What have you done in swinging that you never did before?

[PSULioness 857]

Are there new things that you never thought you would enjoy before that you now look forward to doing? And what have new partners done that have turned you off?

[Shore2Please 612]

The most obvious is having sex with another man. The way it changed my sex at home is that I told my husband that I was made love to. My husband and I have plenty of sex, really good sex and playful sex. Maybe we don't make love that much. I never gave it much thought. Of course I love my husband. I never thought I would be with anyone else sexually. That changed on a vacation. A man I met on the trip and his wife swapped with us. He brought me back to his cabin and made love to me the way my husband and I used to do. Another thing I did was be with another woman. It really was not something I wanted. Not sure why I did it either. I have done it now a few times.

[Numex 2,420]

Gee, just about everything. Had MFMs, FMFs, swaps, watched my wife have sex with two guys, had sex with another guy both ends of oral and anal, done DPs. Never done any of that before.

[Guest]

Having sex with 2 guys at one, with 3 guys at once, with 5 guys at once, DP, being far more comfortable in front of men naked, like at a nudist place or place like desires, being semi naked in front of male friends more routinely, having sex with a guy after just a 15 or 20 minute chat. OMG, I have really turned into a slut, haven’t I.

[PSULioness 857]

I know this was my original post. For me I was never attracted to other females sexually. For me it was a thing with a college girlfriend that led me to swinging. After spending a night with her and her guy friend I think I couldn't wait to be with her again. My husband fulfills all my sexual needs but I really enjoy going to parties more for the girls than the guys. I would never even thought of that before.

[cplnluv1 872]

I know this was my original post. For me I was never attracted to other females sexually. For me it was a thing with a college girlfriend that led me to swinging. After spending a night with her and her guy friend I think I couldn't wait to be with her again. My husband fulfills all my sexual needs but I really enjoy going to parties more for the girls than the guys. I would never even thought of that before.

 

Good for you that you are enjoying a new sexual life. My wife and I have met so many women that have suppressed this curiosity to expand their sexual experiences. Keep on enjoying and exploring new things. If you find you don't like something, cross it off your list.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I never had a woman suck on my nipples before her. It made my toes curl.

 

Then she bit my nipples. Toes uncurled.

[kikonkrome 844]

The whole group activity thing...everybody in the same room...really amazing

[lnw 145]

Several come to mind. We were introduced to light flogging and she discovered that she really likes it. We also had a spit roast a couple of times for a completely new experience.

[Sophy 569]

Any Group Sex activity, before star swinging I never participate on any kind of Group sex activity.

-> Now I can multitask quite well

[Baconheads 432]

Having sex with 2 guys at one, with 3 guys at once, with 5 guys at once, DP, being far more comfortable in front of men naked, like at a nudist place or place like desires, being semi naked in front of male friends more routinely, having sex with a guy after just a 15 or 20 minute chat. OMG, I have really turned into a slut, haven’t I.

 

I like your style!

[padoc 1,703]

Mrs Doc once had sex on a barstool in a public venue with the husband of a swinger couple we'd just met. It just sort of happened. She was wearing a skirt, no panties and he was standing next to her chatting her up. She turned towards him and he just kind of eased between her legs. Her skirt rode up and he started to fondle her. Before the other wife or I realized what was happening (I had my hand under her bra) Mrs Doc got his dick out and in. She said with a smile, "honey, he just took a dip". We left shortly after and the four of us had a very hot evening. She's often said that she'd like to do that again some time.

[Chloeangel 15]

I know this was my original post. For me I was never attracted to other females sexually. For me it was a thing with a college girlfriend that led me to swinging. After spending a night with her and her guy friend I think I couldn't wait to be with her again. My husband fulfills all my sexual needs but I really enjoy going to parties more for the girls than the guys. I would never even thought of that before.

 

So...we have never been to a club before. I haven't mentioned going with my guy yet. I am chrrently doing research. I want to be safe and as knowledgeable as possible without having any previous experience. We are very much in love with each other and we are open with our likes and interests. I am curious about experimenting and maybe even going all the way if everything goes well. How do I introduce THAT idea to him? We are both professionals. I am late 20s and he is late 30s.

