How do you manage multiple requests to meet?

[2NoLimit 95]

Unfortunately our playtime is limited to basically Saturday evenings (due to our kids and other Vanilla stuff). Lately we have been receiving a large amount of requests. We don't want to lose potential playmates that we may, or may not hit it off. But it's becoming overwhelming trying to keep up (No we are not trying to sound conceited) But honesty how to tell a couple that it will be awhile before we can meet and not sound like we are not interested?

 

We also prefer to meet 1 on 1, and have already broken that rule as we are attending 2 big Halloween parties this month, and have several couples we will be meeting. We did mention to them the possibility of meeting others during the party, and for the most part they are ok with it. Except for one couple that said they would wait to meet us on a private meeting.

 

We do weed out the potential fakes and couples that we don't see an initial interest.

 

I'm sure most of you have had that problem?

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

Nice problem to have.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We just tell them that we have set aside one night a week to meet people and that life comes first. We have plans for the next several weekends but we DO want to get together...how about [insert date here]? Just be up front and explain. Most people will understand that life takes priority and that time is limited.

 

...and nice problem to have.

[2NoLimit 95]

Nice problem to have.

 

It's not always like that, but they tend to increase at certain time of the month. We also never imagined there were so many swingers in South Florida. SLS is fairly quiet, but SDC is overwhelmingly strong in SFL (if you plan on visiting SFL I would strongly suggest you create an account on SDC)

[3waypleasure 58]

We only get out about once a month, which makes it even more difficult. We just tell multiple couples, we will be at a party/event/club on a certain date. Hopefully one of them meet us there.

 

We tend to avoid one on one meetings unless it is early, so if we don't match we can still make it to a club.

[Erik13 157]

We only get out about once a month, which makes it even more difficult. We just tell multiple couples, we will be at a party/event/club on a certain date. Hopefully one of them meet us there.

 

We tend to avoid one on one meetings unless it is early, so if we don't match we can still make it to a club.

Just curious why you avoid one one one meetings? I find it to be less pressure than the club, and you can actually talk and not have to scream over loud music.

[2NoLimit 95]

We only get out about once a month, which makes it even more difficult. We just tell multiple couples, we will be at a party/event/club on a certain date. Hopefully one of them meet us there.

 

We tend to avoid one on one meetings unless it is early, so if we don't match we can still make it to a club.

 

We hate to do that, as we wouldn't want to go to a date and have them choose between others, even if we are the better couple.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We've always taken the approach that nothing is a "must have" in swinging. So, when we aren't available to meet soon, we just apologize by saying we're busy with family, work, etc. and give them the time when we are available, and if it's a month from now then it's a month from now. If they choose not to want to wait that long, then that's entirely their prerogative and we're totally ok with that.

 

Personally, if I think it's someone I am likely going to hit it off enough to have sex with, which is the case since we wanted to meet to start with, then I'm not going to be real demanding that it happen on my schedule.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Since we always advertised for a man, overload was a constant problem. Our solution was to gate our ads. We would open the ad to the public and watch the inbox. As soon as it was at the level we could handle going thru and vetting, we'd shut it down again.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'd probably engage in a lot of vetting, either through extensive chatting or perhaps even a video call to help determine interest before meeting in person. This would/ should cut down on wasting your time meeting people you end up finding you aren't interested in as soon as you see them (hate it when that happens).

 

As a single female I've been here and have even engaged in multiple meets in one night (I don't typically play on the first meet). The sucky party of doing this is that should things go in a direction where I want to play on the first meet and I already have another drink date lined up, I'm kinda screwed (in a bad way) unless I cancel the second date at the last minute. So, it can work in either direction.

[BabeAndApe 70]

Don't be afraid to "slow their roll." You can do this by 1) being openly positive about their invite and saying how great it would be to meet up, 2) saying you have a very busy couple of weeks ahead but could meet on [proposed dates or date range], and 3) if they agree to a date, mail them once or twice before you meet to show you are interested - and to keep their interest. These mails don't have to be long. Just a quick hi, a quick question (are scents okay? what kind of food should we meet over? etc), and a looking forward to our meeting comment, etc. Make sure, if you include a compliment to prime the pump and set a pleasant tone, try to compliment **both** of them at some point. As an average guy married to a hot wife, I'm used to men and women lavishing praise on Babe. I do like to hear what good taste I have, but with so many bi-women in the lifestyle, a nice comment to me(it doesn't have to be about my looks) indicates their female half might just want to meet me, too!