Tips for new swingers

[Dkells1314 15]

My wife and I are going to Vegas in January and she brought up the idea of going to a sex/swingers club. We’ve always discussed possibly doing it in the future, but this is the first time she’s somewhat committed to the idea. Any tips on the rules she and I should discuss before hand? How do you know if you’re ready to attend your first swingers event? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

If you are entirely new to swing, you might want to learn a little of what it’s all about before you formulate your personal set of rules. Swing seems not to be the same for any two people.

 

A swing club is a good way of starting a path toward learning. Go to a club planning simply to have a look around and to have an opportunity to talk to a few people. Even people who plan to go find sex on their first club visit are almost always disappointed. Plan simply to go out for a good time and an education.

 

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[cplnuswing 4,713]

Welcome!

 

The best tip for your first swinging event, and every other swinging event after that, is to go with no expectations other than having a fun night out together. Do that and you can't go wrong!

[Dkells1314 15]

Thank you for the advice. We will definitely take it slow.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Start by reading just about everything you can in Curious About Swinging and ask any and all the questions you may still have (all questions are now answered for the same small fee: $0.00). Here's the short version to start you off: Swinging is all about love, trust and communication. You can't have too much of any of these. Swinging will make a great relationship greater, but, like the magnifying glass that it is, will greatly show any flaws that the relationship may have. Swinging will not 'fix' a damaged relationship (unless you call ending it a 'fix'). Swinging is at best a hobby, it should never be more than that. Set your rules and limits and NEVER exceed them unless you both have the chance to talk about it outside of a sexual situation. Your rules and limits should continue to evolve over time. If one person says no to anything or anyone for any reason, the answer for both of you is no...no questions, no repercussions. Never 'take one for the team'. Don't rush, there is no need to try and get to the end. Enjoy the trip as much as the destination. Your should always think about your partner first before even your own wants. When you are with another couple, be sure to 'check in' with your partner and make sure that they are okay with everything. Always keep talking with your partner.

 

I'm sure that more will come to me, but this is a good start. Read, learn, talk, repeat. Good luck and let us know how you two are progressing!

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I don't often plug my book, but this is a case where I feel it would be very beneficial. Check out the link in my signature. It'll walk you through the questions you need to answer to know you are ready as well as help you with talking through your boundaries.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I don't often plug my book, but this is a case where I feel it would be very beneficial.

I too would recommend this book. For ready reference, I have it also on my Kindle reader.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Good for y'all! Hope everything goes way beyond your expectations!

[lnw 145]

You have some pretty good input from others here so let me fill you in on the swing scene in Vegas. There isn't as much as one would think. No really great clubs like other cities have but there are some events held at larger homes you might check into. There is also a swing party every weekend hosted by PurrfectLV. Basically a meet and greet with a cash bar and dancing in a private venue. Off premise though so if you want to have some play time, you will need to go to the after party venue.

 

After several annual trips to Vegas, we have found our best bets have been either a house party or meeting up witn other couples through one of the swinger sites. For example, create a profile on SLS (SwingLifeStyle.com) and post your trip in the Hot Date section for Las Vegas.

[michjosh69 23]

Wow we are new to this and this discussion has been really helpful. Don't know where what mess we would have ended up in without it!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

That's why we're here. Every couple hates drama and this place is one way to limit it for us all.

[kikonkrome 844]

I don't often plug my book, but this is a case where I feel it would be very beneficial. Check out the link in my signature. It'll walk you through the questions you need to answer to know you are ready as well as help you with talking through your boundaries.

 

PROMOTE THE BOOK!! We thought it was great! Hell read her book...there promoted it for you.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Let me echo the support and recommendation for Julie's book. It is outstanding.

 

Another recent short tome is Swingers' Lifestyle by Jackie Melfi. John and Jackie Melfi operate a site, www.openlove101.com that contains some useful video content; the book is also useful.

 

Welcome and keep the questions coming.