What to wear to large house party?

[BIC1961 23]

This coming Saturday I will be attending my first large (to me) house party, approx 60 guests. The hosts have these parties often and it is invite only with an established guest list. I will be attending with a single invited male, but not as a couple. I have seen the guest list and the ratio of guests are around a third each couples, single woman and single men. I have only done small hotel room parties, as well as clubs, etc., so this will be a new experience for me. My escort has given me some suggestions as to what to wear, but it's varied. I need some advice/suggestions, please.

 

I'm not sure as to what to wear, nor how sexy I should dress. After two weeks of too much overthinking and driving myself crazy, I have decided to wear a cute mini dress (see image below), but I don't know what to wear underneath. I was thinking a gartered chemise with stockings, no panties (see images below). I plan to wear a trench coat from the car to the home to conceal my outfit as I walk through the neighborhood. I know it all comes off eventually, but will I be overdressed or should I be more casual? Should I also bring something to wear as a cover up when taking a break?

 

One other question/concern....I am a straight, single female, how will others perceive me? Will I be considered competition for the single males by the female half of the couples? What is proper protocol and what should I anticipate? Is it similar to what you see in group porn amateur videos, just one massive pile of people? There will be private rooms and open play areas.

 

All suggestions and advice are welcome...Thanks!

 

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Your proposal will work fine. More important though is that *you* not feel pressured to do anything that you don't want to do. You are there to have your good time, not anyone else's.

 

Some thoughts.

*What you wear should make you feel good about yourself. Not everyone wants to parade their 'inner slut'.

*Icebreakers are wonderful. A funny button, a plastic necklace, interesting earrings, something that might prompt a conversation are all wonderful ways to get past the opening line.

*Leave valuables and things easily lost at home.

*Bring a large scarf or similar that you would feel comfortable walking around in. It should fit in a small bag

*Your small bag should include things that YOU want to have with you. Condoms of preference, of course. Our preferred lube. A small flashlight is in ours (yes, we 'check' partners before play) . Maybe a favorite sex toy. Your cell phone might want to be in the bag. It need not be fashionable--our bag is ballistic nylon., also easily identified by shape and feel in the dark.

*Pace yourself. Retreat to the common area as often as you need. Shower when you feel like it.

*House parties are not meant to be competitive. By definition, people come to houseparties with the permission to play. If you it makes you comfortable, "May I play with your husband?" is direct and (nearly always) results in "Of course!".

 

Have fun and be safe.

[BIC1961 23]

Thank you so much FL!

 

I have planned many of what you have suggested, which greatly puts me at ease. Love the 'conversation starter' and asking the other half if it's OK I play with their husband. I used to have penis mardi gras beads that were actually filled, wish I still had them, they would be perfect...lol

 

Call me naive, but for what are you checking with the flashlight? Condoms? Warts?

 

Oh, and should I bring my own towel for showering?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . Oh, and should I bring my own towel for showering?

It would be worthwhile and appropriate to ask this question and any other like it of the person or people who are hosting this party. If they are experienced in organizing parties, they will be very happy to answer.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

 

 

Call me naive, but for what are you checking with the flashlight? Condoms? Warts?

 

Oh, and should I bring my own towel for showering?

 

Alas, we are biomedical types and have treated (in others!) a fair number of sexually transmitted infections (STI). So we at least ask to look. If anyone is terribly offended, we move on. As for condoms, "no glove, no love. They do reduce (but not eliminate) the risk of STIs.

 

Most hosts will provide large numbers of towels, bowls of condoms etc. It's okay to ask in advance what will be there. Our approach is to bring a couple of the bath sheets that we have for our own hot tub. Easy to identify among everyone else's and if we somehow forget them on the way home (um, yeah, that has happened a time or two) we do not worry.

 

Incidentally, you might also ask the hosts what is provided and especially what you can bring or how you can help. House parties are ultimately social events that need more hands than the host and hostess can provide. Even if they say "bring only yourselves", we always find something to bring, and we always have a look in the kitchen to see what, if anything, needs to be done.

 

This is not completely altruistic of course. People notice. The hosts notice. Rewards follow.

[BIC1961 23]

Thank you so much!

 

I was able to get more info this evening, so I think I'm good to go! I'm sure I will second guess my attire many more times, but in the end it all comes off anyway ;-)

[EastInWest 1,524]

#2 and #4 are most to my taste, but that's just me.

[dan63 106]

So how did the party go?

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We would have to see them in person...make sure that it accentuates YOUR body and style and not the models. Come by anytime, we'll make time to check them out...

 

Yes, how did the party go?