What guy is the Mrs into?

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

What kind of guy are you or your wife looking for?

 

Personally my belief is there are certain types that our beloved swinging ladies look for. The bearded Paul Bunyan looking dude or the gym rat. Those who are in the middle maybe considered but most of the time she'll keep looking. I'm an athletic (6'0 205 lbs) clean shaven and smooth looking dude. Not 100% by choice it's just that God didn't want me growing a beard or looking hairy. I know I'm handsome and I don't have to worry about my appearance in the vanilla world. The vanilla world isn't where is wanna be though, is it? Anyway, Overall I can't say I've been greatly successful meeting others. I've been able to enjoy the handful of hook ups, not complaining.

 

When the extra guy is part of the equation does she want someone much different than the Mr.?

 

Is there a certain "type" she's attracted to?

[Baconheads 432]

I'd say my girl is attracted to me, so she is looking for a dude like me, about 2/3 of the way toward Paul Bunyan

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

When the extra guy is part of the equation does she want someone much different than the Mr.?

Oh, yes. The men in her "stable" are, some of them, 180 degrees around from me.

 

Is there a certain "type" she's attracted to?

I'm the quiet, "Sheldon" geek, steady, marriageable type. She seems to be attracted to the sport-car, downhill ski champion, women-turn-heads-when-he-enters-the-room type.

[3waypleasure 58]

My wife is attracted to the taller and bigger guys. She is a tad over 6' and much more likely to approach a guy if he is taller than her. (6' 205) is on the small side of what she will pursue. She is also attracted to a guy with as she calls it "blue collar" or "manly" hands. A guy with small, smooth, soft hands and a weak handshake send her running the other way.

 

If a decent looking guy approaches her and aggressively shows interest, she is very turned on by that. A good personality can win her over, regardless of what they look like.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

(6' 205) is on the small side

I'm not small . . . That's a strong 205 you don't want to piss off

 

A good personality can win her over, regardless of what they look like.

In the end usually this is what it comes down to.

[3waypleasure 58]

I'm not small . . . That's a strong 205 you don't want to piss off

In the end usually this is what it comes down to.

 

 

Was just trying to make the point if a guy is like 6'4" she is all over him. A guy 6' would have to approach her to get noticed, unless there was something special that caught her eye. Was not trying to offend, just explain her preference.

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It’s more his personality than anything, basically being a good conversationalist with a little wit and humor. In term of looks, not at all looking for that athletic look, or muscular guy, I’m a better physical specimen than most of them have been. Always at least slightly handsome with more of a soft friendly look than a hard tough guy look. Again, height hasn’t really played into it, they have been tall, short and medium.

[PSULioness 859]

I don't know if I have a type I look for. I am not a fan of those big bushy beards. Some guys are so proud of a full thick beard, it doesn't do anything for me. Talking about hair I rather if a guy trims down under too. Not fully shaved either. My husband trims and is shaves his face almost every day. So I would say that way I look for someone like him. In the few times we have done this I never said no to a guy. We have only been with groups where we know a few or all of the people. Personality means plenty too. I am on the small side and smaller guys are fine too.

[3waypleasure 58]

not at all looking for that athletic look, or muscular guy, I’m a better physical specimen than most of them have been.

 

 

My wife loves fit/muscular guys and feels like she is "taking one for the team" when the guy is not in shape. Seems most women in the lifestyle are in great shape, but many guys are not nearly as fit. It is rare to find a hot guy in our age group. This is our biggest complaint about the lifestyle.

 

I always get hot women, so it is really unfair to her. She has taken so many "for the team", it is to the point it really doesn't matter what the woman looks like, as long as she likes the guy.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Was just trying to make the point if a guy is like 6'4" she is all over him. A guy 6' would have to approach her to get noticed, unless there was something special that caught her eye. Was not trying to offend, just explain her preference.

 

For sho! You provided great info and perspective. Thanks, I was never offended

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

I don't know if I have a type I look for. I am not a fan of those big bushy beards. Some guys are so proud of a full thick beard, it doesn't do anything for me. Talking about hair I rather if a guy trims down under too. Not fully shaved either. My husband trims and is shaves his face almost every day. So I would say that way I look for someone like him. In the few times we have done this I never said no to a guy. We have only been with groups where we know a few or all of the people. Personality means plenty too. I am on the small side and smaller guys are fine too.

Thanks... In the end there's no absolutes. My belief was there's an idea of what a possible guy could look like, in fantasy land, but when real people are who you are meeting other factors come into play. Personality and vibe will win out over appearance if the guy doesn't match the "fantasy " looking dude.

So if you aren't ever out of the game before it even starts... That's really what I was trying to find out.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

I think that personality is the most important for me. Although I am looking for a sex partner, not a friend, and although the guy is obviously most interested in me for sex, it helps if he is respectful and at least a little interested in me as a person. If we happen to share some vanilla interests, for example in music or movies, it can be an icebreaker, so to speak. However, I am not ashamed to say that physical attributes do matter. I prefer good looking, well built guys. And yes, size does matter to me a little. My husband is actually a little above average for an Indian guy, but, all things being equal, I prefer penises that are a couple of inches longer and thicker. The situation often dictates whether a guy is the right fit for me. When planning a playdate (solo with a guy, MFM threesome, or foursome), I will first chat with someone online and then do a meet and greet in a public place. We then have time to see whether our personalities mesh. On the other hand, at a party, physical attributes probably take precedence.

[JandKinBoise 858]

As we worked our way through a pile of guys, I found my wife was the hottest with the big, barrel chested lumberjack type.

The first time I saw it we had just been playing a little, getting ready to screw. I told the guy he might want to grab the bottle of lube next to him. He said "I don't think she needs lube". I looked at her, she was ready in the doggie position, her pussy was open, swollen, and juice was running down her leg.

[3waypleasure 58]

I found my wife was the hottest with the big, barrel chested lumberjack type.

Definitely my wife's type of guy

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

My type isn't a physical type. I'm not really into Paul Bunyan and not overly fond of beards in general... nor am I necessarily drawn to the muscle bound gym rat. What I am drawn to is a friendly guy who exudes self confidence. Preferably a guy who lets me know that he's into me. I'm a flirt and I'm good at doing so... but if I'm getting nothing back I will move on quickly. Yes, I want a guy that I find attractive, but what defines that? It varies so freaking much. If you stacked all the guys that I've been with next to each other you'd probably be hard pressed to find a trend.