Another reason we like the LS and LS people...respect

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

One cannot avoid the news outlets. We learned this week of two powerful men, one from each political party...

 

1. A vocal pro-life Congressman not only caught cheating on his wife but also advising his girlfriend to have an abortion. His behavior was exposed in the Pittsburgh press. He has resigned office.

 

2. A leading Hollywood producer who routinely preyed on young actresses and payed "hush money" later to the point that his repeated transgressions became an open secret around his company. His behavior was exposed in the New York press. His company has put him "on leave". He has vowed to sue the media that "outed" him.

 

While the two political parties are trumpeting each other's current embarrassment as evidence of immorality, a look backwards reveals their shared hypocrisy. Not the first time. The "rules" of vanilla life keep sexuality in the dark where it can be used to inflict all sorts of pain. It will happen again

 

 

Contrast that with a swinger event. About as egalitarian as it gets--no one really cares about "station" in vanilla life. About as candid as it gets--"no" means "no" and it ends there. It's not cheating if your spouse is standing (or reclining) next to you. Some of the most respectful people and situations that we see.

 

We know that many vanilla folks view the LS as "bad", "immoral", whatever. Not from our perspective.

 

We see respect.

[njbm 2,871]

We have met some great couples in the LS. Great communication, respect for their spouse and others. Compersion:: enjoying that another is enjoying themselves. It's not cheating if your spouse watches!

[Baconheads 432]

It's not cheating if you are holding hands with your spouse as they are doing the other's spouse... Yummy!

[Guest]

I don't think swinging is cheating.

 

But I'm guessing if your in a very high profile job such as a politician / TV personality / film star then the news papers would still take great pleasure in revealing your sex life to the world no matter if it was cheating or not.

[Alura 2,774]

I'd have to list intelligence as one of the most attractive features of the folks we played with. Our "dates" usually included dinner. The conversations normally lead to more understanding and honed the attractions. Without that, we probably wouldn't have played.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

I'd have to list intelligence as one of the most attractive features of the folks we played with. Our "dates" usually included dinner. The conversations normally lead to more understanding and honed the attractions. Without that, we probably wouldn't have played.

 

Alura, regret that we didn't meet when your spouse was alive. We suspect it would have been a delightful and memorable acquaintance. While many in the LS look forward to brief interactions focused on NSA play, we approach others -- and our times with them-- rather differently. Among body parts, we are more interested in the organ between the ears before those between the cheeks.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

I don't think swinging is cheating.

 

But I'm guessing if your in a very high profile job such as a politician / TV personality / film star then the news papers would still take great pleasure in revealing your sex life to the world no matter if it was cheating or not.

 

The preoccupation with public figures' lives seems to be largely rooted in schadenfreude: interest in the lifestyles of the famous rises when one has been "caught" and transformed into a lifestyle of the infamous. "We the people" seem to be indiscriminate in our appetite for exposure: personal peccadilloes (sex tapes, anyone?) seem just as juicy as felonies. Last we looked, only about 3% of adults are asexual. The other 97% act on sexual impulses, and only a tiny fraction of those acts are either nonconsensual or criminal. Yet the collective appetite for knowledge of personal lives is voracious to the point of being insatiable.

 

We think this is because healthy sexual instincts require repression in so many domains of ordinary ("vanilla") life.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . We think this is because healthy sexual instincts require repression in so many domains of ordinary ("vanilla") life.

If you are speaking of the instinct to have multiple partners, then I see your point. It would not be practical or wise for a person recognizable in popular culture or public service to show himself or herself at a swingers' club or even a private swing party.

[Alura 2,774]

Alura, regret that we didn't meet when your spouse was alive. We suspect it would have been a delightful and memorable acquaintance. While many in the LS look forward to brief interactions focused on NSA play, we approach others -- and our times with them-- rather differently. Among body parts, we are more interested in the organ between the ears before those between the cheeks.

 

Laura was a treat in everything she did, Fundamental Law. It would have been fun to meet you and Mrs. F.L. Maybe in our next lifetime. Laura and I made plans to meet at Crazy Horse's lodge in the Happy Hunting Ground. Thanks for the nice words!