinging and sex. There is definitely very strong sexual tension between us. The type of tension where I just want to rip her clothes off and take her right there and then. I don't hide anything from my wife and have been open about talking to her at work.

 

Last night, I mentioned to my wife that Heather and her husband were going to be at a swing club this weekend and they would be interested in playing. My wife said, "You really want to fuck her bad?". I just answered "yes" trying to cover my obvious erection.

 

A couple hours later, my wife told me we should have a rule about not playing with people we see or interact with in everyday life. My wife thinks it is "too close to home" and I should tell her that I am not interested and try to avoid her. I understand her point. In this case, I feel it would be better to get it out of my system. The tension will not go away on its own, and I still have to work with her.

 

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?

[adamgunn 1,460]

If both people in a couple aren't in it, don't do it.

 

Your wife says 'no,' respect her wishes.

[3waypleasure 58]

I totally agree. If the wife isn't comfortable it doesn't happen.

 

Just wondering if other couples have general rules about not playing with people that they know from "everyday life"?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

We had been forewarned that it was going to be only a matter of time before we encountered people at a swing club who knew us from other social venues. It happened the first time about two years into our swing "careers". They soon invited us to one of their private parties and we have occasionally been getting together with them even since.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Don't do it, no matter how much you want to. If one person says no then the answer for both of you is no...it HAS to be this way. That you already know this woman and are attracted to her is (especially for your wife) too personal for you to move forward. Add into this that you cross paths at work...what if something 'happened' and it became known at work what you do for a hobby? This could jeopardize your job, but more importantly, going against your wifes wishes couple jeopardize your marriage. Just move along, there's other couples out there and you do want to remain a couple.

[Alura 2,774]

... many of our work conversation immediately turns to swinging and sex. There is definitely very strong sexual tension between us. The type of tension where I just want to rip her clothes off and take her right there and then. I don't hide anything from my wife and have been open about talking to her at work.

 

Your problem, Three Way Pleasure, in not playing close to home. It is a lack of discretion. No matter how strong your yen for this woman might be, it is vital that you don't let it slop over into work. If this is allowed to fester, it is only a matter of time before a stolen-kiss in the break room is interrupted by the boss. You should not even be trading nuances which may seem understandable only by yourselves, but are easily interpreted by others.

 

"To play close to home" is less of a problem than lack of discretion. Playing close to home requires discretion in king-sized portions.

 

If your wife will not consider swinging (away from work) you will experience a myriad of personal problems if you persist to acknowledge your attraction to this other woman.

 

Simply tell the lady and her husband (at the club rather than at work) that y'all have discussed the matter and have decided they are "too close to home."

 

Playing close to home requires much more discretion that you have demonstrated.

[padoc 1,703]

What Alura said!!!!!!!!!!

[00628Hal 16]

Just to Put my oar in, I agree. Before I became a widower, I saw a friend, in a different department at work. We both just stared at each other, before we spoke; we both realized that we could lose our security clearance if "it" became known. We just nodded to each other, and the next time we saw them at a club, "What happens in . . . Stays in . . . ! And I would stay out of the other department.

[3waypleasure 58]

Your problem, Three Way Pleasure, in not playing close to home. It is a lack of discretion. No matter how strong your yen for this woman might be, it is vital that you don't let it slop over into work. If this is allowed to fester, it is only a matter of time before a stolen-kiss in the break room is interrupted by the boss. You should not even be trading nuances which may seem understandable only by yourselves, but are easily interpreted by others.

 

"To play close to home" is less of a problem than lack of discretion. Playing close to home requires discretion in king-sized portions.

 

If your wife will not consider swinging (away from work) you will experience a myriad of personal problems if you persist to acknowledge your attraction to this other woman.

 

Simply tell the lady and her husband (at the club rather than at work) that y'all have discussed the matter and have decided they are "too close to home."

 

Playing close to home requires much more discretion that you have demonstrated.

 

Me and my wife have been in the lifestyle for quite a while, and never have never hid it. We are on quite a few swinger sites complete with face pics available to almost anyone. No pink flamingos in the lawn, but I'm pretty sure the neighbors know. The company we work for doesn't have any rules against flirting or workplace romance, but I do know better than do actually do anything at work. I honestly don't care if people do think something is going on, or know that we are in the lifestyle.

 

I got a real surprise from my wife last night. As soon as I walked in the door, she ask if I seen Heather today. I said no. She told me to go into our home office, she was going to walk in and pretend to be Heather. She want me to do to her, what I wanted to do to Heather.

 

When she walked in, I pushed her against the wall and started kissing her, and aggressively grabbing her tits. I forced her on her back across the desk ate her pussy to orgasm, leaving her skirt and top on. We fucked hard in many positions. It was some of the hottest sex we have had in recent months.

 

Neither of us said a word about it after that.