Can my gf and I stay monogomous at a swinging event?

[Marchingt9 15]

Can we go to a swinging event and use that time to enjoy taking in a new experience, playing with toys and things we don't usually have acess to, and try to get some of the thrill of public sex? The whole only sticking with each other and not doing anything with anyone else except maybe talk.

[ViSexual 1,008]

Sure, if you can both avoid the temptations! It's up to the two of you and nobody is going to expect you to do anything you don't really want to. Most swingers didn't begin with swapping partners. They remember how they felt and will understand how you two are feeling.

[2NoLimit 95]

Do what you want to do and feel comfortable with. No one will force you, or make you feel unwelcome. On the contrary, you will see some of the friendliest people and non judgmental couples. Just be upfront when you talk to someone (don't lead them on). Most likely they will move on, but will still be friendly about it.

 

That fact that you posted on this board shows an interest in the LS, and everyone started somewhere. You are looking to spice up your relationship, that's what swinging is mostly about. We have taken it to the next level. Nevertheless it's started just like you guys are planning.

 

Not sure what you mean by toys? Most places require you to bring your own (obviously for sanitary reasons). Unless you are talking about dungeon equipment or sex furniture, then some party's like the ones that Fetish Factory has does bring in dungeon equipment for your use.

 

Go and have fun, and report back.

 

Best of luck to you both.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

There may be some couples that ask if you want to play, but if you just say that you are not playing tonight that will usually take care of things. Nobody is expected to do anything without permission. You should be just fine...but once you open this Pandora's box...

[Marchingt9 15]

The place we are going is suposed to have a some fetish related stuff, that is what I meant by toys. Also we are 22 and wanted to know if we should expect anyone our age.

[padoc 1,703]

We've noticed lately that swingers seem to be getting younger and younger !!I think the crowd age generally depends upon the sponsor, the venue and also the theme. However, a true swinger event is usually filled with people who are fun and playful and who generally understand and respects other couples rules and boundaries (presupposing that you let them know up front). What's the worst that can happen? Stay in your comfort zone and enjoy some new experiences.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Yeah... why not? You are the master of your own destiny. so if " experience, playing with toys and things we don't usually have acess to, and try to get some of the thrill of public sex "is what you want then GO GET IT!!!!

If temptation creeps in and other people became an obstetrical then it's a relationship problem and if you burn out be nice about it.

[Erik13 157]

The place we are going is suposed to have a some fetish related stuff, that is what I meant by toys. Also we are 22 and wanted to know if we should expect anyone our age.

Not many lol! Have fun and just go at your own pace.

[Scaredstiff 129]

What you describe is exactly what we did the first time we went to a club, like you we asked for advice here first and got some great replies from the people that have replied to you already, just coming here shows you are looking at things from a sensible and cautious perspective, one piece of advice we followed was to make a rule between us that there would be absolutely no play with other couples on the first visit, and it was a great tip, it allowed us both to relax and not worry about what might happen, you will find plenty of people to talk to and generally we find that if your open and honest with people about your desires, fears or anything else you're concerned about then most will be very happy to relate to you their experiences . We would fully recommend going to a club as your first port of call on this adventure, if , like us, you have never been in a swinging situation it will open your eyes to what is possible but also it will most likely ease some of your fears, because you will most likely meet a whole bunch of really interesting and cool people.

 

Regarding age, people your age will be in the minority but you will definitely encounter attractive people from all walks of life.

[Brimba 30]

Can we go to a swinging event and use that time to enjoy taking in a new experience, playing with toys and things we don't usually have acess to, and try to get some of the thrill of public sex? The whole only sticking with each other and not doing anything with anyone else except maybe talk.

 

Then the LF and Swinging aren't for you, as one can't be having sex with other people and remain monogamous.

[kikonkrome 844]

Yes you can. However, 22, you guys are going to get a lot of pressure and get chatted up at the least quite a bit. Really it will be OK to say 'No' really strongly, which I will guess will need to be said. I does really depend on the event and venue.

 

Hey good luck and have fun guys!!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

You should go. What you will learn by seeing what goes on and the wide variety of people who attend will be worthwhile. If you go just a little out of a comfort zone to talk to people and ask them questions will make it all the better.

[2NoLimit 95]

The place we are going is supposed to have a some fetish related stuff, that is what I meant by toys. Also we are 22 and wanted to know if we should expect anyone our age.

 

If you like fetish party's take a look at the annual FF hotel takeover. We attended the last one and had a blast. Only about 30% are swingers at this events. So you wouldn't feel any pressure, and are welcome to use the equipment. They also have small voyeuristic playrooms (quite a lot goes on in there ). We are not into pain, but do love the atmosphere, and dressing up sexy. It's not for everybody, but we are more open minded then most. Funny how some LS couples we have met. Go, ewww how can you like something like that (Not as open minded as they think they are. It is it's own vetting process).

 

This was the event we attended. Tickets are already available for next year's event.

 

You can expect many around your age in their events.