Does ok to receive imply willing to give?

[TheOtherLife 17]

Newbies here, woman speaking... Planning a first club trip in a couple weeks. Before going, we'd like to know the common etiquette on give-and-take. For example, if someone wants to give me oral, and I accept, does that imply that I am willing to return the favor? Or should I decline anything that I wouldn't be willing to do in return? I'm particularly nervous about girl-on-girl stuff. I'm interested, mostly in the context of group play and being watched, but I've never actually played with a girl and I'm afraid I would chicken out, lol. I can see myself being comfortable receiving, but then getting way too nervous to give in return, and I don't want to come across as rude if my nerves get the best of me.

[Scaredstiff 129]

Just say all that to whoever you might be potentially playing with, most would take it as a big compliment that you have picked them for your first experience and will be happy enough to take things as slow as necessary for you and only as far as you wish to take things, but nobody is a mind reader so you must communicate what you want and your situation, good luck and I'm sure you will have a great time.

[adamgunn 1,460]

No, allowing someone to pleasure you orally does not automatically mean you're willing to do the same to them.

 

Many times a woman approached my wife, kissed her, fondled her, even gave her head. Except for one time, my wife never reciprocated, and no hard feelings ever resulted.

 

Go, have fun, do what you wish to.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

As already stated, no. In fact if you WANTED to reciprocate, the proper thing to do would be to ask if it was ok before doing anything.

[3waypleasure 58]

As already stated, no. In fact if you WANTED to reciprocate, the proper thing to do would be to ask if it was ok before doing anything.

 

My wife has no issue with a woman performing oral on her, but unlikely to return the favor. It has never been a problem.

 

With anything in the lifestyle, you should never feel pressured into doing something your not 100% comfortable with. If someone does something without asking and your not comfortable, stop them right there and then.

[njbm 2,880]

If you have limits, it is always good to discuss them in advance. As stated, if people know that you are a newbie, they will hopefully treat you with kindness. We met great people in the beginning, nothing terrible ever happened to us, have fun!

[TheOtherLife 17]

Thanks everyone, that does help me feel more relaxed about going and just seeing what happens. Looking forward to it!!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I'll just echo what others have said. She is straight but on a few occasions has let another girl get touchy-feely with her, including in one instance going down on her for a bit. It was all done very politely with permission sought and granted first, but she didn't feel any need to reciprocate nor was it asked of her. So, I think you'll be fine, go and have fun!

[Cleve76Pom 24]

Communication is key, start the conversation, talk about desires, limits and then enjoy!!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

there are a lot of women in the lifestyle in your boat... Just make it clear what your boundaries are. In a group room situation, people move in and out a lot of times, so there's very little expectation of quid pro quo. A lot of the communication in those situation is non-verbal but you may have to at times speak up and say "no thanks" or to ask if something is OK. It's good to get comfortable with that.