Why do the men cum so fast with my wife?

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

We are a lightly used couple, about 6 full swap situations, and some soft swap.

 

In every one of the full swap situations, while I was beginning foreplay and eventual intercourse with the other woman. The other man entered my wife and was done in less that 5 minutes.

 

I know she is good, but really?

 

Anyone else run into this issue?

[angelkin 1,326]

Swing is exciting! Prolonged foreplay can be a factor, so can how often the fellow is getting sex at home. Expectations are important. Is it possible to communicate to friends that she needs a longer encounter to really enjoy herself?

[couplers 4,652]

In every one of the full swap situations, while I was beginning foreplay and eventual intercourse with the other woman. The other man entered my wife and was done in less that 5 minutes.

 

The most important question is if this troubles your wife. Does she come in this time? Can he get hard again and go another round with her? Do you take sloppy seconds and satisfy her? It could be first time excitement and your wife is extremely attractive. I would give these guys a second and third chance, but after that if it isn't working, time to move on.

[lnw 145]

Seems to me that you need to ask her if she is satisfied or not and then go from there. I know in our case, my wife would not be satisfied and we have been down that road. Like you, we are a light circulation couple but the ones we have been with, none have really satisfied her. We talked about it and she said she would like more foreplay whereas, it seems, the guy is all about jumping on and pounding away. We agreed that she should set the pace and let her partner know up front. She needs to give him feedback (more/less, faster/slower, higher/lower)to enhance the experience for her and thus for him too. Unless she is getting something out of it, this could be a premature end to what could be a great time for you as a couple.

[Guest]

I remember once meeting a guy for MFM and not only was he really well hung but he ended up lasting nearly 2 hours.

 

He began fucking my girlfriend who was clearly enjoying herself, and he began pounding away at a fair speed, then anytime he got near cumming he would slow right down to almost a snail speed, after about 40 minutes my girlfriend asked him to stop and they had a break for 10 minutes, all of her legs were cramping up. Determined to get this guy to cum she let him try again only for the same result.

 

By the end nearly two hours had passed, the guy had not cum, he had however hurt all my girlfriends back / legs to the point she was struggling to walk. plus it confused her and made her feel rather crap about herself and whilst the guy said he really liked her his actions said otherwise...... Needless to say she didn't want to meet him again.

 

 

I also remember during one of the MFF experiences I had which ended up lasting some months, I actually made a deal with the girls. I would walk in from work at about 17:30 in the afternoon, I would say hello to them both, have a brief chat and would walk straight upstairs and have a full shower. I would come back down stairs and they agreed to be waiting with no knickers on, so basically I'd walk back downstairs and there would be two women sitting on my sofa both half naked with legs open and ready.

 

I'd fall to my knees and enjoy giving them both oral sex, then I'd have sex with them both until I cum which usually tuck 10 or 15 minutes, after that we would snuggle up on the sofa and watch a film, eat food, chat, then a few hours later I'd take them both upstairs to bed and because I'd already cum once the second time I lasted much longer and would have the main evening session which often lasted about 60 to 90 minutes. I explained to both girls that when I come home and I know they will both be there waiting I'm very horny, that I have been at work all day thinking about the threesome that night, so basically I wanted to shoot my load quickly, then have some rest time, and round two lasted a lot longer as a result.

 

They both seemed to understand and be happy with that

[PSULioness 857]

We are a lightly used couple, about 6 full swap situations, and some soft swap.

 

In every one of the full swap situations, while I was beginning foreplay and eventual intercourse with the other woman. The other man entered my wife and was done in less that 5 minutes.

 

 

I know she is good, but really?

 

Anyone else run into this issue?

 

You say you have only done swinging 6 times? Were they all with the same couple?

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

It seems that either the guys can go for awhile or they don't last very long at all. Both are fine as long as they make sure that the woman is totally pleasured...but if they aren't bothering to see to that happening, then find another guy/couple. If it happens once, it could just be nerves or inexperience, but if it happens a second time, then the guy is only thinking about himself and that isn't a good match IMHO. If pleasuring their partner isn't a priority, then find someone else who feels it is.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

Lots of questions.

 

All different couples. Probably would give him a second chance, but these were unanticipated encounters, and we didn't see them again.

 

No she doesn't get satisfied, which makes her think the next time won't be any better.

 

The comment "Do you take sloppy seconds and satisfy her?" thank you for the compliment, but I am not that big of a stud. *smile*

 

From the responses, it sounds like so far it is her job to "drive the train"

 

My thoughts are that the guy should spend some time savoring her body.

 

When I was much younger I was probably the same way. When I was 27 I met a woman who was 37 (I considered her much older than me at the time). She taught me how to please a woman, including the idea to ask her what she liked (harder, softer, touch/lick here/there) so I was "driving the train" and I found over time that most women were afraid or embarrassed to mention it first.

