Thinking of jumping in

[Modus 17]

My wife and I have been together for over 20 years but we’re still both under 40. Just recently we’ve decided to go to Amsterdam to experience the sex shows and the RLD over there (we’ve never played with others before and still unsure about whether we would). Conversations naturally turned to the adult clubs at one point and we both admitted we were curious and after a couple more drinks my wife admitted one of her fantasies is to be with another woman. This unexpectedly turned me on no end but I was quite clear I wanted to be there but only play with her. If her partner is there, I wouldn’t want him near my wife either . Am I expecting too much?

 

At the moment we’ve decided we are going to go and have a couple of drinks at the bar and take in the surroundings but we haven’t really discussed any rules apart from either of us can give the nod at any time and be out of there.

 

Great forum by the way. Loads of good advice on here which I have trawled through but always an easy bit of cathartic therapy to write down your own thoughts somewhere

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Not to me... Outside looking in it sounds like you are not asking to much. You want your wife to get it on with another woman and no one else is involved. I'd imagine that there is a single lady out there or a couple who would play by these rules.

Go for it

[Judy39 145]

It varies so much what people do and what they make of the night in an adult club. Some come to watch, or be watched, others like action (which again means different things to different people). The only rules that apply to everyone is total respect to other people's preferences and 'no means no'. So, your expectations are perfectly reasonable. But maybe be prepared that you may feel differently about the whole thing yourselves when you're there. Rules sometimes chip away at spontaneity. Also, you may be so overwhelmed and busy picking up your jaws from the floor that you won't be able to follow through with your plan.

 

Which club are you thinking of? Fun4two?

[Modus 17]

We are actually thinking of Sameplace. We’re only there mid week and there is a couples night when we’re there. Thought that might be better than fending off single men all night. My wife is younger and the better looking of the two of us

 

We’ve already discussed the “what if’s” and agreed that we go no further on this first time.... if indeed we do like what we see and decide to stay.

[Judy39 145]

Nice! Oh yeah, definitely couples night if you're after a girl-on-girl play. Let us know how it goes!

[Modus 17]

Well a combination of too much booze and good times in Dam resulted in us not going to a club . We’ve discussed a lot since then and decided we’re going to pay a lady to play in the UK. Anyone gone down this route before? Sounds a bit of an easier and cleaner way to dip a toe in the water and see if we like it without disappointing someone else.

 

Every time we’ve spoken about it, we’ve had the most amazing sex afterwards. Just thinking about it is really doing it for us but it’s going to be a struggle having another lady in there and keeping my hands off!