Girls talk.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I suggested to my wife that we invite a couple whom we had recently met at a meet-n-greet event over to our place. She replied in the negative saying, "the girls say he's no fun". I guess that this is the first time that I have been seriously struck with the notion that a guy's reputation might preceded him. I cannot recall any of my male friends or acquaintances saying to me about a woman that she is to be avoided owing to the fact that she is "no fun". To me all intimate encounters have been either "fun" or "great fun" or "unbelievably great fun". No encounter has ever been "no fun".

 

Do women have a narrower definition of fun?

[dan63 106]

Oh yes, women definitely talk. And yes, while I would agree that there is no bad sex, women definitely have a higher standard than us guys. There are all kinds of performance issues that give a guy a low rating. Cumming too soon, taking too long to cum, not performing enough/any oral, not being attentive enough to her needs... and the list goes on. Then there are the physical attributes that affect the woman's enjoyment. Too big, too little, too long, too thick and we aren't even talking about penis size yet.

[2NoLimit 95]

We definitely talk, and agree with what was said.

 

What I would consider "no fun" would be someone that can be too rough and inconsiderate (it's no longer enjoyable).

 

Unfortunately for that guy it could have just been one bad encounter, and then news spreads, there goes your reputation. That's why I think it's important for the male to ask what we like and don't.

[larry818 58]

For us guys, sex is like pizza... when it's good, it's really good, but when it's bad, it's still pretty good. I've been with some pretty dead fish, and still enjoyed myself.

 

For girls, though, there's a lot of dead fish / selfish / untalented / jerk guys around. My wife has had many "no fun" experiences with guys. It's amazing how many don't even try.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'm pretty sure we do have a narrower definition of fun. Guys can get off pretty easily... if you get off if it was fun. Short of a woman literally laying there like a dead fish and killing your boner you're going to have fun. We women are bit more difficult... and if we don't get off, we probably aren't going back for another round. If a guy makes no effort to make sure I'm getting off then he's definitely "no fun" and not what any woman would want more of.

 

That said I've been talking with a SM friend of mine about some of our experiences and he's shared a few that fell into the not so much fun category for him... he got off... and all would have been well but the good experience was then followed by the female hashing through drama and pillow talk that was less than enjoyable... that lead him to say the encounter was not so fun and not one he'd likely repeat...

[3waypleasure 58]

I cannot recall any of my male friends or acquaintances saying to me about a woman that she is to be avoided owing to the fact that she is "no fun". To me all intimate encounters have been either "fun" or "great fun" or "unbelievably great fun". No encounter has ever been "no fun".

 

I have had male friends tell me to stay away from a certain woman. I was told that she was a "dead fish" in bed, and then played with her a few weeks later. He was 100% right, she laid there completely silent, with her eyes closed, and didn't move. I felt like I was fucking a blow up doll. After about 10 minutes I just gave up. If a woman isn't into it, I have a very difficult time getting into it.

 

Me and my wife try to never speak bad about anyone else in the lifestyle, and try to change topics when others do. Women may talk more, but guys do talk.

[Guest]

To be fair I have had a few experiences with women in my life that haven't been that much fun at all.

 

Been on a few first dates / sexual encounters where the women has ended up been.....

 

Boring / Frigid / Paranoid / Against Men / Over Religious / Not Clean / Users / Gold Diggers / Cheaters / Totally Closed Minded / Controlling / Big Headed.

 

I can recall at least 3 or 4 date situations that have totally crashed and burned, and several sexual situations that have been the same.

 

But then again some men can be the same, some men can be hostile, boring, pushy, arrogant, sex crazed idiots and so on.

[kikonkrome 844]

Yeah we have a few one and done's because she was/is no fun. We have even had a few and done, because she got weird, didn't seem to want to be there, lost interest whatever.

 

So I would say there are definitely quite a few experiences with women that I have absolutely no desire repeating.

[PSULioness 847]

I'm going to admit the girls do talk. Not only do we talk we can be be more open than guys are. I think me and my friends can get pretty raunchy when we are talking. In talk, sizes are talked about. I think we all say size doesn't matter but in girl talk it is takked about. Maybe it's done for laughs, there is some truth to it. And guys, if you only went 20 seconds, we did laugh about it. We have joked about how much you ejaculted, how hairy you are,sounds you make, and if you are good going down. Sorry if this makes guys uncomfortable but I think we are more open than all your locker talk. BTW, my husband is the best lol.

[PeterJ 948]

I'm going to admit the girls do talk. Not only do we talk we can be be more open than guys are. I think me and my friends can get pretty raunchy when we are talking...

 

When my first wife was in medical school I once spent an evening with her and three or four of her female classmates. After a few glasses of wine the conversation turned to sex, including their personal experiences and opinions thereon. It far exceeded the limits of any conversations about sex I’d had with my male friends.

[findinganswers 369]

My wife had told me stories that her and her friends have. Things guys never talk about. I wonder what they say about me.

[Baconheads 432]

 

But then again some men can be the same, some men can be hostile, boring, pushy, arrogant, sex crazed idiots and so on.

 

I'll cop to "sex crazed idiot"