 

Still open for your opinions/thoughts.

 

Thanks for listening.

[njbm 2,877]

I do, as a male, want to know what my female partner wants. Oral or manual stimulation is sometimes more effective than intercourse. I discuss it with my partner. I ask what would you like me to do?

 

If you with men who are just getting themselves off and they are not giving partners, they are not the people who you want.

[couplers 4,652]

I remember once meeting a guy for MFM and not only was he really well hung but he ended up lasting nearly 2 hours.

 

He began fucking my girlfriend who was clearly enjoying herself, and he began pounding away at a fair speed, then anytime he got near cumming he would slow right down to almost a snail speed, after about 40 minutes my girlfriend asked him to stop and they had a break for 10 minutes, all of her legs were cramping up. Determined to get this guy to cum she let him try again only for the same result.

 

By the end nearly two hours had passed, the guy had not cum, he had however hurt all my girlfriends back / legs to the point she was struggling to walk...

 

Maybe a blowjob would have done it? Is it true, "Never dull in Hull?"

[Tm2017 40]

As lady part of the couple, I would say this. My husband is always very turned on by the prospect of a new lady, so we usually try to get that first one out of the way ourselves first , which helps. But also, yes, she has to drive the bus, so to speak and say what she wants OR explain that she understands that the first one may be quick, but he will 'owe her' extra time and play after, until he can go again. I'm always excited the first time too, but no one seems to mind when us ladies get off fast! Lol...talk about up front with the couple. Don't assume that they know what she needs and if they are put off by that, well, move on. Good luck!

[adamgunn 1,460]

I had this problem a few times, and at the start yeah, I was a little quick. With some of our swapping partners this was a disappointment, with others we just kept going with fingers and mouths until I was ready to go again.

 

Then I learned a trick. As I'm starting to come that first time, I clamp down. It's a very unsatisfying feeling for me, only a few drops of semen get out. But the neat thing is, after that I stay hard! I can go for another hour or two. My partner is usually very pleased. Sometimes, later I can have a really good orgasm, other times I'm wiped out for the night. But playing with her is really what it's all about, and I always get asked back for more.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

My thoughts are that the guy should spend some time savoring her body.

 

All too often, the orgasm is the end of the encounter for the man. Personally, I want the experience to go on as long as possible. It's not a race and finishing isn't the goal here: fulfilling fantasies, pleasuring the woman, creating everlasting memories, THAT'S the goal. I guess it's something that takes a little age to figure out...especially if she is smoking hot. If you make her feel like a million dollars, then you might even get a chance to do a sequel. Keep looking and you'll find what you are looking for. We wish you success in your search.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We are a lightly used couple, about 6 full swap situations, and some soft swap.

 

In every one of the full swap situations, while I was beginning foreplay and eventual intercourse with the other woman. The other man entered my wife and was done in less that 5 minutes.

 

I know she is good, but really?

 

Anyone else run into this issue?

 

 

He lasted 5 minutes? He's a keeper:). It's hard to keep from cumming when your cock is inside a freakin' sexy woman who is enjoying you.

 

I can usually stay hard or get hard again, after I cum, and go for seconds to the point where it is becoming not pleasurable to her due to the friction. I'll go until she is satisfied, or not.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

I would be ok with it if they then continued to try and satisfy her, like suggested above. The thing is they were done, while I was still having an enjoyable time with the other wife, which kind of put the brakes on our activities.

 

I guess that is life.

[luvin eye full 140]

You guys slow them down a bit - the wife says if its all going to fast then she say something like

 

Hey we'll get to that soon but i need some warming up - this has work 90% of the time and improved her getting what she wants as well.

 

Though you will always have the guys that just want to "get one off" then get out before you have fun with his wife lol.

[ChaTam 43]

I usually last longer than my wife's partner. I encourage my wife to come join us. Sometimes she does and sometimes she just lays back and watches us. I do believe my wife is somewhat disappointed when he partner pops too soon. We also understand he's not being selfish. He can't control his orgasm or how long it take him to get hard a 2nd time. Anatomy, out of anyones control.

 

I love sloppy seconds. Enthusiastic oral sex followed by penetrative sex. We always reconnect after playing. That helps...

[Guest]

That’s one of the nice things about going to some type couples or other club. If a guy cums too fast, you can usually find another one.

[mammothBBC 16]

Statistically speaking, it's probably not your wife, it is the guys.

 

According to some studies, sex last an average of 7.3 minutes with 43% of the guys coming in 2 minutes or less, which is borderline premature ejaculation. 5 minutes is just about right in the middle of the bell curve. If she wants guys to last longer, you probably need to do a bit of preselection for that. There are a few of us guys out there that can go 1-3 hours.

 

Just google "average duration of sex" and you'll see a USA today report on it based on medical studies.