Has sex at home changed?

[Shore2Please 611]

Has the way you have sex at home changed since you started swinging. No two partners act the same way in bed. We all have our likes and dislikes and when with a new partner have experienced new feelings. Have you and a swing partner done something that is new to you and have you brought that new act or position back to your home bed. How did your spouse react? Has your spouse tried something new? Do you discuss new likes?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Hmmmm. This is a very interesting question. My wife is sitting right next to me so I put the question to her. Neither of us can think of any significant change in our bedroom behaviors. It's not that we havn't learned new things from our playmates; we have. It's just that we seem to have felt no call to practice our newly-learned tricks. Sufficient, in other words, to enjoy the new stuff with the new acquaintances.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

No and yes. No, having been together 42 years, we know what we like. Yes, after being with LS couples, our lovemaking (not "sex at Home", ever) is just about always more intense and prolonged. The knowledge that one's spouse is highly desirable to others -- and yet they are {my} spouse -- is, for us, a powerful erotic stimulus.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

I'm going to buck the trend here and say - yes, we both have "brought things home" from swinging and incorporated them into our own play. We've both discovered new techniques, positions and acts which we hadn't considered, hadn't known we enjoyed, or hadn't even thought possible (my wife turns out to be more flexible than she thought she was ). Some of them are things we've discussed and decided to incorporate into our own play. Other things we've tried and discovered that, while they were amazing with other partners, they don't work with our own dynamic. I think there has really been a measure of learning and growing for us, and I love that.

[Guest 2B13RFUN]

Rarely, but that's part of the zing, isn't it?

The novelty? Sometimes you want some good, old home cooking; other times eating out (bad pun intended) adds a little relish.

[Guest]

I would say yes but in a good way. We started swinging when we were still dating but it’s a 2nd go around for both of us, me a widow and he divorced after a 25 year marriage. So, we both have had a lot of experience. I think the swinging, helped us to learn one another kinks much more quickly, as an example.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

My husband and I have been together for a long time and have developed a rich and varied sex life. Part of the credit goes to our play partners. Other men have done things to me that have so thrilled me that I have had my husband do them at home. Or they have asked me to make moves on them that I have later tried out on my husband. The same is true for my husband, who has brought back moves from his swinging experiences. Of course, some activities work only with specific partners. Still, our marital sex has definitely benefitted from our extramarital experiences.

[padoc 1,703]

Our whole outlook changed gradually after we started swinging. Sex didn't always have to be "meaningful", sometimes just fun and sometimes one of us just wanted it….bad. Mrs Doc, over time, became much less embarrassed if the wind blew up her dress and ceased to mind strangers giving her the once over at the local Giant. I discovered that she had a few little kinks that might have taken me years to find on my own if modesty and inhibitions hadn't been blown up by our swinging experiences. Post swinging play by play is another benefit that invariably leads to excellent reclamation sex. Vanilla couples don't have that. Even now, with that damned storm bearing down on us, we've joked that we ought to have planed an Irma Orgy! Damn, too late now!

[Numex 2,416]

We've tried things that we liked with others with ourselves. Sometimes it clicked, other times it's just what works with a swing partner.

[kikonkrome 844]

Yes we have tried things we have learned from our other partners...yes we have found our sex much more intimate...yes we have a lot of sex after we swing. Frankly it has been a really positive experience!!

[cplnluv1 872]

I would say we have tried new things. Some things I would never had done before but learned that she liked. She has also done things things to me because she saw how I reacted with our play friends. I thought we had tried everything we both liked before. I think I have less hang ups now.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Same old sex, just with more people now

[EastInWest 1,524]

I wouldn't say we "try anything new". We're pretty diverse at home already.

 

I *would* say that getting a little more comfortable in her own skin has made her more comfortable at home. She's much less likely to try to turn out the lights or cover her breasts and less shy about being dominated.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

She licked and licked me with her tongue before she ever put her mouth over me. It was incredible. I tried to talk my wife into doing that but she thought me talking to her that way was creepy like a scene from a cheap porno.

[Njtwo4fun 16]

Sex has definitely gotten better since we joined the lifestyle, which we didn’t think possible since it was so good before. I think we are both better lovers as a result of having new partners.

[Travelcpl 20]

More pornography watching. Can't wait for virtual reality headsets for Xmas.

[Shore2Please 611]

I asked this question over a year ago and I never gave my answer.

We have always had a fun sex life alone. I never thought about what other couples do. We normally start with kissing then oral. Oral is sometimes as far as we get. I usually orgasm from his oral play and I can tell when he wants to finish that way. It was me who after swallowing would go to the bathroom brush my teeth and rinse with mouthwash. If we finished with sex I would still go to the bathroom, pee and clean up before going back to snuggle or a second time.

I never expected him to continue unless I cleaned up.

During our first swap my new friend did something I didn’t expect. After our first conclusion I was getting out of bed to freshen up and he stopped me. He went down and brought to several orgasms orally. I also brought him to cum orally and we stayed in bed kissing.

I never told my husband about the details. At home we went back to our normal rituals. Several months later, for the first time, my husband went down before I cleaned up. I was surprised and excited. I am sure he did this with our new friends and brought this home with him.

[LaidBackFun 36]

We always enjoyed 'reclamation' sex after returning from LS events. Can't say either of us learned anything new from different partners.

[findinganswers 369]

A bunch of things have changed for the better. My wife never masturbated in front of me before. We had toys we had used together and I figured she used them when I wasn’t home. Now she will play with herself with me in bed with her. For me it is exciting to watch.

[noddydonny 15]

i miss our great times my wife shared. shes ill now and im lost. i want and need friends

[Numex 2,416]

Sex with each other, my wife and I, is now only part of each of ours sex life rather than being our entire sex life. If you know what I mean, we've both realized that we are much more than what we are just the two of us. Any two people can be only so much.

[Eddiem 139]

Good Q and the answer is yes and no. Yes as we are more open to trying things... NO still the same other than the frequency of our sex is more now than before with each other. Sometimes I fantasize about her with other men and when they orgasm...

Has the way you have sex at home changed since you started swinging. No two partners act the same way in bed. We all have our likes and dislikes and when with a new partner have experienced new feelings. Have you and a swing partner done something that is new to you and have you brought that new act or position back to your home bed. How did your spouse react? Has your spouse tried something new? Do you discuss new likes?