[adamgunn 1,460]

How do you introduce the idea of sex with others? Well, you're going to a club that is designed for people to have sex with people they're not married to. I would think it would be a pretty reasonable thing to say, "Well, all these other people are doing it, what do you think we should to?" . . .

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

How do I introduce THAT idea to him?

 

Ask him. You are very open with each other and in love, just ask him. Most guys usually give a positive response when the woman asks "so, would you like to have a threesome with another girl?" or any variation thereof. "Would you like to go to a swingers club?" works as well. Just as long as the communication and trust is well established, ask and see if he is interested.

[MixxedCpl360 29]

To answer the question before the "lifestyle" I have never saw two women getting it on (saw my wife has done that a couple of times),sex with my wife in a room in front of others, being naked in front of total strangers. At this time we have been exploring the "lifestyle" for over 1 year and I have yet to play or otherwise get ANY action. No more than a friendly hug from other women. And no it's not because I'm the stunt double for Quasimodo. Wife's not sure she is cool with me having fun. So compared to some of yall the things I have done in the lifestyle is pretty tame.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

So...we have never been to a club before. I haven't mentioned going with my guy yet. I am chrrently doing research. ... I am curious about experimenting and maybe even going all the way if everything goes well. How do I introduce THAT idea to him? ...

 

Start involving him in your research. If you two use porn introduce items with groups. Ask if he as had fantasies about threesomes or group sex. & here is a tough test. Ask about sex with his past partners. If you & he can talk openly about that & still respect the past emotional connections of those relationships the transition should be easy for you. That one is not a deal breaker, but is a good indicator of comfort.

[adamgunn 1,460]

GMO, good advice.

 

However, my ex-HW and I never had any troubles talking about our past lovers before we got into it, it was a sexy way to get us primed, and we learned more about each other, our likes and desires. Eventually, that kind of talk got us into the lifestyle.

 

I think everyone should celebrate their past (and current) lovers.

[PeterJ 952]

I think everyone should celebrate their past (and current) lovers.

 

I totally agree with Adam Gunn’s sentiment. Every lover and every sexual act is a part of out lives and hopefully a contributor to a joyous sexual life.

[dan63 106]

...At this time we have been exploring the "lifestyle" for over 1 year and I have yet to play or otherwise get ANY action. No more than a friendly hug from other women. And no it's not because I'm the stunt double for Quasimodo. Wife's not sure she is cool with me having fun. So compared to some of yall the things I have done in the lifestyle is pretty tame.

 

Hang in there buddy. We have been in the LS since February of this year. It started very slow, but it is ok. Our experiences have grown as our maturity in the LS has grown.

 

If I had to guess I would say your lack of success can at least be partially attributed to the tension people can see/feel between you and your wife. Drama is the enemy of the LS and the ladies/couples you are meeting can tell/feel that as a couple you are not ready for play and thus they avoid that potential for drama.

 

You mention that you have not gotten to play with anyone else, how about your wife? Does she have any interest at all in playing or is she strictly looking for the "soft swap" experience and maybe play with the other ladies?

 

I'm afraid until you get complete buy in from your wife you will continue to struggle. I don't mean this to be a hit on your wife at all, this is as much on you as her. Until she can feel confident in her heart of hearts that you will not be leaving her because you have played with someone else she will continue to struggle with it.

 

BTW, looking like Quasimodo would really have very little to do with it. Since we have been in the LS we have seen all kinds of people successfully playing on a regular basis, and they come in absolutely all shapes and sizes.

[ViSexual 1,008]

OK, compared to most of your responses, this may seem tame. But the one thing that we did when we were involved with swinging that we really never did before was to talk about sex. I mean, really discuss it seriously and openly. We were finally able to say what we really enjoyed and what we could take or leave. It improved our own sex greatly.

 

And I'll admit that, as much as I loved that young gal I fell in love with and married, I found a woman that I thought was the simply hot as hell!